Bed Wetting

Has stopped wetting the Bed

 

Comments from Father: “I love that she (mother) goes in each night to give my children positive messages.  I can see improvements within the family dynamic. 

 

My children stopped wetting the bed, and my daughter wakes very happily and will re-settle in the night in her own bed if she wakes.

 

My son is also improving in personal confidence, but still lacking in social confidence.  We will continue.”

 

Accredited Consultant: Anneliese Luz – Vic 2019

 

 

Bed-wetting had completely stopped 

 

5th consultation: Bed-wetting had completely stopped and he was washing and dressing himself happily. 

 

6th consultation: ‘J’ presented with a slight case of over confidence. So once again, after discussions, a change to the process was agreed upon and he is now a well-adjusted, normal six-year-old.

 

Thanks, in my opinion to The Goulding Process – SleepTalk®  

 

Notable  Improvements in Bed wetting

 

In summary there were notable improvements in sleep, bedwetting, eating, self-security, confidence and self-esteem, general well-being, communication, studies, and communication and relationships with parents within 3 months.

 

Both parents remained fully committed to the program throughout the whole 3 months, alternating the evenings that they said the words to their child and used some of the positive wording in the daytime to gain optimal benefits for their child. 

 

2012 Jenny Harris – UK – SleepTalk consultant. 

 

 

Bed Wetting gone

 

“The mother began with The Goulding Process- SleepTalk® on the 16th of September 2013. After a few weeks of the Foundation process the bedwetting was less. After 3 months of The Goulding Process- SleepTalk® every night their daughter was dry at night and during the day – until today.

 

There was no need of any further assistance. Her ability to speak and to count was improving a lot.

 

She was more calm, more relaxed and just improving as a person. The parents are really happy & excited about the process and the big improvements! Even in school the teacher mentioned the improvments. ”

 

Accredited Consultant & Trainer: Nicole Wackernangel – Zurick 2013

 

 

Dry at Night

 

“Had a very positive result, her sleep improved by 90% and so did her ability to remain calm and deal with anger. She is very affectionate with all family members including her sister who previously was scratched and bitten by her daily.

 

She has also become completely toilet trained and dry at night. Speech was also an issue, so after introducing additional ‘specific’ suggestions, the educators commented at her day care:

 

“She has really found her voice and become confident and outgoing”. The parents will continue to use The Goulding Process- SleepTalk® to help her navigate her way through future changes and make good choices.”

 

Accredited Consultant: Olivia Walford – Vic 2018

 

 

Stopped Bed Wetting altogether  

 

A single mum was referred to me by a psychologist and presenting with a very unhappy (9 year old) boy suffering bed wetting, anxiety and also coming from a domestic violent family situation.

 

B had started bedwetting when he was 5 which became worse at the age of 7 when their family separated and his father moved out with his new partner. ‘B’ has two brothers, one older, age 12 (mum describing him as very angry with violent outbursts like his father) and the other younger, age 7 (mum describing him as very withdrawn, quiet and anxious).

 

Neither of the other brothers had bedwetting problems. Mum wanted to specifically start working with her 9 year old child, B, to help address the bedwetting straight away. Mum described the family situation as very toxic, creating difficulty in communicating with the boys’ father.

 

Visitation had been granted for the father to see his boys once a fortnight on the weekend. Mum described ‘B’s father has very aggressive towards ‘B’ but not to the other boys and she felt this was probably due to ‘B’ being most like his mother in mannerism and appearance.

 

Mum described the father as aggressive, violent and intimidating; making it very challenging to get the father involved and participate in the Sleep Talk for Children process (we found another way to work around this).

 

The other challenge was that mum noticed whenever the boys returned from their fathers’ place, they would start acting out and their behaviour was out of control (fights, violent outbursts), which took at least 2 days to return to some kind of normality.

 

Mum also described herself as being extremely anxious and hyper vigilant but felt it more important to work with her boys first and then she would make steps to help herself.

 

We commenced the Goulding Process – SleepTalk® Foundation Phase and within six weeks ‘B’s bedwetting had reduced down significantly by 70% and ‘B’ was demonstrating less levels of anxiety by behaving in a much more relaxed way around people.

 

As we progressed through the Goulding Process- Sleep Talk it wasn’t until it was 2 months down the track that mum had noticed the older boy was starting to show signs of less aggression.

 

At first this didn’t make sense because she was only working with ‘B’, however, apparently the boys bedrooms were all next to each other and the eldest, we will call him ‘A’ had been listening to mum implement the process through his bedroom wall.

 

It wasn’t until a few weeks later on, ‘A’ approached mum and asked mum if he could do the same thing for him as she was doing for 9 year old ‘B’. This encouraged mum, even though she was exhausted, to start the process with ‘A’ the 12 year old and also the youngest, 7 year old boy.

 

As mum progressed through implementing the Goulding Process SleepTalk® process for all boys an incredibly amazing family transformation took place.

 

The end result; ‘B’ 9 year old boy stopped bedwetting altogether!!

 

B became more confident and settled. While mum was extremely impressed with this, it was actually the 12 year old she was over the moon about because she had not expected his behaviour to turn around and change completely at all from aggressive outbursts to confident, happy pre-teen.

 

Her 12 year old ‘A’ started taking pride in himself, his self-esteem and confidence increased and his behaviour flipped over into a calmer and much more mature outlook.

 

Mum described ‘A’ as feeling much better about himself and being the man of their house. His violent outbursts stopped completely and mum watched him change completely on so many levels.

 

The outcome is one of the most amazing ones I have seen in my time as a Goulding Process SleepTalk® practitioner and to see 3 boys plus a mum turn everything around within 3 months is just one short of a miracle in my book!

 

Everyone in the family is happier and calmer within the family home and within themselves. The youngest became more confident and settled and his anxiety levels reduced.

 

While the fathers’ home environment remained quite toxic, we came up with a helpful strategy to continue the SleepTalk® process. Mum recorded her voice so the boys could to listen to her voice while they were at their fathers’ place.

 

Under the current circumstances, the visitation continues to have many challenges and while the boys continued to return from their fathers’ place in a more anxious state to begin with, as time progressed, they were all able to become more self-regulating with their emotions and quickly settled back into mum’s environment without it getting out of hand and at a much more manageable level than ever before.

 

After all of these outstanding changes mum felt ready to have some hypnotherapy for her own anxiety and hypervigilance. Mum’s changes also impacted on the boys in a very positive way.

 

As mum improved throughout her sessions, this also created an even calmer environment for the entire family. Her boys reacted and responded to mum in a calmer settled way again.

 

Most importantly, the boys and mum feel much more stability, safety and confidence within themselves in mums’ home, giving them a nice feeling of security.

 

Nicole Lane – Accredited Goulding Process- SleepTalk® Consultant

 

 

No longer needing Pull-ups at night.

 

“During my first conversation with the mother following her initial visit, she told me how the father had initially been sceptical that the son would be ‘hearing’ them talk whilst he was asleep.

 

To receive proof that the words were being heard he had wanted to slip in the line “daddy is an astronaut” in the hope that it would crop up in conversation, though, luckily, the mother adamantly refused to let him.

 

However, this was not needed, as the very next day, only 3 days into the process, a friend of the mother overheard the son repeating the foundation statement, word for word, when playing on his own! This gave the parents even more confidence in the process and didn’t miss a night.

 

When speaking with the mum at her second visit she was thrilled with the results. She said that he had had fewer aggressive instances and the times when he had lost his temper he was quick to regain control and each outburst was much shorter-lived. His behaviour at school had improved and the mum hadn’t been called in to see the headmaster at all.

 

She said that they had attended a parents evening at school where his new teacher had said to them “the boy I thought was going to walk through those doors never did”!

 

The teacher asked them if anything had changed at home or if they knew why this might be the case, so they mentioned The Goulding Process- SleepTalk® and the teacher was very interested to learn more!

 

One behaviour that had changed, without the mother even realising is that previously to doing The Goulding Process – SleepTalk®, he would wake EVERY night, after about an hour, soaked through with sweat.

 

So the mum would need to change his pyjama top and bed sheet. However, she realised during our second meeting that this had not happened for a long time, which she felt must be a direct result of the process.

 

The area that the parents wished to work on was to get ‘J’ out of night-time pull-ups and therefore being able to stay dry throughout the night.

 

They had one concern, which had been the reason for them not tackling the issue sooner, which was that they only had one toilet in the house, which was downstairs, and at the far end of the house. Because of this they didn’t want him going to the bathroom in the night. Therefore they put a chamber pot in his bedroom.

 

On the 5th night of using the bed wetting suggestion, he used the chamber pot!

 

At our third meeting, 10 weeks after beginning to use this suggestion, the mum informed me that he was out of pull-ups and seemed to alternate between waking up to wee in the chamber pot and going through the entire night without needing a wee.

 

He had had only two accidents, but they had only been small accidents as he had then woken up and got to the chamber pot. ’J’ was no longer needing to wear pull-ups at night. 

 

They chose to carry on with this suggestion, which I inserted between the foundation statements, and they were happy that the pull-ups issue was under control.

 

They felt that his behaviour had improved considerably and felt confident that the foundation statements were addressing this issue.”

 

Accredited Consultant: Rachel Packard – UK – 2016

 

 

First dry night after only 5 days

 

Three areas of need for ‘B’ were identified by Mum – his speech, behavior and toileting (bed wetting).

 

Even though she felt his communication with others, together with his self- confidence, would benefit from improved speech, she explained that as his younger brother had begun to have dry nights and didn’t want to wear night nappies, she believed this was of more importance for ‘B’.

 

Whereas before ‘B’ was not concerned about wearing a night nappy, she felt that now he wanted not to wet his nappy each night. After discussing what the possible reason/s maybe concerning why ‘B’ had bed wetting, eg. medical, fears, authority figure/s, a specific statement was chosen as the support statement.

 

By advising Mum that with Dad’s involvement in giving The Goulding Process- SleepTalk ® to B, not only will it help to accelerate the process, but it will help him with his bed wetting problem. 

 

First dry night! 

 

After only five nights of giving the supporting statement, Mum sms to say that ‘B’ had his first dry night! Mum was so excited for her son, as well ‘B’ also – me too! 

 

Consultant: Jenny Harrison – UK


Childhood Fears

Addressing Childhood Fears

 

Fear of Dogs

 

Mum called feeling very distressed about her daughter, E who had been suffering a real phobia of dogs and also with high levels of social anxiety and separation issues. The teachers at ‘E’s’ primary school had also noted that E had been seen quite often on her own in the playground.

 

Both parents had tried absolutely everything to help their daughter with her phobia of dogs which had got out of hand to the point where they weren’t able to visit anyone who had a dog which wasn’t locked up. In the past both parents had taken ‘E’ to see a child psychologist, a pediatrician, a male hypnotherapist (E didn’t feel comfortable with him) and a GP and nothing had been able to help their daughter up to this point.

 

Feeling fed up and at their wits end with what to do mum told me “You are our last hope, we just don’t know what to do anymore?” The parents started the Goulding Process- Sleep Talk® Foundations Phase  straight away and within a few weeks they already started to notice a marked improvement in ‘E’s level of confidence at being able to be left on her own.

 

Within the next 6 weeks, E was beginning to demonstrate a much higher level of more confidence around dogs, herself and others. There was a very noticeable in E’s response to dogs, when they went to the park and she saw a dog instead of the old reaction to run and scream, E stayed calm and didn’t panic; both parents were amazed by such a quick positive change in behaviour. Previously she would have been petrified and screamed and now she was much calmer.

 

During the 3 months both parents described the results as astounding. Mum said “we have our daughter back and you have changed our entire family’s lives, we can’t thank you enough”. Mum told me they can’t believe after all they have been through just how much this whole processed worked to get their girl and their family such amazing results…

 

The end result, E is now playing happily in the playground at school with friends, E is calm, confident and happy. E no longer suffers separation anxiety and is a happy confident little girl AND E asked her mum and dad if she could have a family pet; A DOG!!!!

 

Nicole Lane – Accredited Goulding Process- SleepTalk® Consultant.

 

Felt like a knot had been undone. 

 

“Parents feedback mum has shared with me that many nights ‘E’ was responding physically to the Goulding Process- SleepTalk® and has often either voiced a sigh or even smiled. 

 

During the day, manifesting what was said during the night, with parts of the suggestions seemed to make a huge difference to her. Mum had forgotten about it, when I called her a week in to check on her, I reminded her and the result became really visible immediately.  ‘E’ is very vocal and loves to talk things through.

 

The Goulding Process- SleepTalk® had a response in her that “felt like a knot had been undone”. Given the opportunity to talk her through her emotions mum found it much easier to parent her.

 

Also dad felt that The Goulding Process- SleepTalk® as a tool, had made him feel a lot more competent as a father because it was so tangible. Both parents also agree that the energy created while doing the process  before they themselves are going to bed, has helped to create an overall better energy in the household.

 

As this case has been a while ago and the family has come back to me for further level 2, I can overall say that it has been a strong tool in their toolbox, helping ‘E’ to grow into challenges she was facing and come out stronger at the other side.

 

Really, as a parent coach I see the value also for the parents who feel more competent with a tangible tool and really supported.”

 

Accredited Consultant – Cornelia Dahinten – Zurich 2014

 

No longer afraid

 

Parent Feedback: “Hello, I have known Mrs. Lahode by my pediatrician. He told me about the Goulding Process – SleepTalk®. Because my first boy was agitated, was afraid of  anyone and for my 2nd he was also shake but on the other hand it was a lot of whim. 

 

So on September 7th, 2016 I went to see Maha and after that I started the Goulding Process SleepTalk® and I can tell you that my children have completely changed in some time they are more calm, the big one is no longer afraid and the little less capricious.

 

A big change. A big thank you to Mrs. Lahode for those words and advice and the Goulding Process- SleepTalk® that really works.”

 

Accredited Consultant and Trainer: Maha Lahode – Genève 2017

 

 

Not frighened anymore of spiders or flies anymore.

 

Feedback received from the parents:  “Our son is doing much better all round, he is not crying so much, not freaking out so much, more confident in his studies as he is top of the class and he wants to go to a specific school.

 

His creativity has improved no end and he is suddenly NOT frightened of spiders and crane flies anymore!  He is also more confident in training other kids in kick-boxing and his overall confidence has improved.

 

He will now go to shops on his own, he went down a huge Zip Wire at Go Ape much to his parents amazement.  However, he is not dealing with anger so well – probably as it has been the summer holidays and he gets irritated with his sister, but we are continuing to work with that issues. ‘E’ is much more affectionate and cuddles all the time.”

 

Consultant: Paola Bagnall – UK 2009

 

Much Calmer

 

“What a session!  Mum was so happy and said that ‘L’ was hugely, hugely better and has not mentioned her anxieties at all. ‘L’ keeps waking up and sits up when mother goes in to her bedroom and says: “what are you doing?”

 

Thus I suggested not doing the touching before the Foundation from now on. Mum has been texting one of the foundation suggestions to both girls since our first session every day . One day she missed doing this and ‘L’ texted her “where is my text?” Mum feels that ‘L’ needs lots of reassurance.

 

I suggested an additional suggestion. Mum also said that children mirror you and she has seen this, now she is calmer having done the Goulding Process – SleepTalk®, ‘L’ is calmer.”

 

Consultant: Paola Bagnall – UK 2009

 

Met some new friends.

 

Parent Feedback: “I love this process, its easy and builds better connections with my boys.

 

My son is now more positive about eating some other things (but still prefers chips). Need more work in this area, but it’s a big improvement.

 

He is feeling like he belongs in his new 4yr old kinder program now and has met some new friends.

 

Have had big improvements with boys wanting to go to dads overnight and they even like his new partner. Overall, very happy with the process.”

 

Accredited Consultant: Anneliese Luz – Vic 2019

 

 

No longer panics when it rains

 

“The end result was very positive in this case as ‘E’ no longer feared storms with the same intensity as she did 4 months ago. She no longer wakes when it rains or start to panic when  grey clouds appear.

 

This means she has become less anxious and her parents are also less anxious knowing everyone will be able to sleep even if it rains!

 

The extra energy she has now that she is no longer anxious has been put to good use with new gymnastics and swimming classes. ’E’ is also beginning to try new foods which previously she rejected by simply smelling them. 

 

The family are keen to use The Goulding Process – SleepTalk in the future when different challenges arise.”

 

Accredited Consultant: Olivia Walford – Vic 2018

 

 

No more grinding teeth. 

 

“The parents reported that ‘A’ had improved in physical ability and her approach to kindergarten.  She is taking more risks and attempting tasks that in the past may have been too overwhelming. 

 

Although still some anxiety but seems to be working in herself to overcome it. It takes a great deal of effort but now she can do it.  She is calmer; some of her fears are no longer a factor and Mum cannot recall her grinding her teeth at all recently. 

 

Mum reports that there has been considerable change in several areas that justifies moving to Level 2.  Fear and Anxiety are still issues for ‘A’ as she is still being affected by her difficulty to cope with change. It is being addressed at Kindergarten, and the parents still have some concerns. 

 

She is sensitive and empathetic and needs to improve her confidence and ability to handle “whatever comes along” and to keep herself calm when she is overwhelmed with nerves.  Specific Suggestion were introduced and the “sandwich” structure explained and to repeat the new suggestion 5 times.

 

Feedback: The new baby arrived a week after our meeting, and Mum said that while it has been a little difficult, they have been doing The Goulding Process- SleepTalk® whenever possible – both siblings. Feedback from this family has been delightful.

 

 ‘A’ has told her mum at kindergarten that she feels “strong and happy today”! I am concluding the case study at this point, but I intend to follow up monthly.”

 

Accredited Consultant: Kim High – Australia 2019 


Behaviour Improvement

Improving Behaviour

 

I have been using the foundation of The Goulding Process – SleepTalk®  with my six year old son for four months now and we have seen fantastic results with his mood and behaviour.

 

He is much happier, calmer and more in control of his emotions. We have just received his latest school report and his teachers have seen a great change in him over the last couple of months.

 

There are still a couple of areas they feel he needs to work on and I wanted some advice on statements I could introduce to help him with this.

 

Thank you
SleepTalk Mum – UK – 2016

 


Asthma

Asthma attacks Diminishing

 

‘L’ is an amazing boy, however his asthma attacks were like monthly and some of them quiet severe ending up in the hospital. All the medication that where used for the attacks made him agitated and sometime the tantrums were huge.

 

“The Goulding Process – SleepTalk® ” was started in November 2014. From the first night he stopped the bed wetting and was few accident occurring every now and then, he start being calmer and calmer with each day it pass and the asthma attacks was diminished a lot.

 

I have been very amazed with the improvement and the process its done by the book by both parents, as well re-enforced the positive talk during the day.

 

Accredited Consultant – Dubai 2015 – Amalia Paraschiv

 

 


Temper Tantrums

Real Turn Around with Temper Tantrums

The Goulding Process – SleepTalk®  has been given me amazing responses and I keep on helping mothers around the globe!

 

The change in ‘L’ has been seen in his behavior 360 degree and not only, the health related issues has been improved a lot and I can tell you that I am very very pleased and feel accomplished.

 

Thanks million for everything you thought me, happy to meet and learn from you in person, you are such an inspiration!!!

 

Accredited SleepTalk® Consultant – Dubai 2015 – Amalia Paraschiv

 

More Affectionate

Parent Feedback: “Father commented that the Goulding Process- SleepTalk® has become a nightly routine for the family.  Even when the Father is lazy at times or forgot,  the wife will remind him to do it.

 

They had only missed one night ever since starting the SleepTalk® process.  I questioned why the wife is not doing it and he said that both are committed but she has more household chores to do so he will share out the load.

 

Recently the parents had a gathering with their friends and it surprised the parents that ‘S’ made friends with them easily and even willing to hold hands with them to go for a walk.

 

In addition, nowadays when parents try to wake him up, he is happier to wake up and sometimes even able to wake up on his own in the mornings.   The Father commented that his son really is waking up ‘Bright and Happy’. 

 

‘S’ is able to express his emotions better and the Father felt that his son has grown up a lot during these 3 months.   Previously whenever S did something wrong,  he would said ‘sorry’ when told to say so without much feelings and understanding that he really did something wrong.

 

The Father commented that recently he would give random kisses and hugs to the parents, showing his affection more openly to his parents, which was a pleasant surprise to his parents. ‘S’ is less possessive of his Mother even though there are some changes in the care arrangement such as Mother has resumed full-time working. ‘S’ maintains a positive mood when it is time for him to go to school and Mother has to go to work.

 

Conclusion: My learning from this case experience is that this wonderful Goulding Process- SleepTalk®  has benefitted parents by teaching them about positive parenting.   The parents recognized it as taking care of the ‘now’ for the sake of their child’s future and it is good to start at an early age.”

Accredited Consultant: Tan May Chin: – Singapore 2016 

 

Tantrums Much Less Frequent

“A young boy whose mother had committed suicide 5 months ago was having various challenges in his life. He stopped playing with other children and didn’t go outside unless his dad made him.

 

He was unable to sleep in his own bed and generally was in a difficult place. He expressed lots of anger and had tantrums on a daily basis. His relationship with his father was strained as his mother and father had separated a year before she took her life and dad was not living at home.

 

Within weeks of starting the Goulding Process – SleepTalk® there were significant changes already visible. ‘H’ started to play with other children again.

 

He started to go outside and enjoy playing in the yard, his relationship with his father changed almost completely – he started to show affection like never before and within a month was sleeping in his own bed.

 

He still has tantrums – though much less frequently – this will be something we focus on as we move forward with The Goulding Process- SleepTalk®.”

Consultant: Philip Donegan – Ireland 2009

 

Now a Normal Happy Child

“Initially ‘J’ was just having problems at day care. When the parents came to see me to learn The Goulding Process – SleepTalk® they had just moved her to a new school. It had been suggested to the parents that they should take her to see a child psychologist, which they did and were then told that she ‘might’ be on the autistic spectrum.

 

At that time she was having significant challenges with anger and having uncontrollable tantrums. Mom and dad felt helpless and fearful that there might be something really wrong and were waiting on an appointment with an occupational therapist. While with the psychologist ‘J’ diagnosis was given to the parents while she was in the room!

 

Within the first two weeks of starting The Goulding Proces SleepTalk® there was significant abreaction, the parents recall it definitely got worse before it got better. But this just lasted a few days.

 

Something that we noticed happened with ‘J’ each time we introduced ‘any’ new suggestion to the process. And although we noticed feedback in the form of increased affection – especially with Mom and overall being happier we decided to continue the foundation process for almost two months before we moved to a primary area of need. 

 

By the time we moved to the first primary area of need ‘J’ was already generally calmer and having less frequent tantrums. Her parents have done a wonderful job of being consistent and continuing the process, something that I have found to be one of the biggest challenges with parents after the first two months.

 

In the last year I have seen the parents six times and each time we add to or adjust our suggestions to help with a variety of issues. Today the parents, who have just had another child report that they feel if they had not found The Goulding Process -SleepTalk® their daughter would not be the normal, happy child she is today.”

Consultant: Philip Donegan – Ireland 2009

 

 

Lessening of Temper Tantrums 

“The mother by this point had been very satisfied with the progress of her child and the second phase of suggestions were given to her that included feeling loved, safe, and calm.

 

The mother continues to report improvements in her son’s behaviour including lessened intensity of squabbles with the granddad, although she believes that is mostly the grandfather’s fault.

 

She was advised to have her parents join in on the Goulding Process to accelerate results as well as possibly allow the relationship between CS1 and his grandfather to evolve”

Professional Intern: NS – UAE

 

Improvements increased Weekly

“ The Goulding Process- SleepTalk® was recommended and explained thoroughly and the need to do it to all kids where the mother can approach the teenagers from a bit of a distance or the door step because of his age. 

 

After 12 weeks of offering the Phase 1  Foundation stage It was strictly followed everyday by the mother and she recorded the voice of the father as he used to travel a lot. 

 

Mum started reporting changes every week. First they were smaller changes where the tantrums took just a little bit less time and the improvements increased weekly.

 

Mum became so motivated with the process and the obvious changes for the whole 12 weeks.! Her son’s tantrums times and length kept getting shorter and more manageable. He was able to control his nerves and even started thinking positively and looking at the good side in situations. 

 

He became more confident and not venerable to simple situations where he became so flexible and secure within. He was also able to speak up for himself and report situations where he needed to explain himself and his reactions and he was convincing and never lied. 

 

His teachers started reporting significant changes and by the end of the year he was given an award for best behaviour in school which left the mother thrilled.! 

 

The relationship with siblings softened gradually and now they are more understanding and tolerant to each other. Mother reported that he is even more empathetic with his older brother and sister.! 

 

The siblings relationship became much stronger as the communication between them got stronger and they were able to talk, set rules and follow them through and she is enjoying him outside everywhere even in the mall which used to be a great challenge!  

 

Mum also reported that he doesn’t like to spend more time alone than he used to do before!  Harmony was restored to the whole home and she felt much happier and reported that she felt her life has changed.

Consultant: NT – UAE 2017

 


Separation Anxiety

Feels happy & Normal

OMG… myself and my partner really thought our world was crumbling all around us with our daughter ‘A’ ( aged 10) . She has severe separation anxiety so bad that she would not even go into the toilet to brush her teeth unless her mum was right next to her, she would turn into someone completely different at the thought of getting left at school for even 10 mins with her mum just two min away.

 

We have been seeing a child psychologist at a cost of £100 per hour but 5 weeks into treatment we are still no further forward.

 

I was at a lost cause and thought all our life’s were ruined and didn’t hold much hope and certainly wasn’t enjoying life as it was a constant battle trying to do the right thing, the easy thing was to always be at ‘A’ side but that was an easy way out ….anyway I stumbled across the Goulding Process- SleepTalk® online.

 

Seven days into it on Tuesday morning ‘A’ got up for school with no crying and off to school we went, now ‘A’ knew we were leaving her at school for 45 mins that morning and we really were not looking forward to it, but everything seemed to go really well, in fact we even left for another hour in the afternoon and it’s been the same today so two great days in a row.

 

I asked ‘A’ what was different about how she felt today and she said ” I feel happy and normal ” which as you can imagine was music to our ears.

 

I can only put it down to the foundation process so I wanted to thank you so so much for giving us our daughter back. There is still some work to be done as she still won’t go to the Park herself or sleep herself but I believe there is help that I can get from a consultant for certain things we would like for our daughter is that correct??

 

Again thank you so much x.      SleepTalk® Parent Qld

 

The Process has been powerful

 

Feedback received from the parents: “They started the Goulding Process – SleepTalk® as they were separating. Dad says he really felt he made a connection with his children at first when he was vigilant with the process. 

 

He is no longer doing SleepTalk® as he is struggling with the changes resulting from the separation. After our discussion, he says he will return to the foundation statement, knowing that it can make a difference. He is feeling that their behaviour is changing daily due to the separation, sometimes for the better, sometimes worse.

 

I have reframed his belief suggesting this is an even more significant reason to provide the secure and routine practice of The Goulding Process – SleepTalk®. Mum has been committed and consistent and has seen some great results. Her mother’s day card from her daughter read “When I am with you I feel loveable”. 

 

Conclusion: The process has been very powerful in this family. The trauma from the past and the current changes to the family unit makes the Goulding Process SleepTalk®  ideal, bringing the parents together in some respects. I will continue to work with the family.”

 

Accredited Consultant: Kim High – Australia 2019 

 

Gratefull for the Gift.

“Mum is rapt with this whole process.  She is more than happy to continue and as other issues arise, implement further statements.

 

I feel so blessed to have had the opportunity to work with these parents.  Both are extremely honest and grounded people and they are so impressed with the Goulding Process- SleepTalk®  and have no hesitation what so ever recommending it to others, and for them to keep it up for many years to come.  

 

They are very grateful for this “gift” for their son and can see the benefits right in front of their eyes.  The only question they have is: “why doesn’t every parent do this?”!

Consultant: NO – 2011

 

Less Intense &  Clingy 

“The mother by this point had been very satisfied with the progress of her child and the second phase of suggestions were given to her that included feeling loved, safe, and calm. 

 

The mother continues to report improvements in her son’s behaviour including lessened intensity of squabbles with the granddad, although she believes that is mostly the grandfather’s fault.

 

She was advised to have her parents join in on the Goulding Process to accelerate results as well as possibly allow the relationship between CS1 and his grandfather to evolve”

 

Professional Intern: NS – UAE       


Autism – High Functioning

Autism

 

Did another Phase 2 Assessment with a mum today – her son is 10yrs old turning 11 later this year so he’s not young per say and has a diagnosis of High Functioning Autism. And the change in him with the Foundation Statement has been phenomenal; I actually had a lump in my throat as Mum was describing the fact that she now has her family back and her boy.

 

He also sits bolt upright during the process, eyes wide open and says “I know you love me!” every night, then lays down and continues sleeping.

 

The School have noted that from a boy who was angry, withdrawn and unable to cope with aspects of school i.e. Assembly and gym – He was given an award for his progress, giving a talk to his Class, taking part in gym, joining his class at Assembly… it just goes on…

 

Jane Clark – Intern – UK – 2014

 

“His anxiety levels have reduced”

 

“J’ overall energy has increased. He is more vibrant in mornings and wants to come and spend time with me. He is more receptive and calmer. His anxiety levels have reduced and environment at home is also much better.

 

Mother ‘S’ has said: ‘J’ agitation and aggression is so much lesser. He makes more of an effort to talk and started using words which he didn’t earlier. Also he is very well tuned to his environment now.

 

He has also grasped the ability to work independently. When she went for a psychologist check-up she was told he doesn’t have Autism but now is on Asperger’s spectrum as he was getting better and better.” 

 

Aneesha Sethi: Accredited Consultant – India 2018

 

 

Much more Peaceful

 

“My 10 year old son has Autism and he is highly anxious. You have helped us with a program to provide my son with an internal peace and strength to cope with life’s daily stresses.  

 

For kids with Autism, these typical stresses are magnified and almost unbearable over many contexts. We began with a child who was constantly afraid, fragile, and often violent and in a flight/fight mode. 

 

As the Goulding Process – SleepTalk® program has progressed months later, we have a child whom is content, will in to adapt, more self-confidence, more self-secure and, most importantly, happy.  I would highly recommend this program as it has benefited the entire family. We are all in a good place! Thank you.” 

 

Accredited Consultant – GT – Qld 2018 

 

 

Less Fighting, Less stress

 

“ The parent indicated that ‘S’ responded well to The Goulding Process – SleepTalk®. Mom was doing the Foundation consistently every night; dad was not willing to participate in the process.

 

Within 4 weeks, mom noticed a decrease in the frequency, severity, and duration of ‘S’ outbursts.  Bedtimes becoming easier, Mom was feeling less stressed and there was less fighting between the girls

 

Accredited Consultant. KP – Canada 2015

 

 

Amazing for  Special Needs. 

 

Feedback: “My learning from this case experience is that The Goulding Process – SleepTalk® is so amazing and beneficial for children with special needs.

 

This nightly process can help an autistic child build up his compassion and self-discipline.  It also changes the parents’ expectations and attitude towards their children, leading to more positive parenting.”   

 

Accredited Consultant: Tan May Chin: – Singapore 2016 

 

 

Many Improvements

 

Parent feedback: “The Mother was overall satisfied with the The Goulding Process – SleepTalk®  seeing many improvements in her daughter over the past 3 months.

 

Most significant was her daughter able to express her love to the Mother verbally.  ‘Z’ will also spontaneously hug her Mother and this makes the Mother extremely happy and has improved in her physical ability.  The Mother said ‘Z’ is basically a gentle girl and her level of confidence has definitely improved. 

 

‘Z’ has also improved in her level of concentration as reported by the teachers and ‘Z’ has demonstrated more confidence when striking a conversation with adults and peers.  She is more cooperative and flexible now even if it is not the usual routine for some days and her ability to deal with issues is much better.

 

The Mother commented that she was glad that Z has the ability to express ‘No’ to situations that she doesn’t want to be part of  (as opposed to previously compliant character).  

 

The parents have noted about her changes in dealing with her stress systems and sensory overload.  She managed to remain calm when another autistic child suddenly hit her unexpectedly.

 

‘Z’ was also able to verbalise her thoughts to her parents that she had enough and would like to go back home instead of having a meltdown. Overall, the process was carried out consistently every night except for missing a few nights when ‘Z’ was staying at grandparent’s house.

 

Conclusion: My learning from this case experience is that The Goulding Process- SleepTalk® only takes a few minutes nightly to help the special needs child develop emotional resilience to cope with the outside world.

 

It amazed me to see an autistic child to have the confidence to say “No” and with good understanding of why she wants to say that.”

 

Accredited Consultant: Tan May Chin: – Singapore 2016 

 

 


Nail Biting

 

Much Brighter in the mornings

 

My First Case study mum has said that her daughter has stopped biting her fingers and nails and she had to actually clip them a few days ago, she is now much brighter in the mornings, is much more loving to all her family and especially to her sister.

 

She even heard her tell her little sister “you are loveable” a few days ago!

 

Case studies 2 & 3 are now underway with a 14month old and a 5 year old boy whom his parents had jokingly nicknamed “The Beast”. the influence of language was one of the first things that I explained to his mum. They are going to stop calling him this forthwith!

 

Sonia Richards – Professional Intern – UK – 2014


Dyspraxia

Improvements with Speech and Affection

Working with one case and the family are sooooo pleased. Their little boy had gone to sleep and after they said their words he vocalized “thank you” and went back to a deep sleep state.

They were so happy since he has dyspraxia! He can say a few words now with speech therapy 3 X a week and they have also noticed he hugs them more. Did not do that before. Have been working with them about a month.

Barbara Decker, HBCE,HBFC, CD(DONA)CLD(CAPPA)  Cert.Prenatal Bonding (BA) (GPE)Facilitator


The Bullying Has Stopped

The Bullying has Stopped.

 

Considering the changes in our lives in the past 6 months, and the worry and stress that has come with this, our son had coped amazing well and I truly believe the Goulding Process -SleepTalk®  had allowed him to do this.

 

His confidence has soared and most importantly the bullying has completely stopped. The family as a whole are more united.

 

This is the best result we could have hoped for. The process has also helped my husband and I to work as a team with our son and there is more communication, understanding and general harmony in the family unit.

 

SleepTalk® Accredited Consultant/Mum – Shirley Kay – UK 2004


Parents’ Feedback

I have just done the second session of the Goulding Process – SleepTalk® with this family and at the end of the session the mum said this to me which I thought was lovely!

 

“Doing the Goulding Process – SleepTalk®  is good for parents too because I feel calmer, more flexible, more understanding and compassionate with my children.

 

It also makes me feel less guilty when I get cross because the the Goulding Process – SleepTalk®  gives me time with my children of pure love and so it must make a difference to them.”

 

Paola Bagnall – Consultant (Intern) UK 2014


Homework Issues

Just an update!

 

I was messaging with mom and she can’t believe what a difference she’s seeing, she’s almost wondering if it’s for real! here is what she said “He actually woke up and started getting ready for school… I swear to GOD that child has never woke up in the morning… and has gotten ready for school in his 15 little years of life.

 

I swear normally I have to yell at him 10 times before he wakes up and he moves like a turtle… I don’t know if it’s the The Goulding Process – SleepTalk or what…” and then “and when I got home from work last night he was sitting at the kitchen table doing HOMEWORK and that is rare

 

He even showed me his Math work and when I walked in I was a bit stressed and I looked at him and it clicked and ‘S’ [her daughter 18 yrs. old] comes running in saying geez you haven’t done that since the 3rd grade… it was just so weird!!”

 

NEEDLESS TO SAY WE ARE BOTH VERY HAPPY AND OPTIMISTIC!!

 

 SleepTalk® (Intern) Consultant Dana US – 2014


ADHD Boy with a list of issues

 Now marked improvement

 

Hi Joane, just wanted to share a lovely outcome from a family with a boy whose intake information included: Headaches, Anxiety, Food Issues, ADD/ADHD, Nightmares, Lacking in Confidence, Sibling Rivalry.

 

He was playing truant, and has been under the paediatrician and prescribed Ritalin. Mother’s reason for visit: to get ‘J’ back to School, normal and happy.

 

I have just had the 8 week meeting with the mother.We went through the intake sheet.

  • Jack has had no headaches since the start of The Goulding Process – SleepTalk®  16.06.14
  • Jack has had no nightmares since the start of the Program.

 

Second assessment: showed marked improvements in all categories, with the most evident being segments of his Home, Behaviour, Academic and some areas of Emotion.  He has won 5 awards and when we compared the 1st Assessment to the 2nd Assessment the marked improvements were evident.

 

Thought Joane you might like to know that these parents were on the verge of a break-up. Their relationship is back on track and the family are happier all round. Mum said she only missed two nights since the start of the programme.  She is so grateful.

 

SleepTalk® Accredited Consultant

 Marilyn Colvin Boon – Queensland – 2014


Child Was Constantly Struggling

 

I will be forever grateful for your amazing technique; you cannot believe how tough it has been for our daughter and ourselves over the last 4 years.

 

We have shed many tears along with my daughter, she is now like a different child and so many people (teachers and principal) are amazed at the transformation.

 

Warm regards, Diane Newton

 

Separation Anxiety 

 

I wanted to let you know how ecstatic we are with the results from using the Goulding Process – SleepTalk®  technique on our daughter ‘I’.

 

As you know ‘I’ has struggled severely with separation anxiety since her days at kinder, she is now 9 years old.  She has struggled with school drop off’s since Prep and she is now in Year 3.

 

Last year it was recommended that we see a child Psychologist which we did for the whole year. There were minor improvements but it didn’t take much for her to regress to her old ways of crying and feeling sad.

 

Things like her teacher or best friend being away or returning to school after school holidays would all see ‘I’ in a terrible state.  It has been so bad at times over the last 4 years that I have seriously considering home schooling her but I knew ultimately that that wouldn’t help her in the long term.

 

We know that there have been no issues at school, she has had wonderfully supportive teachers and friends but it was never enough.

 

I am so thankful that we came and saw you earlier this year and you suggested we do the The Goulding Process – SleepTalk® .

 

It sounded too good to be true but we were desperate to help our child as it is heartbreaking to see your child constantly struggle to the point of being hysterical at school.

 

It has been a good 3 months using your technique and we are amazed.  ‘I’ is happy in the morning, gives me a kiss and walks into her class and starts chatting with her friends, wow!

 

She talks about school and her friends all the time and just seems very content and settled.  I asked her recently why she thought she was doing so well at school drop off and she said she didn’t know, she just felt different.

 

Thank you from the bottom of my heart Rosanna, you have changed our lives forever. Diane and family
 

Accredited Consultant – Rosanna Mosca – Vic – 2014


Behaviour

 

Behaviour

 

In the first two months the main thing that I have realised was that I loved them even more.

 

I would never thought that was possible because I loved them so much anyway. But now I started to see them through different eyes.

 

I watched them to sleep and I forgave them all of their mischiefs and laziness.

 

I started to accept their flows! So those words did influenced – at least me. (Sorry for the English)

 

SleepTalk® Accredited Consultant – Gerely (Nicolas) Miklós – Hungary – 2014

 

Observing Positive Behaviour. 

 

“Parents feedback has been good so far and positive behavioural changes have been observed, specifically changes in social behaviour and social interactions. Younger brother may unconsciously feel left out from not receiving the process. 

 

Will follow-up with mother about starting the process with younger brother.

 

Accredited Consultant: Kar yen Chai – Singapore 2018

 

 

Co-operation and Behaviour.

 

“The mother was amazed at the instant response from the first night of using the The Goulding Process – SleepTalk® Foundation Script. Her feedback comments revealed: ‘L’ had stopped moaning about foods, doesn’t argue about reading & is better at going to school.

 

He is up by 7am every day, way more co-operative (we have only had one argument). Has had a full night’s sleep (he was being awakened by growing pains) and his attitude has changed, he is happier and is not yelling any more.  

 

He is now a cute little boy.  ‘L’ is doing his reading with no whining and not trying to run everyone’s lives. He is not so much the boss, he tries to help rather than be the boss. He now handles it well when his younger cousin steals his toys. ‘L’ used to scream going down the hallway [fear] now he is ok with it and even closes his own door.

 

Parents Comments – Mum wrote: “Thank you so much. ‘L’ has changed so much. His reading and writing is getting a lot better. He is sleeping well but still seems very tired. this is natural as he has just really started school.” 

 

“The parent is happy to continue with the Foundation statement and feels there is no real area of a Primary Area of Need at this time.  We will continue for another three months and monitor ‘L’ progress and should an issue pop up we will look at a suitable script. 

 

His ‘Physical’ improvement is 90%, ‘Academic’ shows an 80-85% improvement, his ‘Behaviour’ is a marked excellent and mum gives it a 100% improvement.

 

His ‘Emotional’ assessment has an 85% improvement noted and ‘Home’ they feel there is an overall improvement of 95 %  which has been achieved in this short time frame, and mum is amazed and so very happy that she came to the SleepTalk® Programme.

 

Accredited Consultant: Mary Tonner – NZ 2013

 

Behaviour.

 

“Despite not completing all areas of this case study, I do believe ‘C’ made progress. Within two weeks of commencing The Goulding Process- SleepTalk® ‘C’ behaviour had improved a greatly.  

 

A month in, novel situations or change of routine still made ‘C’ anxious but Mum felt there had been improvements overall and she was recovering more quickly. By three months ‘C’ was still experiencing anxiety but was able to communicate it better and overcome it quickly. 

 

So ‘C’ was still reacting to moments that created anxiety for her but not as strongly and her recovery time had been shortened. She was also able to articulate to her parents what was upsetting her. A much less reactive child than when we started the Goulding Process SleepTalk®.” 

Accredited Consultant: Marian Daish – Victoria 2017

 

Behaviour and Speech. 

 

“To finish, I just wanted to share with you the letter of feedback I received from Mum towards the end of the The Goulding Process- SleepTalk®. She goes on to say: “ What can I say, thank you, thank you, thank you – for giving me back my sweet little boy. His behaviour has done a complete turnaround. 

 

He has gone from being the trouble maker at school to telling the trouble makers how to be good and looking out for the kids who are getting led astray and getting them to go play somewhere else. Last term of school he has been coming home happy instead of teary and emotional.

 

He always wants to help me eg: Bringing shopping in from the car, clear the dishes from the table etc… He is controlling his anger. He will say to me: “I feel angry mum and I want to have a play by myself”, or “I don’t feel like talking”; therefore we don’t have too many angry days anymore. 

 

He will walk up to me at any time and give me a cuddle and a kiss and walk away and continue on with what he is doing. He is now always prepared to try something he hasn’t done before (this time last year he would not even try). 

 

His confidence has improved 100%. His speech and communication has also improved. He hardly stutters anymore, that was a nervous habit. He still has some trouble with crowds and noise. Places like shopping centres, but he tells me now when we are out. He will say something like: “It is getting too noisy. I want to go home”. Overall he is a happy and confident little boy.”

 

Accredited Consultant: 2010 Marina Fick  – Victoria 2010

 

Behaviour. 

 

“Parents feedback has been good so far and positive behavioural changes have been observed, specifically changes in social behaviour and social interactions.

 

Younger brother may unconsciously feel left out from not receiving the process. Will follow-up with mother about starting the process with younger brother.

 

Accredited Consultant: Karyen Chai – Singapore 2018


I have changed!

We have lots of things to tell.

 

The Goulding Process- SleepTalk works very well with my girls! The first born ‘M’ after the first day reacted like that: I picked her up in school; she jumped into the car and said: “it’s a happy day Mom”. She is 13 – very well balanced. SleepTalk is so good for a teenager, like her.

 

With my 2nd daughter ‘L’, she reacts not so quick. She is 10, and she is still angry in the morning, but I can tolerate her behaviour better.

 

The thing – I have changed! This two minutes every night, makes me more patient, calm and loving mother:

 

SleepTalk® Consultant Intern – Marian – Hungary – 2014


Two Nights- No Bedwetting

I heard about The Goulding Process – SleepTalk® from a naturopath called Alessandra Edwards in Melbourne. She recommended it as my 5 yr old has started wetting the bed. I’m 6 weeks pregnant so she felt it could be linked to that and recommended I try the Goulding Process – SleepTalk.

 

I’ve been telling him how much we all love him for the last two nights and we’ve had no accidents. I’m interested to read the book and keep going with it.

 

Cheers, Keelie

 

SleepTalk Mum – Victoria – Feb 2014


Anger

Something truly amazing and magical happened,

 

one day my younger son, ‘D’  just came up to me smiled and said “D….. Loves You”.I was so surprised as he has never said that before.

 

He used to be always angry but The Goulding Process – SleepTalk has completely changed him. I get to see his beautiful smile very often now. I just wanted to hear it those words again and again so I told him to repeat what he said and he smiled and said again D……Loves You”

 

I just want to say Thank you so very much to you and Karen for “waking me up” to correct what I had not done before, which is to give Unconditional Love to my children.  Have a wonderful weekend. Best regards.

 

SleepTalk®  Consultant Intern – Shanti. Singapore – 2014

 

Anger.

 

The end result: the 7 years old child is calmer and more balanced. He rarely wet his bed a night and sleeps through the night.  When he looses it now, he doesn’t wet himself anymore, only shouts out angrily and that’s it.

 

During the past 3 months, the mother has been persistently using the instructions she has received. I observed that all the children as well as the mom are more relaxed, and the family atmosphere is more harmonious and relaxed.

 

Accredited Consultant: Molnárné Kecskés Mónika Hungary – 2019

 

Anger

 

“Had a very positive result, her sleep improved by 90% and so did her ability to remain calm and deal with anger. She is very affectionate with all family members including her sister who previously was scratched and bitten by her daily.

 

 She has also become completely toilet trained and dry at night. Speech was also an issue, so after introducing additional ‘specific’ suggestions, the educators commented at her day care: “She has really found her voice and become confident and outgoing”.

 

The parents will continue to use the Goulding Process-  SleepTalk® to help her navigate her way through future changes and make good choices.”

 

Accredited Consultant: Olivia Walford – Vic 2018

 

Anger 

 

“Two weeks later at a follow up appointment, the complaints of the parents had totally transformed. New problems came up such as poor and rushed handwriting, being quite annoying when he wants things (especially if his friends have them, poor response to peer pressure), did not share willingly and was bossy. 

 

His nail biting had further improved and his anger issues had begun to subside, and he had also begun to recall his classwork more easily. By this point he had been started on medication.

 

The father added in that his son overestimates his abilities and was afraid he was being smug, proud or hubris. He would take out his frustrations on his little sister by pushing her around, especially if his parents were not around to guide him, but could be calmed if sent to his room. 

 

A month later, at the final follow up after the foundation process the symptoms checklist once again looked remarkably different. The parents came in reporting absolutely nothing as less than good. 

 

His anger and anxiety issues had reportedly disappeared, and his parents reported 55% improvement in socially acceptable behaviour, 85% improvement in nail biting, and 70% improvement in stress levels reflected on parents.”

 

Professional Intern: NS – UAE

 

Argumentative.

 

Mother notices that he tends to wake up with smiley face and more calm. She also notices that her sleep quality is getting better and his energy level is improving.

 

Not only this, he also becomes more responsive and tends to be more loving toward his sibling. He is more easier to accept suggestion and less argument with mother. 

 

Accredited Consultant – Hiro Koo Kian Yong – Malaysia 2018

 

 


Behaviour

Negative until Proof

I had a mother, she was really negative…she thought that it will not work. I was kind of frustrated. I encouraged her over and over again.

She wanted to give up….she was so focused on the negative…I was phoning with her several times….and she was writing me negative emails where she told me what I was doing wrong….yesterday we came together for a second appointment.

With the papers you gave us – the ‘Where does my child stand now’ questionnaire I was sure, there was a change…at the end of this appointment she was so happy, she had proof that there was some improvement!!!

She could see it on the paper…! And I was excited that this person, that was so negative….had the proof…. Now she wants to go on with the process

SleepTalk® Accredited Consultant Nicole Wackernagel-Holzer – Switzerland 2014


Sleeping Issues

Sleeping Issues

 

I should also mention that this client has been having sleep issues with her children which are the primary reasons for seeking to use The Goulding ProcessSleepTalk.

 

She said that after almost 2 months of the foundation process (yes it took that long for her daughter), she overheard her telling her brother “Alfred, since I’m a big girl now and am learning to sleep on my own, would you like me to show you how to do it?”  The mum is chuffed as this was just through the foundation script!

 

A Goulding Process- SleepTalk® Accredited Consultant – Mary Lynch – NSW – 2014

 

Sleeping Challenges.

 

“Mum advised that she has been keeping up with the The  Goulding Process – SleepTalk® Foundation statement still and that K has been sleeping right through the night again. 

 

I discussed with K how at times a child may begin to regress due to their subconscious negative belief challenging the new positive statements that are coming through or that K may need longer with the foundation script to really cement it in.  

 

Mum and I had a discussion regarding whether we should be focusing more on K’s sleeping habits than food at the moment, mum agreed that his sleeping is more of an issue than the eating of the vegetables.  So I advised her that we will focus on the sleeping issues first and then the eating of his vegetables.”

 

Consultant: NO – 2011

 

 Bladder Control – Sleeping.

 

Feedback Details: “Piddling randomly stopped. Mother gave The Goulding Process -SleepTalk® credit because there were no other logical reasons. More cooperative and sleeping through the night.  

 

Specific suggestions given incorporated understanding of the The Goulding Process – SleepTalk benefits during the daytime conversation. Awareness of our verbalization around children and choices of communication in family setting was also discussed. 

 

Mother was surprised to find out and experienced very quick results with her little girl who miraculously regained her bladder control (within a blink of an eye, mother’s comment). The mother wanted to continue with the Goulding Process – SleepTalk®.  

 

Accredited Consultant: Phyllis Fisher – USA 2015

 

Sleeping Issues: “It was stressful for the entire house.”

 

“Mom SB sent me a testimonial:  My 5 year old would not sleep well through the night. It was stressful for the entire house. Then I came across Aneesha who told me how I could use The Goulding Process- SleepTalk®

 

Once I started there was no looking back. It’s not only helped my child sleep better but he wakes up fresher. I’m thankful to this process  and I totally believe in it.

 

Feedback = positive!”

Aneesha Sethi:  Accredited Consultant – India  2018 

 

 

 Sleep Issues.

 

“ Mum sent me an email update saying that all three children were now falling asleep in their own beds, and that they didn’t need their parents sitting in their bedrooms whilst they fell asleep”.

 

Accredited Consultant – Georgina Broendal – Denmark 2018

 

 Sleeping and Eating Issues.

 

The End Results:  “Both concerns of sleeping habits and eating habits were improved and mum is happy with the results.  In addition, she has also learnt new parenting skills to encourage and engage her child in a different way, which is the reason for her initial visit. 

 

Conclusion: I have reinforced to mum that The Goulding Process – SleepTalk® is not only about doing the process.  But there is one important condition which binds the whole SleepTalk® together and that is unconditional love from parents and the child’s ability to feel this unconditional love from parents.

 

SleepTalk® is a “Gift” which last a lifetime.  Whatever that she has done during the foundation stage stays in the mind of her little one.”

 

Accredited Consultant: Kilyn Liong – Singapore 2018

 


Handwriting improvement

Consultant feedback:

 

I just got a lovely feedback from one of the ladies who attended a presentation I gave a few months ago.

 

She applied the 5 magic sentences and as a result, her child had been much calmer and also, started to hand write much better, “very beautiful”.

 

Another sweet effect of the Goulding Process – SleepTalk!

 

SleepTalk® Accredited Consultant – Eugen Popa – Romania 2014


Sleeping & Confidence

Sleeping & Confidence

 

With my 7 year old daughter, we had issues with her anger, insecurity and with her coming into our bed in the middle of the night, which was causing tension within the family, as we could not find a productive method that worked and prevented all this.

 

The first night I did The Goulding Process- SleepTalk with her, she slept all night in her own bed – the first time in years! I was shocked, she herself was surprised and very proud of herself!

 

I have witnessed a calmness about her, a confidence, a positivity, an independence and security since I have implemented the foundation statement.

 

Over summer I got out of habit and routine of doing it. Then I slowly saw old habits creeping back in – she was getting back into my bed again at night-time, she was getting angry easily, etc … so I started  The Goulding Process- SleepTalk again and things resolved themselves.

 

She is asleep when I do The SleepTalk® protocol, but she sometime says to me as she goes to bed, “Please mummy, can you stroke my head and say those words to me again when I’m sleeping?”

This surprises me, as she is asleep, so not quite sure how she knows? So I say to her, “Do you remember what i say?” … her reply, “No, but it makes me happy”!

 

My son is 11 years old. He has severe special needs. He can’t talk. He is a very happy, calm child, who cannot verbally give me feedback about life, so I have no real proof if it is working for him or not … BUT when I do The Goulding Process- SleepTalk – again he is asleep, but every time I say THE script he suddenly smiles whilst asleep … that says it all to me!

 

I feel I am giving him a little bit of security and reinforcement of what he already knows every time I do it!

 

As a mum, it has had personal benefits, as I love doing it … it has given me a few minutes every night, that feels a beautiful, peaceful, special, magical bonding time with my children – it really feels like pure unconditional love.

 

 

I have witnessed some beautiful positive changes in my children, which I believe is from this method, but who knows if this is just coincidence and if it really works or not?

 

I personally really do think it is working for my family and will continue with it, as in my opinion  …  it only takes 2 minutes of your time in an evening and it cannot do any harm, as everything that is said is positive and loving.

 

There is no negativity, nothing intrusive or implying anything apart from making your child know that they are loved, secure and safe. Surely, that is the most important gift any parent can give their child?

 

My daughter is called ‘T’, she is about to turn 8 years old and my son is called ‘R’, he is 11 years old (he has special needs – a rare chromosome condition called, ‘1q44 deletion denovo syndrome’ – which means he has seizure, gross & fine motor issues, non verbal, still in nappies, sensory integration dysfunction, etc, etc …)

 

Beryl Comar – Accredited Training – Parent Feedback – DW – Dubai – 2014

 

Confidence. 

 

From a mother’s perspective, I found the Goulding Process- SleepTalk™ process a beautiful one. It gives me the opportunity to reflect daily on what matters most; unconditional love. 

 

Over the months, I found myself much more accepting of ‘H’s imperfections. In the past I was very anxious about his lack of desire to help others or lack of interest in social activities. Today, I see him positively challenging himself to experience and adapt to new situations.

 

I now feel secure watching him move forward into the next chapter of his life. This experience has certainly made me more confident in sharing the Goulding Process- SleepTalk™ process with others. Thank you Joane for bringing light into so many families! 

 

Parents Feedback: Hasnah Bte A. Rahman – Accredited Consultant and Trainer. Singapore 2017  

 

Confidence.

 

Feedback received from the parent:  “Mother says that she is happy with the changes that have happened so far in ‘L’.  Both parents are committed to continue the Goulding Process, and use the foundation statement for a further month when we will check in again. 

 

In a months’ time I will be looking for further changes in ‘L’ acceptance of others and improvements to her sibling sense of security in the family. This case study is not yet concluded, the family may still need the specific suggestions and we will consider adding them at the next consultation. 

 

The family is feeling closer and calmer as a whole. The process has been particularly beneficial for Mum who was feeling quite helpless at our first consultation.”

 

Accredited Consultant: Kim High – Australia 2019 

 

Developing Confidence and Calmness.

 

“We are delighted with the calmness and self-assurance ‘A’ has, she spontaneously chats about her dreams and goals and is very “natural” in her communication and less guarded  about what people think of her.

 

It is wonderful to see this young lady blossom and follow her passion without being timid and concerned of what others may think.”

 

2018 – Accredited Consultant: Carla Pahl – HongKong

 

Confidence – Nutrition.

 

“Mum sates that: ‘L’ is starting to show “phenomenal change – really excel”. She made the honour roll at school which “she has never done in her life”.

 

She ran for an office on student council and was determined to start working out with a personal trainer to enhance her volleyball success.  

 

She stared a nutrition plan, losing 5 lbs. Mum notes that there have actually been “remarkable changes with both girls”. 

 

L’s change has been dramatic, she is very driven to take extra steps to make varsity team.  Grades in school are now all A’s and B’s. 

 

She made the National Honour Society, where she has never made honour roll in the past.  Mum states she made comments that she was “stupid”; now she makes comments that she knows that she is smart.   

 

Her  “confidence is out the roof!”  She drives her own sleep schedule and makes her own decisions. ‘L’ broke up with a boy that she didn’t feel was truly interested in her prior to homecoming and went with her friends instead.  

 

Mum felt this was a remarkable stand in confidence, whereas prior she would have tended to ‘go along’.”

 

Accredited Consultant – Joy Hoffman – USA 2019

 

Confidence.

After doing the Foundation script of Goulding Process – SleepTalk®  for more than 6 weeks, mother has noticed that ‘WX’ has improved in term of her attitude.

 

She is the middle child, so she tends to complained that mother doesn’t love her and always behave mischievous to get attention (Either bad or good attention).

 

After 6 weeks of The Goulding Process – SleepTalk® , mother noticed that she becomes more obedient; no more do any mischievous behaviour to seek attention. Not only this, she also tends to more loving to her siblings and her anxiety level reduced to a manageable level. 

 

After doing a more Phase 2 of the process, tailored made suggestion script, the improvement on ‘WX’ is more significant. She starts to voice out her opinion in school and more confident in herself. Now she has courage to take part in competition and she has more confident in handling exam. 

 

She used to have performance anxiety symptoms when facing exam, but after the Goulding SleepTalk®, her anxiety level towards exam was significantly reduced. She learned that she can wish to get the best result but it is not a must to get best result in order to be successful person. 

 

She learned to tolerate stress and her stress tolerance level has improved significantly. Mother does for both of them in a same room. She chooses to read it silently just right beside their ear, and she found this is more powerful than just read it out loud for all the kids who share the same room.

 

Accredited Consultant – Hiro Koo Kian Yong – Malaysia 2018

 

 Confidence.

 

Parents have shared that ‘N’ has settled much more at kindergarten now and has enjoyed a number of different trips and activities out-of-house recently too. 

 

She has started swimming and is really enjoying the lessons, and her dance class has also restarted and ‘N’ seems happy to meet all the new children. Both parents feel The Goulding Process – SleepTalk has been an amazing tool which has empowered them to turn their lives around, and they intend to continue indefinitely!”

 

Accredited Consultant – Georgina Broendal – Denmark 2018

 

 Changes in Behaviour.

 

“The parent has managed to overcome her biggest barrier, which is the physical contact with other people. In order to see a better result from The Goulding Process- SleepTalk®, timing and consistency is very important.

 

By doing The Goulding Process -SleepTalk® it doesn’t mean that it can solve all problems but you can see the improvement of certain behaviour. (eg: Sibling rivalry). The child has become more open to new people and new environment.  

 

Focus span has improved positive affirmations in the day time and bite size sandwich is vital to see impact. I realized that along the way of doing The Goulding Process- SleepTalk® you discover more about your child.”  

 

Accredited Consultant Jen Li Soo – Singapore 2018


A SleepTalk® Miracle

 

We were in Crisis.

My name is Audra, and I am Mom to two beautiful daughters who inspire me daily to be a better me.

 

I have my BA in Elementary Education with a minor in special education from the University of Wyoming. I have taught 3rd grade at an International Bachelorette School in Fort Collins, CO, I’ve led the children’s ministry at Harvest Church in Billings, MT and currently work as a substitute teacher for Chino Valley Unified School District.

 

For as long as I can remember children have been my passion.  They are our future and I take that very seriously. As a teacher I love helping children develop and learn, and grow into little people.

 

While teaching, I quickly realized that parental involvement plays an integral role in how successful a child will be. Teachers inspire, lead, and teach, but parents are the key in the successful development of their self-esteem and confidence as well as their success in and outside of the classroom. Parents hold an enormous amount of power to influence their children in both positive and negative ways.

 

My desire is to help parents become empowered with knowledge that can transform their children’s lives with their own words within their own homes. I consider myself to be a child advocate, and there is no better way to help children in my opinion than to work with parents to inspire and build a strong self-esteem and confidence within their child.

 

Children who have a high self-esteem perform better in school and overall make better choices. Developing a child’s confidence and emotional firewall prepares them for a lifetime of success.

 

As a mom I have been in that dark place where I was desperate for help. I was challenged with two very angry struggling children. It took me by surprise, that even after years of working with parents and children I found myself at a loss of ideas on how to help my own children.

 

I felt hopeless!  I had tried everything, from discipline to bribery, and nothing was working. My children were not happy. That is the hardest thing for me to admit, my kids were not thriving at all. It seemed that on some days we were barely surviving, and I knew something had to give soon.  We were all in crisis. It was while I was in this place that I discovered The Goulding Process – SleepTalk®: My miracle.

 

I met with the founder Joane Goulding, and began a transformation that I consider a miracle. Within two weeks of starting the Goulding Process – SleepTalk, my children had shown remarkable improvement.

 

My youngest was no longer waking up with night terrors; she was sleeping the entire night in her own bed! My oldest was no longer angry each morning; she was waking up happy and content!

 

They were no longer fighting with each other all day long. Both children started to improve in school, and by the end of the school year were earning A’s and B’s. It still brings tears to my eyes to think about how simple and impactful just 2 minutes a night could be.

 

I vowed then that I wanted to share this process with every parent I know.  I took the certification course this summer to become a consultant with The Goulding SleepTalk Process, and am thrilled to now be able to teach other parents how to use it.

 

This is the single most impactful thing I have ever done with my children. It’s completely safe and easy to do, it just takes 2 minutes a night! The best part is that the PARENTS are the ones working directly with their children.

 

I am looking forward to talking with you about how you can become actively involved in building your child’s self-esteem and confidence

SleepTalk® Accredited Consultant – USA– Dec 2014


Autism – Mild high functioning

Dear Beryl,

it was wonderful to meet you last week at ‘The Change Initiative’ for the ‘Sleep Talk’ workshop in Dubai. I found the workshop hugely interesting and my husband and I have been following the foundation programme for a week now.

 

As well as finding the process very special and very healing (particularly for me), we have noticed some major changes in our son already. He has stayed in his own bed every night since we began, except for once and that time it was different.

 

Instead of bursting into our bedroom in a crazed panic, he came in and asked very calmly and quietly for a kiss, after which he went straight back to bed.

 

We have also noticed him much more independent when he is in a social setting or out and about with us, his language is more fluid and he’s not getting so mixed up with the third person when he talks about himself, his teacher also reports him as calmer and more focused at school.

 

Thank you for giving us and our son this truly incredible gift. ‘S’ was diagnosed with mild high functioning autism two years ago and in that time he has been through therapy, been prodded and poked, tested and assessed to his and our limit as parents who adore him.

 

Finally we have found a non-invasive way to allow him to be the best he can be. Thank you.

SleepTalk Parent – A&M – Dubai – 2014


Family Dynamics

Feedback comments from an Intern based in Singapore.

 

“I am now starting on the third case history which will be something written from my heart as it will be my personal experience of how The Goulding Process – SleepTalk™  has changed the whole family environment at home and how it has changed our relationship as parents to two wonderful and amazing young adult boys.

 

This is first hand proof and real life experience that the Goulding Process- SleepTalk  works for children whatever age they may be because the process speaks the Universal language of “LOVE” and is understood by all children of all ages….. .all children need to know that they are unconditionally loved by the two most important people (their parents) in their lives no matter what.

SleepTalk® Accredited Consultant – Singapore – 2014


Spectrum Autism

On the Spectrum –  Autism

Just touched base with one of the two families I am working with on the ‘Foundation”. Mom has two daughters, the 10 year old has Spectrum Autism.

Mom said that she knows her daughter is getting better as she is getting older, but she had noted improvements on several fronts in just the 6 weeks of doing the programme!

The biggest is in mood states/self-esteem, better attitude in the morning to going to school, fewer outbursts when not having things go her way.

The outbursts she has last shorter time, overall calmer when having to transition from one task/situation to another, fewer outbursts with yelling in response to frustration, and yelling stops sooner, and overall more cooperative when asked to do something.

This is even more striking since the mom was seriously ill for two weeks of the 6 weeks, so the Goulding Process – SleepTalk was not consistent some of that time. Furthermore, dad has addiction issues and is not home most of the time, and mom has been unable so far to get dad to record the foundation message for the daughter. Mom is really pleased with the programme.

SleepTalk® Accredited Consultant –  Kris Pedder, Queensland, 2014

 

Autistic Spectrum

“Initially ‘J’ was just having problems at day care. When the parents came to see me to learn The Goulding Process- SleepTalk® they had just moved her to a new school. It had been suggested to the parents that they should take her to see a child psychologist, which they did and were then told that she ‘might’ be on the autistic spectrum.

At that time she was having significant challenges with anger and having uncontrollable tantrums. Mom and dad felt helpless and fearful that there might be something really wrong and were waiting on an appointment with an occupational therapist. While with the psychologist ‘J’ diagnosis was given to the parents while she was in the room!

Within the first two weeks of starting The Goulding Process – SleepTalk® there was significant abreaction, the parents recall it definitely got worse before it got better. But this just lasted a few days. Something that we noticed happened with ‘J’ each time we introduced ‘any’ new suggestion to the process.

And although we noticed feedback in the form of increased affection – especially with Mom and overall being happier we decided to continue the foundation process for almost two months before we moved to a primary area of need. 

By the time we moved to the first primary area of need ‘J’ was already generally calmer and having less frequent tantrums. Her parents have done a wonderful job of being consistent and continuing the process, something that I have found to be one of the biggest challenges with parents after the first two months.

In the last year I have seen the parents six times and each time we add to or adjust our suggestions to help with a variety of issues. Today the parents, who have just had another child report that they feel if they had not found The Goulding Process- SleepTalk® their daughter would not be the normal, happy child she is today.”

Consultant: Philip Donegan – Ireland, 2009


Improving Concentration and Confidence

Improving Confidence & Concentration

Consultant report: Parents used the Goulding Process SleepTalk™ process for her 6 year old daughter to improve her concentration and confidence. I worked with both parents, however, mum was the main parent doing the SleepTalk™.

I found the concept of The Goulding Process- SleepTalk interesting and so when Paola was asking for volunteers I jumped at the chance.  My daughter finds it hard to concentrate at school and can be quite anxious and so I wanted to see if The Goulding Process – SleepTalk® could help in combination with other things.

After a few months it seems that my daughter has responded well to the SleepTalk® process. She is reading more confidently and has been moved up a group in her class and her swimming has improved a great deal and she is now enjoying it.

We continue to do the The Goulding Process – SleepTalk® now.  Paola has been brilliant along the way, helping with a few teething issues initially as my daughter kept waking up when I starting talking, but we sorted it out and all went well after that.  I would certainly recommend The Goulding Process- SleepTalk®.

ST Accredited Consultant – Paola Bagnell – 2014 UK

 

Confidence, Emotional Resilience & Speech. 

Parent feedback: “The Mother was overall satisfied with the Goulding Process – SleepTalk®, seeing many improvements in her daughter over the past 3 months. Most significant was her daughter able to express her love to the Mother verbally.

‘Z’ will also spontaneously hug her Mother and this makes the Mother extremely happy and has improved in her physical ability.  The Mother said ‘Z’ is basically a gentle girl and her level of confidence has definitely improved. 

‘Z’ has also improved in her level of concentration as reported by the teachers and ‘Z’ has demonstrated more confidence when striking a conversation with adults and peers.  She is more cooperative and flexible now even if it is not the usual routine for some days and her ability to deal with issues is much better.

The Mother commented that she was glad that Z has the ability to express ‘No’ to situations that she doesn’t want to be part of  (as opposed to previously compliant character).  

The parents have noted about her changes in dealing with her stress systems and sensory overload.  She managed to remain calm when another autistic child suddenly hit her unexpectedly.

‘Z’ was also able to verbalise her thoughts to her parents that she had enough and would like to go back home instead of having a meltdown. Overall, the process was carried out consistently every night except for missing a few nights when ‘Z’ was staying at grandparent’s house.

 

Conclusion: My learning from this case experience is that The Goulding Process- SleepTalk® only takes a few minutes nightly to help the special needs child develop emotional resilience to cope with the outside world.   It amazed me to see an autistic child to have the confidence to say “No” and with good understanding of why she wants to say that.”

Accredited Consultant: Tan May Chin: – Singapore 2016 

 

Confidence & Speech.

Conclusion: “The Goulding Process- SleepTalk® process was successfully applied in this case. Not only did ‘A’s emotions became more stable, she was generally in a better mood and happier than before. Mum & Dad learned a few more things about ‘A’ that she did not reveal before. Mum’s relationship also improved as a result. As an added bonus, ‘A’s stuttering had disappeared as a result of her increased self-confidence and lessened anxiety.”

Accredited Consultant: MFA – Singapore 2014

 

Confidence & Behaviour.

Paent Feedback: “The Goulding Process- SleepTalk® gave a new start to our family. I started with my 6 year old son who had a lot of excitement to evacuate and a big lack of self-confidence and behavior problems at school. Since then, everything is much better. The sleeptalk was advised to me by our pediatrician. I recommend this therapy 100% !!!! ”

Accredited Consultant and Trainer: Maha Lahode – Genève 2018

 

Confidence & Sensitivity.

“For some time, my son had great fears, a lack of self-confidence and an uncontrollable sensitivity (often at the end of the day).  We did not know what to do … see a psychologist? like everyone…  Thanks to the good advice of my pediatrician, I made contact with Maha. 

We set up the The Goulding Process – SleepTalk®. The result: EXTRAORDINARY !! after 5 weeks we saw changes, it is inexplicable and incredible.  A big thank you to Maha for her great professionalism.”

 Accredited Consultant and Trainer: Maha Lahode – Genève 2017

 

Confidence – Speech.
According to Mom’s feedback, the 6 years old girl doesn’t have to have her planed otitis media (ear) operation. The parents hoped they can avoid that as from the beginning of applying the process, the girl’s condition was constantly improving and now she is free of inflation and any other symptoms.  Her speech is also clearer and she is more confident and relaxed.

My conclusion: Spending quality time together is crucially important for the healthy physical, mental and emotional development of our children.  If the parents are able to provide it with full commitment, then the child will be able to experience all the joy life can offer with its full extend.

Accredited Consultant: Molnárné Kecskés Mónika Hungary – 2019

 

Confidence. 

“Consultants feedback: ‘J’ has exhibited some excellent improvements and some outstanding breakthroughs not just at school, but in his home environment as well. I do believe a lot of it was related to his lack of confidence and lack of belief in self and now it seems he has come forward in leaps and bounds. The subsequent reclassification showed a definite improvement.

I also explained to his mother that she had done an excellent job with a lot of her positive input and that if she continues on with the SleepTalk® process with her son until puberty and possibly beyond, that he can only continue to improve and be a very happy self-assured confident loving boy/young man at the end of this absolutely wonderful The Goulding Process –  SleepTalk® .

Thank you so much for bringing such a beautiful gift and tool into the world dear Joane. You have truly been blessed with a very precious and amazing talent. It truly does create miracles in the lives of children and their parents. 

Accredited Consultant: 2010 Marina Fick  – Victoria 2010

 

Confidence.

“In conclusion, I am not certain, and from the facts given, how consistent Mum and her husband have been with the Goulding Process SleepTalk®  with ‘R’ and therefore believe if there had been more regularity and consistency in applying this method that ‘success’ would have been much easier and possibly sooner because there were definitely some great breakthroughs throughout the process. I stressed the importance of continuity in following through with the Goulding Process – SleepTalk®  daily and success would be inevitable. 

As far as I know Mum will be continuing on with the 2nd Primary Area of Need and working on ‘R’ self-confidence, but have not been advised as to when she will begin that. Finally, I have understood from Mum’s feedback that generally ‘R’ is a much happier, calmer and loveable boy, confidence in some areas and working on the other one’s mentioned above.

Accredited Consultant: 2010 Marina Fick  – Victoria 2010

 

Confidence.

“She did find the process to be difficult to perform if they had a late night but were usually fairly consistent with it. Mum has been saying the words to ‘G’ during the day as well and ‘it makes her smile’. We decided to add a Support Statement to reinforce her new self-confidence and feelings of calm and ‘in control’. 

On 15 August I spoke to mum again. She was very happy with progress and will continue with support statement indefinitely. I contacted her again in September for update, and all is going well with the Goulding Process – SleepTalk . ‘G’ has accepted the support statements with no problems and mum is hoppy to continue as is. She will keep me posted with developments and I will contact her in due course for on update.”

Kathryn Duncan – Qld 2014

 

Confidence.

Mother has seen improvement in ‘S’s interactions in school, managing more self-care on his own and reaching out to peers for help when needed. 

Accredited Consultant: Karyen Chai – Singapore 2018

 

Confidence.

“I have been working with client #1, a mama and a little girl, 8 years old that is the only child in the family. The mother has been very consistent and reliable doing the foundation statements, even when they were camping and on summer vacation.  All is going well and she has had excellent results.

With this self-confidence she soared and truly began to see herself and her daughter through the eyes of unconditional love. A very beautiful experience! This has had a profound effect on the family relationship and spoke of being much happier in a day-to-day way.

And even though the father/husband has not actively participated. The mother/wife has informed him of what she was attempting then doing and invited him to participate when he was ready. The interesting thing is there has been positive change for him too. In general, he has been more understanding and helpful. And I feel this is his true nature revealing itself passively.”

Phyllis Fisher USA


15 year old daughter suffering from anxiety

Consultant report: Parents used the SleepTalk™ process for her 15 year old daughter who had been suffering from anxiety for many months. As ‘J’ lives apart from the father, she did the SleepTalk™ on her own with both her daughters.

I decided to give SleepTalk™ a go to help my 15 year old daughter ‘L’ be calmer. I would like to say that it is a most wonderful ‘program’ to follow and has really helped my daughter out in lots of ways. Our only ‘struggle’ was that teenage girls don’t go into quite as deep sleeps as they used to as little girls. But with Paola’s help and slight changes to the criteria, it worked superbly.

In the first month I started to notice a difference in ‘L’, she was a lot calmer and quietly confident. I’d also taken to texting ‘L’ every day at school telling her how much I loved her and how beautiful and clever she was. Most mornings she was now waking much calmer and a lot happier, after just 8 weeks of doing the SleepTalk™.

After about 14 weeks, I would say ‘L’ possibly had the biggest change in herself. She is no longer ‘worrying’ about life, she is much calmer and there are hardly any anxious moments.

She is really enjoying school (though she already did) she is finding it easier to make new friends and is a lot happier in herself. ‘L’ had stopped having ‘bad’ thoughts: thinking that someone is going to die and that if something good happens then something bad will follow. Overall she had calmed down hugely. She just isn’t anxious anymore.

I would like to say a huge massive thank you to Paola; you are amazing and so very good at your job.

Parent Feedback – ST Paola Bagnell – 2014 UK

 

Heading: Anxiety. 

The parents were committed to the programme. They wanted to help their child and in turn discovered ways they too could change.  There is ongoing work, but massive changes have taken place in the short time. 

There is no more mention of dying or death by their son, and he wakes as a happier child. He is coping with life much better.  I believe the regularly weekly support in the early stages of the programme helped the mother as much as it did their son.”

Accredited Consultant & Trainer:  Marilyn Colvin Boon. Qld 2013

Anxiety – Education

A mothers feedback: “A response to the Goulding Process – SleepTalk® Foundation statements was immediate. The morning after the very first time of using the statements ‘T’ came up to me, looking very deeply at me with a smile on her face; a look which, had I not done the The Goulding Process – SleepTalk® work, and thought it might be to do with, would have asked her what the reason for her look was….it was a very different look. Then she came up to me and gave me a big hug. 

She also asked if I could get her a pen and some paper and proceeded to make me a card, whilst I was getting ready to leave. The card had a picture on the front of the whole family, including dog, all with big smiles on our faces and stood in front of our house. 

It was noted that she was a lot more affectionate when doing the statements, enjoying lots of cuddles and sitting closely next to us when on the sofas. Though she wasn’t being clingy, she was happy to cuddle then go.

It was also noted how her enthusiasm to go to school increased, with a reduction in her tummy hurt each morning, though this wasn’t fully eliminated.

Her eating seemed to also improve. Less coaxing seemed to be needed, she seemed to know that when one mouthful was finished she should put another in, though can still be a bit distracted and not concentrating solely on the task at hand. Though the television is still being watched during mealtimes. 

She became a lot happier in attending school, even mentioning regularly that she liked school. She completely stopped complaining that her tummy hurt in the mornings and, in fact, in the year or so since we did the SleepTalk® only once mentioned she was worried about seeing someone she hadn’t seen for a while (which was her Great Grandad which we hadn’t seen for a year…so understandable!) 

No additional work is needed, though the use of the foundation statements from time to time will take place.” 

Accredited Consultant: Rachel Packard – UK – 2016

Anxiety.

“Parents of ‘N’ state she has absolutely blossomed during the process over the past 4 months, her confidence has grown exponentially and she was just awarded a prize in a public speaking school competition, something her parents are quite astounded and thrilled with.  

She actively engages in conversation around the dinner table and happily shares her opinions and thoughts.  Her family are thrilled with the confidence she has displayed and she has been interacting well with her school friends and peers and taking great interest in school activities and happy to try new things.  She has had a significant decrease in timidity and less nervous.

Parents have enjoyed the process and feel that there is no doubt that the process has been very beneficial for their daughter.  They would like to continue the statement often as they all feel benefit.”

2018 – Accredited Consultant: Carla Pahl – HongKong

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Sleeping Issues – Anger.

Parent Feedback: “He’s going to bed without a fuss is now the norm!  Possibly being twinned with a new and regular bedtime routine he now never complains or kicks up a fuss and has even asked his mum on occasion if he can go to bed, as he was tired!” 

“The mum is over the moon. She got very emotional when she remembered how bad it had been at the beginning of the process and how different it now was. His arguing has improved hugely, not totally disappeared, but has been greatly reduced. His unwavering conviction that he is always right has dissipated and he is willing to consider what others say. He is still very affectionate towards his mum, instigating hugs.

The parents are totally thrilled with the outcome because his behaviour has improved hugely with no incidences of violence that the mum could remember over the previous 8 weeks.

He goes to bed without a fuss now, which was unheard of, and even unimaginable, at the beginning of the process. His sleeping habits have greatly improved, no longer sleepwalking and only rarely sleep talking. Thus, one assumes, he is getting more and better quality, sleep (which would also help his behaviour).

His arguing has also improved. He is more compliant when asked to do something and seems to be very happy acting as part of the family. So, overall, the Goulding Process – SleepTalk® work has been a huge success.

Accredited Consultant: Rachel Packard – UK – 2016

Nail Bitting – – Hypochondria – Anxiety.

“She has stopped biting her nails! Her nails seems to be actually growing now! Mum is so stunned and it’s another thing she has been able to mention to the father in regards to how the kids are doing lately…. He still doesn’t quite ‘see’ it. Although, on further questioning, it was clear that nails were just being less bitten! 

Still wanting to ‘go’ to her nails (still anxious habit?) but they were growing therefore, still probably biting them, but much less often and that surely means a little change in anxiety expressing itself in self-soothing or habit.

 

During the 12 week appointment, the reassessment was offered and the 3 C’s have been adhered to. Mum is happy with the process and its effects on her too. ‘L’ has an overall improvement in most things. Generally she’s less nervous and less ‘highly strung’. Still overreacts to things at home, but calms much quicker after. 

We discussed what are the outstanding issues, and Mum said that the hypochondria, although much less frequent, it’s still happening & also the nail biting. So, we talked about anxiety and that she is still needing (like her brother) to have the foundation process continue to get more consolidation in her ‘self’ before moving onto and dealing with a primary area of need. 

 

Talking to Joane afterwards, we talked about the need for attention presenting as hypochondria (due to sibling rivalry and issues around her dad*) and anxiety, nail biting, fear based things. Very much like her brother. 

{*Mum mentioned only during the phase 2 ‘where now’ document, that ‘L’ had stopped saying “why does dad hate me?” which shocked me a bit – and it goes to show that the need for attention and that constant anxiety is with her at home – fear of not being loved by her dad, it would seem ☹}”

Accredited Consultant: Lucia Dapos – Vic – 2019

 

Calmness – Anxiety –- Nail Bitting.

“He is MUCH calmer and listening better. I decided it was time to add the bridging statement to the foundation statement. They were going overseas on holidays for 18 nights, so thought she could start now. (Mum delivered the process most nights while away, even on the plane!!)

She reported, when they got back, that the kids got along quite well and they all had a good time away together. And also, on return, ‘T’ and his dad started bike riding more often and enjoying each other in this space.

At week 12, phase 2 ‘where now’ interview and document done. ‘T’ is doing much better in key areas. He’s not as blinkered in his thinking now – listens to alternatives/advice/queries regarding what he has chosen to do, and takes these things into consideration, whereas previously, he would not have even listened. 

Less dogmatic. All of ‘T’s’ reactions are less dramatic and he is definitely stopping & listening. More relaxed, less rigid. Big decrease in his fear of the dark and being alone.

Stopped biting his toe-nails (!! she didn’t mention toe nails in the initial interview, just finger nails) completely. But decrease of fingernail biting maybe 20% – still huge improvement! There remains issues with ‘T’ and his dad, but that’s a counselling matter, as for the SleepTalk® process, ‘T’ is generally showing signs of less anxiety. 

Upshot for mum is she worries about ‘T’s relationship with his dad – IMPLORED her to get him involved with the process – at the very least his voice recording of the process. She understands but I need to explain it in sincere detail, highlighting all the positive changes so far. 

She is also still concerned about his lack of impulse control – even though improved. Suggested that the process still needs time to consolidate with ‘T’. I believe that adding dad’s voice would see a whole new change in ‘T’s’ behaviours, but they have to do this, I can only give the reasons and encourage gently but firmly. So, for the next three months, the foundation process with the bridging statement to be continued. Monitor changes every 2 weeks or so. 

So, no Primary Area of Need (PAN) at this stage. He clearly needs his dad’s voice and that indirect (sub conscious) acknowledgment of ‘love’ from him for him to move forward. When his PAN is established, and with talking with Joane again, it looks likely to be around the learning and school as this may have taken a back-seat while he was doing other things in his mind! 

The Phase  two statement would therefore be added with the ‘sandwich’ description explained only at the time of moving from the foundation statement to the phase 2 PAN suggestions.”

Accredited Consultant: Lucia Dapos – Vic – 2019

 

Anxiety and Happiness.

Few weeks after client has been applying the Level 2 statements, she found that ‘K’ was happier and interacted more. Her skin problem is improving. Less rashes now.

To help client better master the process, I told her that every child’s response is different to the suggestion, basically is from 66 to 252 days. In addition, some children might exhibit a condition so called ‘abreaction’, that he or she shows on and off anger or frustration during the monitoring process. 

This is due to the nature of mind work with the effect of incoming suggestions. What client needs to do is to maintain consistency and correctness during the application. 

 The end result and conclusion was: We had our last update in December 2018 and based on the conversation, the client told me that ‘K’ is now not so afraid of meeting new people, willing to listen and share more, and engage more activities.

 Client appreciated what have done to her and her family. Although the monitoring experiment has come to an end, she will still continue to apply this process.

Accredited Consultant: Lee Hong Yiap – Singapore 2018

 

Anxiety.

“ One month after the initial Foundation Process, 2nd Mind Profile questionnaire shows major changes in ‘T’. His interest in sport has improved and a remarkable change in his ability to be a calmer child. Introduction of a specific suggestion was implemented and the Mother said she is acting very differently with the children. 

She is more tolerant and accepting them as children. She herself says it is hard to notice the changes, but the assessments give them a proper measure of the changes.”  

Accredited Consultant & Trainer:  Marilyn Colvin Boon. Qld 2013

 

Anxiety and Eating Issues.

“Mum reports that ‘E’ is giving more kisses and cuddles and is generally much more affectionate. She will continue with the Foundation script for the time being and we will consider adding a supporting statement if and when it is deemed to be necessary.

I saw mum again in August. ‘E’ has continued to progress in most areas. She is still a little anxious at times and mum still has concerns about her eating. Meal times are calmer but mum is still worried about ‘E’s weight. (She looks fine to me. I think perhaps mum is worrying unnecessarily.)

Mum has been doing The Goulding Process – SleepTalk consistently and I felt it was a good time to introduce a support statement to address anxiety and self-esteem issues she still has. 

I spoke to mum in September. She is more thon hoppy with SleepTalk process. She feels that ‘E’ is less anxious, calmer and that her self-esteem has improved. She will continue with The Goulding Process- SleepTalk and will talk to her again soon for update.

Kathryn Duncan – Qld 2014


Improvement at school and in sport

Consultant report: Parents used the Goulding Procress – SleepTalk™  for both their children, their son aged 9 and their daughter aged 6, to improve their confidence. I worked with ‘E’ on her own. However, she taught her husband the process and they took turns in doing the nightly routine. ‘E’ sent me this case history

My 9 year old son has loved his kickboxing class ever since he was 3. His natural perfectionist tendencies meant that he progressed so quickly, advanced so far through his grades, and did so well in competitions that he was moved up to a class for older children.

He then suddenly lost his confidence in sparring with children who were bigger, stronger and had longer reach. He started getting upset, crying, panicking and freaking out when fights did not go his way and he was clearly losing his love of the sport.

I approached Paola for help and we began using SleepTalk™ in August this year specifically working on his confidence in sparring. After 4 weeks the changes were evident: He was more confident in his training, the panicking and freaking out stopped and he cried a lot less.

There were other noticeable changes in his general level of confidence: He was less afraid of spiders and crane flies (which had previously disturbed him) and at a museum trip he stunned us all by volunteering to hold a tarantula in front of 250 people.

His creativity and confidence in his studies improved and he soared to the top of his class where he has remained. He became more assertive and courageous in other areas: willingly going into shops on his own and launching himself off a huge zip-wire without hesitation.

Within 8 weeks of starting the Goulding Process-  SleepTalk™ his sparring had significantly improved. Two incidents around this time highlighted the change: After being punched whilst sparring with a 20 year old he started to cry but quickly responded when his coach to ‘stop crying and get angry’ and went on to win the next three rounds.

His coach commented that he had never seen him fight with such speed and commitment and asked “What have your parents been doing – giving you ox blood for breakfast?” In early December he was awarded a special badge with the words ‘Sparring Champion’ on it for being the ‘most improved’ in sparring. He is now asking us to enter him in national competitions.

I should mention that in line with Paola’s recommendations we simultaneously used The Goulding Process- SleepTalk™ for our 6 year old daughter whose teacher had told us that she needed more confidence in speaking and performing in front of other people.

With Paola’s help we tailored our suggestions to this need and again the changes were noticeable. She has since started piano lessons (something she previously resisted) and loves them, joined a performing dance group and volunteered for a speaking part in the Nativity play where she coped brilliantly when, at the last minute, she was given additional lines to cover for another child.

I have no doubt that The Goulding Process- SleepTalk™ has produced amazing results for both of my children in a few short months. They have both gained in confidence and ability and are clearly getting more out life.

The Goulding Process- SleepTalk™ has also improved our relationship with the children and each other. The two minutes of love that we give them every night offsets the usual stresses and careless remarks of the day and re-aligns us all to our true feelings for each other. It is a beautiful practice and one that I will continue as long as it remains beneficial.

Parent Feedback – ST Consultant: Paola Bagnell – 2014 UK


Sleeping issues

Sleeping Issues

Hi Ilona, I just wanted to share something that happened earlier this evening. We are all still heavily flu infected except ‘K’ who bought it home initially.

‘P’ (my husband) was trying to die quietly on the lounge when ‘K’ thought she would go in for a cuddle. She was curled up next to him and said totally out of the blue “you know daddy, I used to hate going to bed but now I like it”.

We weren’t sure really what to do with that but just gave her a cuddle and said that’s good honey. Where did that come from? Couldn’t wait four weeks to share:) ‘P’ was totally blown away.

‘R’

2013 Ilonea – Consultant in Training NSW

 

Anxiety and Sleep Issues.

“Completing all areas of this case study, I do believe ‘A’ made great progress. His anxiety decreased; his sleep improved greatly and his scholastic endeavours were improved. Of note was the unforeseen improvement of ‘A’ attitude and behaviour towards his sister. 

Mum was thrilled. She also confessed that she loved this dedicated time with her sleeping babies each night. A positive experience all round.”

Accredited Consultant: Marian Daish – Victoria 2017

 

 Sleeping Issues, Anger, Speech Issues.

“Had a very positive result, her sleep improved by 90% and so did her ability to remain calm and deal with anger. She is very affectionate with all family members including her sister who previously was scratched and bitten by her daily.

She has also become completely toilet trained and dry at night. Speech was also an issue, so after introducing additional ‘specific’ suggestions, the educators commented at her day care: “She has really found her voice and become confident and outgoing”. The parents will continue to use SleepTalk® to help her navigate her way through future changes and make good choices.”

Accredited Consultant: Olivia Walford – Vic 2018

 

Sleeping Issues.

Parent feedback: “Attempting something for the first time, I was nervous to begin the process, especially as it takes me forever to get ‘L’ to sleep. The thought of waking the child was a huge concern. 

It took me a couple of nights to get into the regular pattern of remembering to administer the foundation process and skill is required to understand and judge when ‘L’ was in the correct brain wave frequency. I found that ‘L’ would give a little sigh and I could begin. I only touch her forehead and stroke her if I have been out and she is in a very deep sleep.

I found that within the first week of starting the process ‘L’ was more affectionate to her father, hugging him and saying I love you.  I found that after working with the foundation process for a week if ‘L’ woke at night I would enter the room and using my calm reassuring voice I would recite the statements. She would instantly settle back down to sleep.

I was using the script during the day with ‘L’ choosing appropriate times and using them in context to what was happening around us. I often hear ‘L’ saying: “Today is a happy day”. 

After about a month of using the foundation process I started saying the words to ‘L’ at night before she would go to sleep. One day she said “Stop Mummy it’s my turn.” And she changed the wording herself to use the foundation stage on me. WOW, I thought what an impact this has had on her. This reinforced to me just how important it is to give our children continual positive reinforcement.”

SleepTalk Mum – Report from Accredited Consultant: MP – 2010 Vic


Ulcerative Colitis

Another of my mothers told me it is the first time she has been symptom free of Ulcerative Colitis.

As I start to gather more stories I believe it will be easier to attract more parents to give this gift to themselves and their children.

Much love to you

2013 – Patricia Allen – Consultant in Training – NZ


Separation Anxiety

I am delighted to be training in your Goulding Process – SleepTalk® for Children. I was delighted to receive a phone call from my daughter this morning, she lives in the South Island and I am in Auckland saying that she had started the Goulding Process- SleepTalk yesterday.

She has twin daughters, 2 1/2 years born 13 hours before the Christchurch earth quake at 25 weeks prem.  They both had brain bleeds due to the earthquake and ‘G’ has cerebral palsy (mild) (due to the shake)  It has affected her motor skills.  Recently my daughter received funding for some child care each week, to give her a break, and she is also learning special communication skills and sign language.

‘G’ is experiencing separation anxiety, and so yesterday, after trying to get hold of me but no answer, (I was at conference) she decided to use the method in their day time sleeps as they have had a virus and not sleeping well at night  and in the same room. She didn’t want the risk of waking the other up. So as I said she used the method yesterday afternoon.

Last night they woke for their 10.30 pm dream feed (small stomachs as they are undersized which is normal for prems) and when her husband’s alarm went off at 6am she couldn’t believe they were still asleep! She thought she must have got up and not remembered. This was the first time that they had both slept through, and she had the luxury of lying in bed for 15 mins before her other daughter ‘O’ called.

She is normally tired was is full of beans today and so looking forward to carrying on with this process, as I know she will as she is very diligent with her daughters. I just want to thank you, even at this early stage from the bottom of my heart for developing and sharing The Goulding Process- SleepTalk.

2013 – Patricia Allen – Consultant in Training – NZ


Speech

Talking Positively and confidently

I have seen dramatic improvements with ‘G’ during this first term of school, she is thriving! I have been using the words we worked on and her speech is coming along beautifully. Her teacher even commented to me this evening about ‘G’ talking positively and confidently with expression in class and she is incredibly happy with her progress, mentioning that ‘G’ is demonstrating leadership skills which has totally blown us away!

‘G’ is the happiest I have ever seen her and it appears that everything has just clicked into place with her responsibilities and independence, she is highly motivated and driven and even organised!!!! (never would have thought I would be saying that about her a year ago!)

SleepTalk® mum – 2013

Speech. 

“To finish, I just wanted to share with you the letter of feedback I received from Mum towards the end of the Goulding Process – SleepTalk®. She goes on to say: “ What can I say, thank you, thank you, thank you – for giving me back my sweet little boy. 

His behaviour has done a complete turnaround. He has gone from being the trouble maker at school to telling the trouble makers how to be good and looking out for the kids who are getting led astray and getting them to go play somewhere else. Last term of school he has been coming home happy instead of teary and emotional.

He always wants to help me eg: Bringing shopping in from the car, clear the dishes from the table etc… He is controlling his anger. He will say to me: “I feel angry mum and I want to have a play by myself”, or “I don’t feel like talking”; therefore we don’t have too many angry days anymore. He will walk up to me at any time and give me a cuddle and a kiss and walk away and continue on with what he is doing. He is now always prepared to try something he hasn’t done before (this time last year he would not even try). 

His confidence has improved 100%. His speech and communication has also improved. He hardly stutters anymore, that was a nervous habit. He still has some trouble with crowds and noise. Places like shopping centres, but he tells me now when we are out. He will say something like: “It is getting too noisy. I want to go home”. Overall he is a happy and confident little boy.”

Accredited Consultant: 2010 Marina Fick  – Victoria 2010

Communication.

“Since the introduction of SleepTalk® ‘H’ has had some great progress.  The progress has been slow and steady however overall he has made quite a few changes since SleepTalk® was introduced. He has started to become more verbal and is more easily able to express himself.  His outbursts have reduced and he has become a lot more aware of things, more affectionate and his speech and ability to communicate has really progressed.  ‘H’ still has his challenges and since the introduction of the last suggestion, he has showed quite a lot of behavioural and attention seeking behaviour.  These are future areas for change.”

Accredited Consultant: Mary Lynch NSW 2011 

Speech.

“The mother began with Goulding Process – SleepTalk on the 16th of September 2013.After a few weeks of the Foundation process the bedwetting was less. After 3 months of The Goulding Process – SleepTalk® every night their daughter was dry at night and during the day. There was no need of any further assistance. Her ability to speak and to count was improving a lot.

 

She was more calm, more relaxed and just improving as a person. The parents are really happy & excited about the process and the big improvements! Even in school the teacher mentioned the improvements. ”

Accredited Consultant & Trainer: Nicole Wackernangel – Zurick 2013

Speech

“On first follow up the mother had reported that their daughter had improved 15%. The mother had noticed two marked phases of calmness during the day. This calmness was apparent physically and emotionally and was apparent in the morning when she first woke up and again in the late afternoon. 

At this point she was refusing to join the lunch table and sometimes got into squabbles with people in public places when trying to get their attention. She had begun to share more often, though dependent on her mood and the object being shared as some toys she totally refused to share. 

She had also recently learnt to draw simple shapes and began to enjoy colouring. She had begun to recognize some numbers but could not add nor count, however she had also begun to gain some words in her vocabulary even though she still couldn’t put together two word sentences. 

By the next follow up session the mother was reporting an overall 50% improvement in her daughter’s case.  She had reported being calmer in general, having being involved in less fights with her siblings, and had even started to be able to work on her own doing her homework. Her vocabulary had expanded further and she had learnt to recognize the letter “B” in Arabic.  

She was still refusing to eat on the table with the family at lunch time (only lunch not other meals).” 

Professional Intern: NS – UAE

 

 

Speech Issues.

“Had a very positive result, her sleep improved by 90% and so did her ability to remain calm and deal with anger. She is very affectionate with all family members including her sister who previously was scratched and bitten by her daily.

 She has also become completely toilet trained and dry at night. Speech was also an issue, so after introducing additional ‘specific’ suggestions, the educators commented at her day care: “She has really found her voice and become confident and outgoing”. The parents will continue to use the Goulding Process-  SleepTalk® to help her navigate her way through future changes and make good choices.”

Accredited Consultant: Olivia Walford – Vic 2018

 

Speech is clearer.

According to Mom’s feedback, the 6 years old girl doesn’t have to have her planed otitis media (ear) operation. The parents hoped they can avoid that as from the beginning of applying the process, the girl’s condition was constantly improving and now she is free of inflation and any other symptoms.  Her speech is also clearer and she is more confident and relaxed.

My conclusion: Spending quality time together is crucially important for the healthy physical, mental and emotional development of our children.  If the parents are able to provide it with full commitment, then the child will be able to experience all the joy life can offer with its full extend.

Accredited Consultant: Molnárné Kecskés Mónika Hungary – 2019


Sibling Rivalry

Sibling Rivalry

Oh, my God!  It’s working.  Today was such a good day. My 13 year old, is still sarcastic and trying to put down her sister, but she successfully ignored her nasty comments.

SleepTalk® Mum – Japan 2013

Sibling Rivalry. 

“Within 2 weeks Mum acknowledges that there is a lighter mood and more openness in the household.   She hears them laughing and playing together where have been more segregated in the past.   

Finds herself saying the words during the day as well.  Is ‘calming and soothing’ to her as well.  When ‘R’ has a meltdown or other family disturbance, mum finds herself reacting differently, which is lessening the length/severity of the issue.  By 6 weeks. ‘R’ is sleeping through the night.  Day-care indicates they “wish they had 20 more like her”. 

Accredited Consultant – Joy Hoffman – USA 2019

 

Sibling Rivalry.

“Mum was really happy with both ‘C’s and ‘Z’s progress. ‘C’ has not had nightmares for a couple of months now and no worries with phobia either. ‘Z’ has been really good and has been sleeping for the most part in his own bed with occasional nights in bed with his sister.

Mum did say that they had been a bit more inconsistent with the Goulding Process- SleepTalk in the post couple of weeks due to illness and holiday sleepovers.

We decided that it would be a good idea to continue with foundation statements and sibling rivalry statement for a few more weeks since they had been less consistent recently. After that we will odd a new statement for each of them to create a good ‘fire wall’ for the future.

I met with mum again in September. They had been doing The Goulding Process- SleepTalk® consistently now for several weeks and in view of the progress made by both children, we decided it was time to add some support statements.

I subsequently spoke with mum again. Support statements seemed to have been accepted by both children with no opponent problems. Both parents are very happy with the whole process and will continue with The Goulding Process- SleepTalk®. I will contact them again in a few weeks to see how they are progressing.”

Kathryn Duncan – Qld 2014

 

Sibling Rivalry.

“Completing all areas of this case study, I do believe ‘A’ made great progress. His anxiety decreased; his sleep improved greatly and his scholastic endeavours were improved.

Of note was the unforeseen improvement of ‘A’ attitude and behaviour towards his sister.

Mum was thrilled. She also confessed that she loved this dedicated time with her sleeping babies each night. A positive experience all round.”

Accredited Consultant: Marian Daish – Victoria 2017

 

Sibling Rivalry

“She has stopped biting her nails!

Her nails seems to be actually growing now!

Mum is so stunned and it’s another thing she has been able to mention to the father in regards to how the kids are doing lately…. He still doesn’t quite ‘see’ it.

Although, on further questioning, it was clear that nails were just being less bitten! Still wanting to ‘go’ to her nails (still anxious habit?) but they were growing therefore, still probably biting them, but much less often and that surely means a little change in anxiety expressing itself in self-soothing or habit.

During the 12 week appointment, the reassessment was offered and the 3 C’s have been adhered to. Mum is happy with the process and its effects on her too. ‘L’ has an overall improvement in most things.

Generally she’s less nervous and less ‘highly strung’. Still overreacts to things at home, but calms much quicker after. We discussed what are the outstanding issues, and Mum said that the hypochondria, although much less frequent, it’s still happening & also the nail biting.

So, we talked about anxiety and that she is still needing (like her brother) to have the foundation process continue to get more consolidation in her ‘self’ before moving onto and dealing with a primary area of need. 

Talking to Joane afterwards, we talked about the need for attention presenting as hypochondria (due to sibling rivalry and issues around her dad*) and anxiety, nail biting, fear based things. Very much like her brother. 

{*Mum mentioned only during the phase 2 ‘where now’ document, that ‘L’ had stopped saying “why does dad hate me?” which shocked me a bit – and it goes to show that the need for attention and that constant anxiety is with her at home – fear of not being loved by her dad, it would seem ☹}”

Accredited Consultant: Lucia Dapos – Vic – 2019

 

 Sibling Rivalry 

“He is MUCH calmer and listening better. I decided it was time to add the bridging statement to the foundation statement. They were going overseas on holidays for 18 nights, so thought she could start now. (Mum delivered the process most nights while away, even on the plane!!)

She reported, when they got back, that the kids got along quite well and they all had a good time away together. And also, on return, ‘T’ and his dad started bike riding more often and enjoying each other in this space.

At week 12, phase 2 ‘where now’ interview and document done. ‘T’ is doing much better in key areas. He’s not as blinkered in his thinking now – listens to alternatives/advice/queries regarding what he has chosen to do, and takes these things into consideration, whereas previously, he would not have even listened. Less dogmatic.

All of ‘T’s’ reactions are less dramatic and he is definitely stopping & listening. More relaxed, less rigid. Big decrease in his fear of the dark and being alone.

Stopped biting his toe-nails (!! she didn’t mention toe nails in the initial interview, just finger nails) completely. But decrease of fingernail biting maybe 20% – still huge improvement!  ‘T’ is generally showing signs of less anxiety. 

She is also still concerned about his lack of impulse control – even though improved. Suggested that the process still needs time to consolidate with ‘T’. I believe that adding dad’s voice would see a whole new change in ‘T’s’ behaviours, but they have to do this, I can only give the reasons and encourage gently but firmly. So, for the next three months, the foundation process with the bridging statement to be continued. Monitor changes every 2 weeks or so. 

Accredited Consultant: Lucia Dapos – Vic – 2019

 

Sibling Rivalry

Parent Feedback: “I love this process, its easy and builds better connections with my boys.

My son is now more positive about eating some other things (but still prefers chips). Need more work in this area, but it’s a big improvement.

He is feeling like he belongs in his new 4yr old kinder program now and has met some new friends.

Have had big improvements with boys wanting to go to dads overnight and they even like his new partner. Overall, very happy with the process.”

Accredited Consultant: Anneliese Luz – Vic 2019

 

 Sibling Rivalry. 

“ The parent indicated that ‘S’ responded well to The Goulding Process- SleepTalk®. Mom was doing the Foundation consistently every night; dad was not willing to participate in the process. 

Within 4 weeks, mom noticed a decrease in the frequency, severity, and duration of ‘S’ outbursts.  Bedtimes becoming easier, Mom was feeling less stressed and there was less fighting between the girls

Accredited Consultant. KP – Canada 2015

 

Sibling Rivalry.

“The parents reported that ‘H’ has been in the past a less confident child despite his high intelligence in completing more advanced tasks and good results in learning. He also had some sibling rivalry issues with his younger sister. 

However, a short time after starting the foundation Stage of The Goulding Process – SleepTalk® he has become more open and talkative, and his relationship with his younger sister and his attitude towards her have changed in a very positive way. 

The parents commented with surprise how he made a complete change by being helpful and protective of her in such a short time. Continuing with SleepTalk® will make their relationship stronger into the future and benefit the whole family.”

Accredited Consultant: LH – 2018

 

Sibling Rivalry. 

“The parent feedback: ‘P’ is the younger of 2 siblings. Her older brother and her had some sibling rivalry issues prior to starting The Goulding Process – SleepTalk®, with ‘P’ displaying more of the jealousy and attention seeking at times when she thought she was being “left out”. 

After the first few weeks of starting the Foundation Stage this behaviour has disappeared. At the same time her parents were very surprised at the growing affection she was showing to both of them, but at times also to others in the family. 

Her relationship to her brother has noticeably improved, and she is also gaining confidence in entering preschool this year. My recommendation is to continue with Foundation Statement and review a potential addition of Specific Statement later in consultation with parents.

Accredited Consultant: LH – 2018

 

Sibling Rivalry. 

“Parent feedback: ‘C’ wakes up quietly now without any anger. He is calmer in the mornings and getting ready for school is becoming easier for all of the family. He is learning to use self-control and walking away when his brother upsets him.” 

“Consultant feedback: Mum was excited by the results she had achieved and wanted to move on to include the next support suggestion. Mum reported that it had positive results. 

‘C’s biggest achievement was to attend a crowded soccer break up and went by himself to get a book of vouchers that was required to get his meals and treats. Mum said this would never have happened before and she was so proud of his achievement. ‘C’ also attended the school fair and happily went off with his big brother to go on rides. 

Mum feels that ‘C’s level of anxiety in group situations has reduced greatly and that ‘C’s happier to go to school and keen to share his achievements big or small with the family. He is also confidently speaking on the phone now and going up to shopkeepers and asking for what he wants. The family are still working with ‘C’ to give eye contact.” 

Conclusion.

“I feel that mum has grasped the Goulding Process -SleepTalk®  and used it well. She was very keen for this to work and has been positive all the way through. It has been wonderful to be part of this journey with the family. It is wonderful to see ‘C’ becoming more confident within him. I am in contact with the family regularly and will follow up on her needs and anything that she requires to support her.”

Accredited Consultant: MP – 2010 Vic 

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Sibling Rivalry. 

I feel that Mum saw such a change in her other child using this process that she became more excited about using it with ‘F’ as she saw the rewards his sibling was achieving. 

Both Mum and I feel that her husband really needs to spend time administering the suggestions to ‘F’ to have a positive effect on their relationship. Mum felt confident in applying the process to ‘F’ without my assistance so we worked on two more suggestions that she would use when she felt it was time.

Accredited Consultant: MP – 2010 Vic 

 


Separation Anxiety

I have started my cases. It took a little time to get the mums to start, but all’s going well now.  One little boy in particular is very interesting.  He is three years old and has a history of trauma from birth, with heart defects diagnosed in utero at 32 weeks. Not sure he would survive.

Caesar birth and separation from Mum when on respirator in NICU for two weeks. Open heart surgery at eight weeks. Before his birth, the parents’ marriage was already turbulent and abusive. Parents separated before his surgery. Mum has gone through very rough time. Custody hearings are still going on. Relationships still very strained between parents.

‘G’ is a lovely, bright little boy. Presenting issues for mum were sleep issues, he had severe separation anxiety at bed time and couldn’t settle alone to sleep, he had great separation anxiety at kinder hanging on to mum, and he was only opening his bowels once a week. After three days of The Goulding Process – SleepTalk®, he was going to bed easily, saying goodnight and going to sleep. His bowels opened a couple of times. He was also much happier in the mornings and less demanding on his mother.

Then a death in the family occurred and a bitter custody hearing happened at the same time. In all the chaos The Goulding Process- SleepTalk® was put on the back burner.

It was time for the two week follow up two days ago. Mum was very keen to take up The Goulding Process – SleepTalk® again. She started two days ago and had a slight abreaction this time. We talked about it and she is very motivated to continue.  This dear little boy is still sleeping well and yesterday he went into kinder happily, not hanging on to mum’s legs, but looking at the activities he wants to do.

2013 – Deborah Stevens  –  SleepTalk® Consultant – Vic.


Sleep Issues / Anxiety

Outwardly ‘V’ is a bubbly, chatty and very active child. However her parents have a tough time getting ‘V’ to bed, feeding is a nightmare and ‘V’ doesn’t accept other people. Her reaction is, “No, go away!”

I taught Dad and Mom the Sleep Talk (ST) process.  After one night of ST, Dad emailed, very excited to report that ‘V’ had her regular hair cut without a single of tear. As ‘V’ doesn’t take well to strangers touching her, even the same hair-dresser who has been cutting her hair all this while, is not accepted. She cries and frets at each and every hair cutting session. This time, to quote Mom: “She just sat there calmly throughout the whole time, no tears, is it a coincidence?”  I replied, “No, it’s Sleep Talk”.

The next positive incident was a follow-up x-ray session to check on the progress of her operation. ‘V’ had a fall and broke her collar-bone. The pain and trauma of strangers in white coats and covered faces makes her scream, cry and cling on to mom and dad for dear life. After about 1 week of ST, ‘V’ allowed the nurse to take her from mom’s arms, sat on the cold steel platform by herself in the dim x-ray room, and had her x-ray taken without a single tear or whimper!

Going to bed was a one to two hour ritual every night; afternoon naps were 20 -30 minutes to the max. Mom had to stay with her at kindi and friends of her parents do not have the privilege to play with or hold her. She would say, “No, go away”. Meal times are an endurance test for mom. ‘V’ will eat a little of an item, then a bite of another and another…. Proper meals with meat, vegetables and rice are rejected.  Mom was totally exhausted, physically and emotionally trying to keep up with ‘V’.

Stayed on with the Foundation Statement for 4 months, completed the 3rd “Where Now” document, and after discussing the ‘Primary area of need’, we agreed to add a support suggestion:  I advised parents to play games with ‘V’ to teach her the meaning of “safe” before using the support suggestion.

With ST, ‘V’ has now transformed into a very confident little angel who does not hesitate to apologize if she’s in the wrong. Going to bed is much easier and parents can walk out of the room after about 20 minutes. ‘V’ is willing to try more healthy new food and is also putting on some weight. She can also interact with people now and as the father puts it: “I do not have to worry about emergency calls at work from Mom or pushing the job  of getting ‘V’ to sleep to one another.  Productivity at work also increased as there is no more stress of having to rush home from the office when an “emergency” arise.

2013 – Elis Soo – Consultant – Malaysia


Burkitt Lymphoma

I just want to pass on my intense gratitude to Joane for the beautiful gift that is Sleep Talk. I’m not one to reach out or write reviews on books or products but feel compelled this time to let Joane know that she has truly changed my life and the lives of both my 6 year old warrior (burkitt’s lymphoma survivor) and his younger brother. As you know the wounds you can’t see can be the most difficult to heal so a year after the blessing of Hudson’s physical battle coming to an end, i felt myself and my parenting abilities crumbling. My family was in distress.

Conventional therapy felt wrong and more damaging than helpful. Mainstream parenting techniques left me more confused and angry because the gift of my son’s battle has to be the ability to truly appreciate these little angels for what they are. I feel so strongly that every parent should know about this method and pray for the foundation’s blessing. You are empowering parents and healing relationships/ wounds and I can’t think of more important work at this time on the planet.

Thank you from the bottom of my heart,

2013 – Amanda Paige – SleepTalk Parent – USA


Speech Problems

Back when I first started SleepTalk training I began with my own children, one of which who was attending speech therapy and we were told that her speech problem was severe and that we would have limited benefits and it would be an ongoing long term issue. Well we proved everyone wrong with SleepTalk – lots of hands-on work with her she is absolutely fine. Within 6-12 months you would not even know that she had a speech problem.  Yes great benefits.

2013 – Consultant – Michelle Clarkson – Qld.


Sleep Issues

SleepTalk for Children changed my daughter’s life. She went from being an angry child who rarely slept to being the beautiful kind and gentle 13 year old that she is today. I loved the Program so much that I became a SleepTalk Consultant myself! I guess there’s not better recommendation than that!


Eye sight

To assist ‘A’ in improving her sight and prevent eye patching intervention recommended by our eye specialist, with Joane’s assistance we came up with the following specific statements:

“You have the capacity to heal yourself. Anything and everything in your body is getting healthy and better every day in every way. Your sight is getting stronger and healthier. IT gets better and better every day in every way.”

After 6 weeks her sight improved, no eye patching was necessary and the specialist said she can now reduce the use of her glasses from full time to part time. We were all thrilled!!!

The lesson I learned when designing the statements is how critical it is to design the “right” one, thus the Communication Template Objectives must be considered.


Improving Confidence


Diabetes

I woke up to a lovely message from one of my Mums today, she has a 7 year old daughter who is diabetic and has a fear of needles. She has been using The Goulding Process-  SleepTalk® for 4 1/2 months.

It was a struggle at first because there was a huge abreaction from ‘A’. Confidence was a real problem and herself belief was really low. We implemented our first support sentence about 3 weeks ago and Mum tells me she has started administering her own insulin this weekend which is HUGE for the family.

The fact she is in control herself now and not Mum is really going to help her confidence grow and grow in other areas of her life.

Claire Bossons UK consultant (Professional Intern)


Nail biting

No more nail biting

I just wanted to share something with you all. Since the training course in May I have been carrying out the process with both my boys, my eldest son was a nail biter, to the point where his nails were very sore and often would bleed.

Tonight driving along he said to my youngest son: “I don’t bite my nails anymore, I have no idea how I stopped but I just did”. I smiled and said that was great, I was bursting with joy! X

2013 – Claire Bossons Consultant in Training – UK

 

Totally Stopped Nail Bitting.

“The mother reports that there has been significant overall improvement for ‘Y’.  He is showing more life in his day to day activities. His Maths have improved, he is better in managing his stress from school work without throwing temper at doing difficult Maths.   

There is an improvement in his confidence regarding Study and he has proved to himself that he can do better.  Being able to overcome his carelessness at study has helped to boost his confidence in it. However his writing has declined by 15% but this is due to the new demands at school as they have started writing compositions and he is adjusting to this new demand. 

He has stopped nail biting totally and his day to day happiness has improved by 50%. He is seemingly happier and was able to remain calm and control his emotions, in particularly his anger better. His ability to work alone: Improved by 40%.  

He is learning to do his homework / spelling without supervision.  He is also able to play on his own and take interest in reading his books on his own.  His behaviour towards Parents has improved 30%.  There are less tension over school work and he is now more willing to listen and learn when I teach or guide him through certain issues.  

I realised that not only his behaviour is now better towards me, I feel that I no longer get angry with him as often as in the past.  We are now able to talk things out. 

I am very pleased with the results.  During this short span of 6 months, many of my pressing concerns were resolved.  Namely nail biting, carelessness with schoolwork, improving focus or concentration at school, being able to sit still at dining table to finish his meals.  

My son is now not only able to finish all his food during meal time, he is able to finish his meal with lesser time.”   

Accredited Consultant: Kilyn Liong – Singapore 2018

 

Nail Bitting gone.. Next

“Two weeks later at a follow up appointment, the complaints of the parents had totally transformed. New problems came up such as poor and rushed handwriting, being quite annoying when he wants things (especially if his friends have them, poor response to peer pressure), did not share willingly and was bossy. His nail biting had further improved and his anger issues had begun to subside, and he had also begun to recall his classwork more easily. By this point he had been started on medication.

The father added in that his son overestimates his abilities and was afraid he was being smug, proud or hubris. He would take out his frustrations on his little sister by pushing her around, especially if his parents were not around to guide him, but could be calmed if sent to his room. 

A month later, at the final follow up after the foundation process the symptoms checklist once again looked remarkably different. The parents came in reporting absolutely nothing as less than good. 

His anger and anxiety issues had reportedly disappeared, and his parents reported 55% improvement in socially acceptable behaviour, 85% improvement in nail biting, and 70% improvement in stress levels reflected on parents.”

Professional Intern: NS – UAE


Sleeping difficulty

 Sleeping Difficulty Gone

Delighted with feedback from 5 year old boy. Sleeping in his own bedroom and not in parents bed for the first time in five years. All without protest or complaint. Telling Mum about “happy dreams” he never spoke of dreaming before.

Parents delighted, we have now moved on to more direct statements about eating.

2013 – Josephine P Teague – Consultant in Training UK

 

Sleeping Better – Scratching Less 

After 3 months of The Goulding Process – SleepTalk he became interested in sport, and his coordination and physical ability increased dramatically as did his speech.

 His ability to remain calm and deal with anger did not improve and his mother thought his eczema was causing him quite a lot of distress and anger and he would be scratching until he bled during the night.  

After using the an additional statement he is sleeping better and scratching less. He has also being mentally challenged at day care as he moved into the kindergarten room which he enjoys and suffers less boredom. 

The family is keen to continue using the Goulding Process – SleepTalk® in the future to work on his ability to remain calm.

Accredited Consultant: Olivia Walford – Vic 2018

 

Deep Sleep

Parent feedback: “Attempting something for the first time, I was nervous to begin the process, especially as it takes me forever to get ‘L’ to sleep. The thought of waking the child was a huge concern.

 It took me a couple of nights to get into the regular pattern of remembering to administer the foundation process and skill is required to understand and judge when ‘L’ was in the correct brain wave frequency. I found that ‘L’ would give a little sigh and I could begin. I only touch her forehead and stroke her if I have been out and she is in a very deep sleep.

I found that within the first week of starting the process ‘L’ was more affectionate to her father, hugging him and saying I love you.  I found that after working with the foundation process for a week if ‘L’ woke at night I would enter the room and using my calm reassuring voice I would recite the statements. She would instantly settle back down to sleep.

I was using the script during the day with ‘L’ choosing appropriate times and using them in context to what was happening around us. I often hear ‘L’ saying: “Today is a happy day”. 

After about a month of using the foundation process I started saying the words to ‘L’ at night before she would go to sleep. One day she said “Stop Mummy it’s my turn.” And she changed the wording herself to use the foundation stage on me. 

WOW, I thought what an impact this has had on her. This reinforced to me just how important it is to give our children continual positive reinforcement.”

SleepTalk Mum – Report from Accredited Consultant: MP – 2010 Vic 

 

Dry all night 

“Had a very positive result, her sleep improved by 90% and so did her ability to remain calm and deal with anger. She is very affectionate with all family members including her sister who previously was scratched and bitten by her daily.

 She has also become completely toilet trained and dry at night. Speech was also an issue, so after introducing additional ‘specific’ suggestions, the educators commented at her day care: 

“She has really found her voice and become confident and outgoing”. The parents will continue to use the Goulding Process – SleepTalk® to help her navigate her way through future changes and make good choices.”

Accredited Consultant: Olivia Walford – Vic 2018

 

Selective Mutism

“As I have newly started to work with The Goulding Process- SleepTalk®, I have meet the mother and her little 5 years old daughter ‘C’ who is a happy little girl and has suddenly stopped speaking to anyone. This is unusual as she loves to talk a lot. It has happened after she got sick (winter sickness), in December 2015.

Mum has started to worry about her daughter and she took her to her pediatrician for a consult. They have run lots of different tests and send her to a psychiatrist. Nothing has changed, and the Pediatrician referred the mother to me.

I have meet the mother during the month of April, 2016. We have decided with the mother to apply the Sleep Talk Process… After 3 weeks, the mother has given me a call:

“I’m so sad, my daughter is still not talking…

 Has there been any change“ I have asked.

 No, she is just talking to her Teddy bear…”

I couldn’t stop myself to say loud: Houraaaa! She was not talking at all… This is amazing…. Suddenly the mother has realized what she just has said and started to cry of joy. After 12 weeks with the Goulding Process- SleepTalk®, little ‘C’ is talking again and is more happy than ever.

This was a real gift for me… I have meet little ‘C’ dressed like a little princess in her beautiful dress. In the Morning, she said to her mother before visiting me:   “Mummy I want to wear a dress as today is a happy day…”

Accredited Consultant and Trainer: Maha Lahode – Genève 2016

 


Feedback – Behaviour & Confidence

I have been lucky enough to meet Joane Goulding and learn the correct techniques of SleepTalk® for  my two boys, aged 5 and 2. Not only has SleepTalk® improved their behaviour, the whole dynamics of our family has improved. We have an overall calmer and happier attitude and show love and respect to each other. I am no longer so worried about how my boys will cope with the challenges that come their way as their father and I use SleepTalk®, as well as positive affirmation throughout the day, to build their confidence and self-esteem.

Of course, we all worry about our children and there will always be issues for them which are out of our control, however, I am thankful to SleepTalk® for giving me the skills to control the things I can. I admit that I was initially daunted by the idea of doing SleepTalk® every night, yet it soon became part of my routine and takes mere minutes. I now actually enjoy this time I have to witness their peacefulness in sleep, especially when we have had a hectic day. I hope that all parents and careers get an opportunity to learn and use SleepTalk® Thank you Joane.

2012 – YVPP Parent Meeting at Yarra Glen – Cameron House


Feedback – PTSD

I would like to take this opportunity to pass on my thanks to Yarra Valley Practitioners and Joane Goulding for offering the SleepTalk program to parents at Middle Kinglake Primary School.

I‘m a mother of a 9-year-old boy and we unfortunately lost our house in the Black Saturday bushfires. My parents also lost their home and together with the loss of the school and sadly, many friends of both my sons, and mine we have felt quite devastated. We were unable to leave Kinglake on that night and we were forced to battle the fire when it came. This was very traumatic, especially for my son.

In October 2009 my son developed symptoms of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) in the form of frequent panic attacks, bedwetting and eventually an eating disorder which made him unable to swallow many solid foods. My son began to see a child Psychologist who helped him with many aspects of his PTSD, as did the school councillor. My son was still having trouble with separation anxiety, processing worries, bedwetting, confidence, being in large crowds, going to sleep and general happiness.

I didn’t know anything about SleepTalk but I needed some way to help my son and after reading the information from Yarra Valley Practitioners I thought it was worth a try. Having the sessions in Kinglake made it possible for me to attend.

The change in my boy is amazing! I noticed a difference in him after only one week and he gets better every day. The separation, crowd and sleep issues have disappeared and there are improvements with his bedwetting. The thing that has meant the most to me is to see his confidence and happiness returning.

I have passed on Joane’s details to a friend who lost her husband in the fires and who has a boy who has not responded to other forms of counselling and is understandably very distressed. I look forward to continuing to work with Joane, and I will be forever grateful to her for helping me to help my son

Thank you for making this program available to assist our emotional recovery.

2010 – Yours sincerely, Kinglake Mum


Overcoming fear of using toilet

Charmaine here from your Queensland class on Friday, I just wanted to let you know the most amazing thing. Friday night when I came home I typed up the new poo statement for Ethan and sleeptalk Friday night was the new version.

Saturday afternoon my husband called to say that Ethan had taken himself off to the toilet and then started calling Daddy Daddy Daddy Mark when in there to see what was wrong and Ethan said “Look Dad I did a big poo in the toilet” and sure enough he had pooed in the toilet for only the 3rd time in his life, he then wouldn’t flush it cause he wanted me to see it, so mark had to take a photo of it and send it to me!!!

I am totally blown away that of only 1 night of the new Goulding Process – SleepTalk® statement he went and did a poo!!!!! Totally amazing, totally blown away on every level, I know The Process is Sleeptalk is strong but after only one night after 2 years of trying to get him to sit on the toilet after all the Dr’s appointment, Paediatricians, Gastro Paediatricians and Occupational Therapist, one night of new statement and bang done.  He since has also pooed on the toilet today we think but said he flushed so will continue to monitor the progress and let you know.

Thank you so much Joane for all your help on Friday to figure this out I cannot thank you enough for this amazing system, I feel very lucky to be learning this powerful work to help so many other kids just like Ethan.  Lots of hugs

June 2013 – Queensland – Charmaine Eykenboom.XXX


Mom totally exhausted

Outwardly ‘V’ is a bubbly, chatty and very active child. However her parents have a tough time getting ‘V’ to bed, feeding is a nightmare and ‘V’ doesn’t accept other people. Her reaction is, “No, go away!”

I taught Dad and Mom the Sleep Talk (ST) process.  After one night of ST, Dad emailed, very excited to report that ‘V’ had her regular hair cut without a single of tear. As ‘V’ doesn’t take well to strangers touching her, even the same hair-dresser who has been cutting her hair all this while, is not accepted. She cries and frets at each and every hair cutting session. This time, to quote Mom: “She just sat there calmly throughout the whole time, no tears, is it a coincidence?”  I replied, “No, it’s Sleep Talk”.

The next positive incident was a follow-up x-ray session to check on the progress of her operation. ‘V’ had a fall and broke her collar-bone. The pain and trauma of strangers in white coats and covered faces makes her scream, cry and cling on to mom and dad for dear life. After about 1 week of ST, ‘V’ allowed the nurse to take her from mom’s arms, sat on the cold steel platform by herself in the dim x-ray room, and had her x-ray taken without a single tear or whimper!

Going to bed was a one to two hour ritual every night; afternoon naps were 20 -30 minutes to the max. Mom had to stay with her at kindi and friends of her parents do not have the privilege to play with or hold her. She would say, “No, go away”. Meal times are an endurance test for mom. ‘V’ will eat a little of an item, then a bite of another and another…. Proper meals with meat, vegetables and rice are rejected.  Mom was totally exhausted, physically and emotionally trying to keep up with ‘V’.

Stayed on with the Foundation Statement for 4 months, completed the 3rd “Where Now” document, and after discussing the ‘Primary area of need’, we agreed to add a support suggestion:  I advised parents to play games with ‘V’ to teach her the meaning of “safe” before using the support suggestion.

With ST, ‘V’ has now transformed into a very confident little angel who does not hesitate to apologize if she’s in the wrong. Going to bed is much easier and parents can walk out of the room after about 20 minutes. ‘V’ is willing to try more healthy new food and is also putting on some weight. She can also interact with people now and as the father puts it: “I do not have to worry about emergency calls at work from Mom or pushing the job  of getting ‘V’ to sleep to one another.  Productivity at work also increased as there is no more stress of having to rush home from the office when an “emergency” arise.

Elis Soo – Consultant – Malaysia 2013

 


Chronic Illness

I just want to pass on my intense gratitude to Joane for the beautiful gift that is Sleep Talk.  I’m not one to reach out or write reviews on books or products but feel compelled this time to let Joane know that she has truly changed my life and the lives of both my 6 year old warrior (burkitt’s lymphoma survivor)  and his younger brother.  As you know the wounds you can’t see can be the most difficult to heal so a year after the blessing of Hudson’s physical battle coming to an end, i felt myself and my parenting abilities crumbling.  My family was in distress.

Conventional therapy felt wrong and more damaging than helpful.  Mainstream parenting techniques left me more confused and angry because the gift of my son’s battle has to be the ability to truly appreciate these little angels for what they are.  I feel so strongly that every parent should know about this method and pray for the foundation\’s blessing.  You are empowering parents and healing relationships/ wounds and I can’t think of more important work at this time on the planet.

Thank you from the bottom of my heart,
Amanda Paige – SleepTalk Parent – USA – 2013

 


Speech

I have seen dramatic improvements with ‘G’ during this first term of school, she is thriving! I have been using the words we worked on and her speech is coming along beautifully.

Her teacher even commented to me this evening about ‘G’ talking positively and confidently with expression in class and she is incredibly happy with her progress, mentioning that ‘G’ is demonstrating leadership skills which has totally blown us away!

‘G’ is the happiest I have ever seen her and it appears that everything has just clicked into place with her responsibilities and independence, she is highly motivated and driven and even organised!!!! (never would have thought I would be saying that about her a year ago!)

SleepTalk mum – 2013


Toilet issues

Amazing after one week

After a week I saw results. ‘C’ had begun a fear of going to the toilet for his bowel movement. He used to hold on with all of his body, shaking and on holiday was pressing his face on the patio window to stop it coming out. He held on for weeks and would scream when ever I tried to help him- he was absolutely terrified!!!

He ended under a paediatric consultant as it was affecting his health and he was in extreme pain. He was put on medication but still was terrified as if it was becoming worse. He started school and was having a lot of accidents and he couldn’t socialise and would not play as was stood in a corner holding on. He couldn’t go swimming or play football – this fear was taking over his life.

I then alongside his medication started SleepTalk. I had already tried reasoning with him, comforting him reading books about toileting and playing with toys about toilet and reward systems. The nurse said I had tried everything possible.

Within a week of using the The Goulding Process – SleepTalk  ‘C’ was letting go, using his potty and was not scared. He now after about six weeks is going to the toilet himself and does it all alone and is no longer scared at all. He uses public toilets and school toilets without any fear- how amazing!

I thought this nightmare was never going to end and I still continue to do the foundation stage every evening. In fact with ‘C’ there was no need to go beyond this stage. He can now have a childhood like any other child enjoying socialising and going to school. What a miracle!!!!

Parent of two children – Stockport. UK 2013

 

No more dirty underwear  

Consultants Comments: “Very positive feedback again, the parents are satisfied. All marks of ‘I’ are in the positive range now, he has stopped pooping in his underwear for two weeks and shows further improvements. He is more self-confidence, stable feelings, great eating habits and he can handle his emotions better.

‘I’ has moved from a problematic and annoying behaviour pattern to a much more sociable, more well balanced state in general, with a lot of good feedback from the elementary school teachers and the parents as well.

Parents are calm now, less stress at home. The process has changed their attitudes too to ‘I’. He is more open, he is able to communicate his feelings.  His parents feel really close to him and ‘I’ is a very happy, well balanced boy. The stress about pooping in the underwear is over. No problem in kindergarten, no problem at home.”

Accredited Consultant and Trainer: Marianne Lampert. Hungary 2014

 

Dealing with all issues

“Parents are over the moon with the results, in the last couple of weeks ‘B’ has only soiled him-self a few times and has started asking them if he should go to the toilet. He has shown improvements in basically every area of life.

 Some of the most significant improvements are in the areas of his eating habits, ability to deal with group pressure, ability to deal with issues and anger. His self-esteem has improved; he is much more confident and no longer hates school.

They are very happy with the result and if things continue the way they are they have resolved what initially brought them to me.”

Accredited Consultant – GT – Qld 2018


Confidence

Improved Confidence

I was spurred on today to send this email as I had a client who uses the Goulding Process – SleepTalk® with her children each night and says since doing so his confidence has improved and they have a more peaceful household – isn’t that wonderful!

Lee Simmons – Victoria 2013

 

Self-Esteem Rising

“Very positive feedback again, the mother is very content – all marks of ‘B’ are in the positive range now. ‘B’ continues sports and is generally much more calm and with very good marks. ‘D’ shows further improvements too, though remains disinterested in sports and other activities, and her ability to remain calm changes up and down over time, despite of a visible general increase in self-esteem.  

The mother has dropped significantly in doing the talks every night, but intends to get back to it upon the results of this review.

Both kids have grown greatly in self-esteem, and their general feeling at home and school has improved significantly as well. The mother has grown enormously in self-esteem and the change is very visible. The relation of the 2 kids has improved visibly too, less frustration at home for the mother. ‘D’ still needs some attention but looking at the marks she is well on the way. 

We introduced additional suggestions but it does not show an effect on the targeted traits, but may attribute to the general improvement. The mother became interested in applying the process in her work because she occasionally helps children.”

Consultant: Peter Solymos – Budapest 2014.

 

No Operation Needed, Confidence & Speech Improving

According to Mom’s feedback, the 6 years old girl doesn’t have to have her planed otitis media (ear) operation. The parents hoped they can avoid that as from the beginning of applying the process, the girl’s condition was constantly improving and now she is free of inflation and any other symptoms.  Her speech is also clearer and she is more confident and relaxed.

My conclusion: Spending quality time together is crucially important for the healthy physical, mental and emotional development of our children.  If the parents are able to provide it with full commitment, then the child will be able to experience all the joy life can offer with its full extend.

Accredited Consultant: Molnárné Kecskés Mónika Hungary – 2019

 

Trying New Thing, Reading and Writing Improving & Speaking Clearer 

“After 12 weeks of The Goulding Process SleepTalk  The Foundation Stage was strictly followed everyday by the mother! 

• Mum noticed results after two weeks of the process and the first observation was the increase in the confidence level where he became more approachable to try new things or new learning challenges believing in his own abilities. ! 

• Soon his reading and writing improved dramatically along his grades and he was awarded from school for the amount of reading he is doing.! 

• His ability to express himself improved slightly but he was able to make better sense using his mother tongue language! 

• His attitude toward school improved and is more focused on the positive aspects of the teachers rather than their flaws as with his very high logic and reasoning cognitive skills. sometimes he was making more sense than his teachers! 

• The mother was so happy by his ability to remain calm and manage his anger very reasonably. She said that this has improved so much that the relationship with his brother and sister is getting so much better!

Feedback Report:  There is no more hair pulling at all which has stopped completely. Nail biting is still on but at a very less frequency! 

‘Y’ took some time to understand the shift in his mother behaviour after focusing so much on high grades and results. Signs of anxiety is still there but he is able to go through tests and is more motivated to put more! 

All kids love the process and they call their mother before they sleep and ask her to sleep talk to them!

Consultant: NT – UAE 2017

 

Attitude Improving

After doing the Foundation phase  of The Goulding Process- SleepTalk®  for more than 6 weeks, mother has noticed that ‘WX’ has improved in term of her attitude. She is the middle child, so she tends to complained that mother doesn’t love her and always behave mischievous to get attention (Either bad or good attention). 

After 6 weeks of  the  process, mother noticed that she becomes more obedient; no more do any mischievous behaviour to seek attention. Not only this, she also tends to more loving to her siblings and her anxiety level reduced to a manageable level. After doing a more specify The Goulding Process SleepTalk® phase 3 ,  tailored made suggestion script, the improvement on ‘WX’ is more significant. 

She starts to voice out her opinion in school and more confident in herself. Now she has courage to take part in competition and she has more confident in handling exam. 

She used to have performance anxiety symptoms when facing exam, but after all three phases of the process, her anxiety level towards exam was significantly reduced. She learned that she can wish to get the best result but it is not a must to get best result in order to be successful person.

 She learned to tolerate stress and her stress tolerance level has improved significantly. Mother does for both of them in a same room. She chooses to read it silently just right beside their ear, and she found this is more powerful than just read it out loud for all the kids who share the same room.

Accredited Consultant – Hiro Koo Kian Yong – Malaysia 2018

 

Phenomenal change 

“Mum sates that: ‘L’ is starting to show “phenomenal change – really excel”. She made the honour roll at school which “she has never done in her life”.  She ran for an office on student council and was determined to start working out with a personal trainer to enhance her volleyball success.  She stared a nutrition plan, losing 5 lbs. Mum notes that there have actually been “remarkable changes with both girls”. 

L’s change has been dramatic, she is very driven to take extra steps to make varsity team.  Grades in school are now all A’s and B’s. She made the National Honour Society, where she has never made honour roll in the past.  Mum states she made comments that she was “stupid”; now she makes comments that she knows that she is smart.   Her  “confidence is out the roof!”  

She drives her own sleep schedule and makes her own decisions. ‘L’ broke up with a boy that she didn’t feel was truly interested in her prior to homecoming and went with her friends instead.  Mum felt this was a remarkable stand in confidence, whereas prior she would have tended to ‘go along’.”

Accredited Consultant – Joy Hoffman – USA 2019

 

Making new friends

Parents have shared that ‘N’ has settled much more at kindergarten now and has enjoyed a number of different trips and activities out-of-house recently too. 

She has started swimming and is really enjoying the lessons, and her dance class has also restarted and ‘N’ seems happy to meet all the new children. 

Both parents feel The Goulding Process – SleepTalk has been an amazing tool which has empowered them to turn their lives around, and they intend to continue indefinitely!”

Accredited Consultant – Georgina Broendal – Denmark 2018

 

Improving Growth and Development.       

Conclusion: The parents invited me over to dinner; they were delighted with ‘E’s growth and development. They reflected that girls are growing really fast and needed a different approach to parenting.  

The parents realized that being critical does not work for ‘E’.   We have also started The Goulding Process – SleepTalk™  with her sibling recently.  My learning from this is that I am even more convinced that when parents are involved and positive about the process, the rate of improvement increases in amazing ways! 

‘E’ is so lucky to have such dedicated parents!  I am really excited about sharing The Goulding Process – SleepTalk™ with more families!  

Hasnah Bte A. Rahman – Accredited Consultant and Trainer. Singapore 2017  


Autism

Autism

I have had another positive outcome from a Mum with an autistic child, received a note on the weekend indicating how much happier he is and even giving her cuddles spontaneously which he has never done before, the Mum is wrapped with the process.

Yesterday, I received great news regarding the child with autism, they have (through appropriate channels) been able to reduce the boy’s medication, he has had a real turn around because of the use of SleepTalk, so much so, the Grandparent, stood up and provided a testimonial yesterday at my talk. It is just wonderful.

Kirsteen Rowntree – Registered Consultant – Vic 2013

Autism

‘Moderate Autism’. The parents have been consistently delivering SleepTalk® and have found that over the last week he has been going to sleep later and later. He stays in his bed which isn’t a major problem; however he can still be awake up to 2 hours after they have put him to bed. As he has never been a great sleeper his parents are not concerned, but I have felt that this may be part of his reaction to the process.

I have explained that the ‘Foundation’ statements need to be continued until the ‘sub-conscious’ mind has had time to assimilate and accept these new positive suggestions with re-enforcement throughout the daytime. Eventually the positive suggestions of the ‘Foundation’ will become so much stronger than the previously accepted negative ones. Just repeat “deep asleep – deep asleep” as they are putting him to bed and to reinforce they love him and that he is safe.”

Mary Lynch – Consultant NSW


Sibling Rivalry

Sibling Rivalry. 

“ The parent indicated that ‘S’ responded well to The Goulding Process SleepTalk®. Mom was doing the Foundation consistently every night; dad was not willing to participate in the process.

Within 4 weeks, mom noticed a decrease in the frequency, severity, and duration of ‘S’ outbursts.  Bedtimes becoming easier, Mom was feeling less stressed and there was less fighting between the girls.

Accredited Consultant. KP – Canada 2015

 

Sibling Rivalry.

“The parents reported that ‘H’ has been in the past a less confident child despite his high intelligence in completing more advanced tasks and good results in learning. He also had some sibling rivalry issues with his younger sister.

However, a short time after starting the foundation Stage of The Goulding Process – SleepTalk® he has become more open and talkative, and his relationship with his younger sister and his attitude towards her have changed in a very positive way. 

The parents commented with surprise how he made a complete change by being helpful and protective of her in such a short time. Continuing with The Goulding Process- SleepTalk® will make their relationship stronger into the future and benefit the whole family.”

Accredited Consultant: LH – 2018

 

Sibling Rivalry. 

“The parent feedback: ‘P’ is the younger of 2 siblings. Her older brother and her had some sibling rivalry issues prior to starting The Goulding Process- SleepTalk®, with ‘P’ displaying more of the jealousy and attention seeking at times when she thought she was being “left out”.

After the first few weeks of starting the Foundation Stage this behaviour has disappeared. At the same time her parents were very surprised at the growing affection she was showing to both of them, but at times also to others in the family. 

Her relationship to her brother has noticeably improved, and she is also gaining confidence in entering preschool this year. My recommendation is to continue with Foundation Statement and review a potential addition of Specific Statement later in consultation with parents.

Accredited Consultant: LH – 2018

Sibling Rivalry. 

“Parent feedback: ‘C’ wakes up quietly now without any anger. He is calmer in the mornings and getting ready for school is becoming easier for all of the family. He is learning to use self-control and walking away when his brother upsets him.” 

“Consultant feedback: Mum was excited by the results she had achieved and wanted to move on to include the next support suggestion. Mum reported that it had positive results.

‘C’s biggest achievement was to attend a crowded soccer break up and went by himself to get a book of vouchers that was required to get his meals and treats. Mum said this would never have happened before and she was so proud of his achievement.

‘C’ also attended the school fair and happily went off with his big brother to go on rides. Mum feels that ‘C’s level of anxiety in group situations has reduced greatly and that ‘C’s happier to go to school and keen to share his achievements big or small with the family.

He is also confidently speaking on the phone now and going up to shopkeepers and asking for what he wants. The family are still working with ‘C’ to give eye contact.” 

Conclusion.

“I feel that mum has grasped the Goulding Process – SleepTalk®  and used it well. She was very keen for this to work and has been positive all the way through. It has been wonderful to be part of this journey with the family.

It is wonderful to see ‘C’ becoming more confident within him. I am in contact with the family regularly and will follow up on her needs and anything that she requires to support her.”

Accredited Consultant: MP – 2010 Vic 

 

 Sibling Rivalry. 

I feel that Mum saw such a change in her other child using the Goulding Process – SleepTalk®  that she became more excited about using it with ‘F’ as she saw the rewards his sibling was achieving.

Both Mum and I feel that her husband really needs to spend time administering the suggestions to ‘F’ to have a positive effect on their relationship. Mum felt confident in applying the process to ‘F’ without my assistance so we worked on two more suggestions that she would use when she felt it was time.

Accredited Consultant: MP – 2010 Vic 

 

 Sibling Rivalry

“Feedback from mum and dad has been overwhelming; they are simply amazed and so happy that the girls are being “happy little girls”. 

The girls have now started to play with each other a lot more and enjoy each other’s company.

Mum also discussed with me that there has been a whole shift within the family not just with the girls; mum is now enjoying waking up every morning to 2 beautifully happy children this just makes her day.

Dad has now starting calling mum cute names that she has not been called since they were married. Dad and Mum are also enjoying each other’s company a lot more …”

Consultant: ND – 2010

 

 


A parent’s gratitude

Parent feedback – Comment: I just want to pass on my intense gratitude to Joane for the beautiful gift that is The Goulding Process – SleepTalk®.

I’m not one to reach out or write reviews on books or products but feel compelled this time to let Joane know that she has truly changed my life and the lives of both my 6 year old warrior (burkitt’s lymphoma survivor) and his younger brother.

As you know the wounds you can’t see can be the most difficult to heal so a year after the blessing of Hudson’s physical battle coming to an end, I felt myself and my parenting abilities crumbling. My family was in distress.

Conventional therapy felt wrong and more damaging than helpful. Mainstream parenting techniques left me more confused and angry because the gift of my son’s battle has to be the ability to truly appreciate these little angels for what they are.

I feel so strongly that every parent should know about this method and pray for the foundation’s blessing. You are empowering parents and healing relationships/ wounds and I can’t think of more important work at this time on the planet.

Thank you from the bottom of my heart,

USA – Amanda Paige – SleepTalk® Parent


Feedback from parents

I wanted to share with you just some of the feedback from within the last 12 months that I have had from parents. It gives me such pleasure to be able to help families make transformations at home with the use of such a practical, easy to apply process. Enjoy!

2012 Jenny Harrison- UK Consultant

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“We are all going to work and school in a better mood these days as my son’s mood seems to be much more balanced and can you believe it- he is even more cooperative and brushes his teeth now when asked- do you remember when I joked about that and said I will just be pleased if he starts to do that! He is now!”

Parent of 9 year old boy, after following the bedtime routine for just 3 weeks, Cheadle Hulme.

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“I had a letter from my daughter’s teacher today to say that her confidence at school has improved and she is now speaking in class and asking for help. I have also seen improvements in her written work- I have seen it with my own eyes! Also when she reads she reads with more tone now and more expression! I am so grateful.”

Parent in Holland, whom 5 weeks prior to beginning SleepTalk was considering giving up work to home school, due to her daughter’s lack of confidence.

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“Thanks, been a definite improvement – most days no accidents so very pleased. Thanks for all your help”

Parent of a 3 year old boy toilet training, Warrington

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“I love it already!”

Mum before she had even began at home, following the training session.

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“My 9 year old son came in to the kitchen the other morning and said that he had a ‘warm feeling’ in his tummy…”

One parents comments in the first week of saying the SleepTalk words to her boys at bedtime

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“Since I have been saying the SleepTalk words to my daughter it has made me feel more positive as a person. It was a negative year last year for me but I now feel more positive as a person. I have definitely seen an improvement in N’s wellbeing and her tantrums are obviously still there because that is ‘normal’ with her being 3 years old but now they are less frequent and she calms much more quickly now”

N.G, Warrington

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“There is no doubt in our minds that SleepTalk works. It has given us our beautiful little boy back!”

Mum of 2, Knutsford

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“It used to take a long time for our kids to get going in the morning, now after a few weeks of saying the SleepTalk lovely words to them at bedtime they are waking up with smiley faces in the morning! We feel we are seeing good results from using this great technique!”

Parents of 2, Cheadle, Stockport

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“B has been dry 4 out of 5 nights this week after one week into the program! I will keep you posted”

J B- Hale, Cheshire- Mother of five year old boy

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“Now that I have learnt the Sleeptalk technique I understand how it works and ‘get it’. My son is already waking up in a great mood and feeling better about himself…I will keep you posted with any changes in the next few weeks!”

C. Hartigan, Stockport, Cheshire- Mother of 4 children

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“I overheard my son the other day playing with his toys in his bedroom singing Today’s a happy day…!”

Mum of two, Bramhall, Cheshire

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“I don’t know whether I’m being optimistic but I think I have seen changes already in the first few days of doing the SleepTalk®”

Mrs. C, Cheadle- after 3 days of saying the SleepTalk.

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“Since speaking with you I think about the words I am using now with my daughter and I say to her that she CAN do something”

Mum, Warrington

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“SleepTalk® was a solution to A’s bedwetting. Within the first week of the second stage of the SleepTalk® program, he was getting up and going to the toilet.“

Mrs. B, Knutsford

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“I just can’t believe how things have changed when we look back to how things were just three months ago. At a recent party I couldn’t believe it when I turned around and A had just run off to play- he used to be so clingy to us! Delighted!”

Dad, Knutsford.

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“I worked with Jenny as I had read about SleepTalk® and felt that my 10-year-old son would greatly benefit from it. I found that the SleepTalk® process fitted easily into our routine and we have always remained dedicated to keeping the process part of the night-time routine, as Jenny explained how important this was.

We found that there was ‘feedback’ within a matter of days as my son began getting up in the morning for school in a really good mood, with plenty of energy.

Other results included the fact that my son’s teacher and head teacher noted that he had been writing more in his written work and also that he was more confident with his moths – even asking to come in at playtime to do his moths work!

As my son became more confident and self-assured, it was noticeable that he began to socialise better with his peers, and the best example of this is that he began to be invited to more parties.

The behaviour change that had led to this improvement in the classroom – he was now beginning to feel self confident – also meant that S. didn’t feel the need to behave in an attention-seeking manner, which could be seen as disruptive.

We are now working with the specific ‘suggestions’ as my son is working through important exams.

We have truly found that SleepTalk® has been a tool that has been easy to fit into our routine and one that has made a huge difference to our family’s life.

There is no doubt that the program is “working”. When my son said “Mum, everything has been great since 3 weeks ago!”

He didn’t quite know why it was – but we knew. It was 3 weeks prior to this, that we had started the SleepTalk® programme!

We continue to use this program now and I would highly recommend it to any parent of any child. The results really do speak for themselves.”

Mrs. S – Cheshire Mother of a 10 year old child with additional needs

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“Initially I didn’t think SleepTalk® would have the potential to work on my 3 year old daughter, however after trying the technique that Jenny demonstrated I found my 3 year old to be calmer and more settled with here bedtime routine. The SleepTalk® process was very easy to follow and manage. Jenny made us feel at ease with the simple technique helping us with every step of the way. On the whole it has been a worthwhile contribution to my daughter’s now very healthy sleeping routine”

Nicola, Stockport, Cheshire

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“SleepTalk has not been a bind at all – it literally takes minutes and I love saying the words to my daughter.”

 Mum’s comments after a week of the process

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“I really think that the process helped T deal with the grief he had for his dog. Within one week he seemed to be talking more about him and we were able to have little talks about the memory of him.”

D.H Cheshire

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“D used to struggle with non-uniform day- it used to really stress him out. This morning he just got up, got dressed and went to school!”

Mum of 7 year old boy, Cheshire

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“Hi I was just talking in the staff room yesterday about SleepTalk® – people always think it is for children with sleeping problems! Anyway just wanted to say that since starting SleepTalk® the whole family has noticed an improvement in my Dan’s behaviour. It is hard to believe that with so little time and effort our daily lives have improved so much. Dan is a much calmer boy now and has fewer tantrums; in fact it is now a rare occurrence that we have to send him to his room for time out (it used to be a couple of times a day at weekends). It is also a lovely time for me to go into his room at night and whisper to him it is a nice end to the day regardless of it being a good day or not. Dan is definitely waking up ‘bright and happy’ these days – we love it!”

Mary – Stockport- Parent of two children and a primary school teacher


Children who have been abused

Parent’s personal story received from an accredited consultant.

I am a single mum of 3 very active boys, and I began using sleep talk with my 2 youngest children aged 7 & 10 four months ago.  My 13 year old was proving to be more difficult to use the technique on, but I began a modified approach of turning a light on instead of stroking his face about 6 weeks ago, and I have noticed a marked improvement in all my childrens’ behaviour as a result.

My children unfortunately have grown up in a family environment that involved emotional abuse and at times verbal and physical abuse from their father.  After 2 &1/2 years post separation, and my children only seeing their father every second weekend, their behaviour was still a copy of their father’s, as they had grown up for many years seeing how he behaved.

They were highly anxious, and pretty much anything could trigger a violent explosion of rage which involved physical abuse to me or their brothers or destruction of property, including holes in walls, doors and a smashed window. They were having massive tantrums that were uncontrollable, and they needed to be physically restrained for them to stop. It was an exhausting cycle for all.

Throughout the post separation, my children all attended regular counselling and my eldest son is seeing a psychologist who specializes in children who are violent to their parents. They were getting a lot of support, but they still communicated on a level where they deliberately ‘baited’ each other, which always ended in some form of abuse between each other, and at times me.

I was finding it extremely difficult to break the cycle of abuse they had learned, and how to teach them to use a new type of communication that involved; respect, thoughtfulness and kindness. My psychologist recommended me to Nicola Lane as my 2 youngest sons were still bed wetting, and she had heard from Nicola that she had successful reports of treating this issue.

When I met Nicola she discussed “The Goulding Process – SleepTalk®” with me. I had never heard of it, but thought if I could reduce the general level of anxiety in our house hold, as well as curing the bed wetting then it was worth a shot.

At first I noticed a slow change in the feel of the household, whilst beginning the process, and I can confidently say that today I have quiet moments in our house where my children are content in their own space, without trying to ‘get a reaction’ from someone.

My children are now able to communicate to me and each other using respectful language and the general ‘angst’ in the household has been significantly reduced.

Whilst my 2 youngest still bed wet, I have noticed that the amount of urine produced over night is significantly less, which is an improvement that I have not had consistently in the past. I am confident that will settle over time, with the continual use of sleep talk.

It’s my eldest son that I have noticed such a marked improvement in, in such a short time. He has a new found general level of respect for me, and follows instructions without a constant barrage of excuses and stalling  behaviour. Given his teen age moods are beginning it’s a blessing.

My middle son suffered from high levels of anxiety, which inhibited his learning process at school. His spelling in particular improved, so that within 3 months he had stopped needing special assistance and a lower level of literacy work sheets, he moved up to the same level as the rest of the class, which increased his self-esteem immensely.

I know I have implemented a lot of strategies over the past few years, but it is my firm belief that Sleep Talk has both complemented and hastened the outcome I have been trying so hard to achieve.

I have even gone on to receive hypnotherapy sessions myself, as I recognised that my past trauma was surfacing when my children became abusive, and I wasn’t able to react in a manner that was always the most effective. A lot of time I would simply freeze and/or shut down when my children physically abused me. That no longer happens, and my children now are receiving a different reaction from me when they become abusive.

I find the words in ‘The Goulding Process – SleepTalk®’ to be really comforting to me when I read them to my boys. In the early days when my boys became agitated I would say the first few lines to them and by the 3rd time they would start to relax in my arms. The words were soothing to them and for me using them, to help reduce their personal anguish.

I would highly recommend ‘Sleep Talk’ to any parent. In my opinion it helps a family function in a healthy manner, fostering love between all members and depending on the ‘support statements’ used, it can be a highly effective way to modify beliefs, and accordingly behaviour that stems from those beliefs.

Whilst the process does require commitment from the parent to do it on a regular basis and you do need to keep track of bed times, it is well worth the energy, and you will be rewarded over and over with the resulting change to your children.

Compared to some of the challenges I have dealt with, using The Goulding Process- Sleep Talk has been remarkably easy, and my commitment to it has given my family at times a new found sense of peace, love and calmness, that has been sadly lacking in our lives for a very long time.

Accredited and registered consultant:  Nicola Lane – Australia 2012– Nicola Lane – Australia.


ADD – Attention Deficit Disorder

From a mother’s perspective, I found the SleepTalk® process a beautiful one. It gives me the opportunity to reflect daily on what matters most; unconditional love. Over the months, I found myself much more accepting of “H’s” imperfections. In the past I was very anxious about his lack of desire to help others or lack of interest in social activities. Today, I see him positively challenging himself to experience and adapt to new situations. I now feel secure watching him move forward into the next chapter of his life.

This experience has certainly made me more confident in sharing the SleepTalk® process with others. Thank you Joane for bringing light into so many families!

Consultant – Singapore: 2012


Anger, tantrums

Mum of two talks about how The Goulding Process helped her two children.

Audio only.


Behaviour, eating issues, tantrums and confidence

Katie talks about how The Goulding SleepTalk process helped her son sleep better, enjoy his food more and feel calmer and happier within himself. Katie describes the stress that she felt prior to learning this method and how she has been able to help her son develop a confidence that is helping him to thrive in his life.


Separation anxiety, Fear

A Goulding SleepTalk Consultant talks about case histories.  The Goulding SleepTalk Process is a method whereby parents are involved in building self esteem and an awareness of unconditional love in their children, as well as dealing with behavioral and emotional issues. SleepTalk is a valuable parenting tool for all parents.


Adoption

A Goulding SleepTalk Consultant talks about case histories.
The Goulding SleepTalk Process is a method whereby parents are involved in building self esteem and an awareness of unconditional love in their children, as well as dealing with behavioral and emotional issues. SleepTalk is a valuable parenting tool for all parents.

 


Sibling Rivalry

Sibling Rivalry 

Oh, my God! It’s working. Today was such a good day. My 13 year old, is still sarcastic and trying to put down her sister, but she successfully ignored her nasty comments. 

SleepTalk Mum – Japan 2013 

 

Sibling Rivalry .

“Had a very positive result, her sleep improved by 90% and so did her ability to remain calm and deal with anger.

She is very affectionate with all family members including her sister who previously was scratched and bitten by her daily.

She has also become completely toilet trained and dry at night. Speech was also an issue, so after introducing additional ‘specific’ suggestions, the educators commented at her day care: “She has really found her voice and become confident and outgoing”.

The parents will continue to use The Goulding Process – SleepTalk® to help her navigate her way through future changes and make good choices.”

Accredited Consultant: Olivia Walford – Vic 2018

 

Sibling Rivalry.

“Very positive feedback again, parents are very content – all marks of ‘A’ are in the positive range now, eating habits changed greatly, he is much more sociable in kindergarten and basically peaceful at home, quarrels have stopped. ‘M’ shows further improvements too.

‘A’ has moved from a problematic and annoying behaviour pattern to a much more sociable, more patient state in general. There has been lots of good feedback from the kindergarten staff and the relation between the 2 kids have improved greatly.

There are still minor quarrels about sharing toys, but that is considered normal competitiveness and home quarrels have stopped, parents much more peaceful in general. The process has changed their attitudes too towards the children – very healthy communication”. 

Consultant: Peter Solymos – Budapest 2014.

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 Self-Esteem – Sibling Rivarly. 

“Very positive feedback again, the mother is very content – all marks of ‘B’ are in the positive range now. ‘B’ continues sports and is generally much more calm and with very good marks.

‘D’ shows further improvements too, though remains disinterested in sports and other activities, and her ability to remain calm changes up and down over time, despite of a visible general increase in self-esteem.

The mother has dropped significantly in doing the talks every night, but intends to get back to it upon the results of this review.

Both kids have grown greatly in self-esteem, and their general feeling at home and school has improved significantly as well. The mother has grown enormously in self-esteem and the change is very visible.

The relation of the 2 kids has improved visibly too, less frustration at home for the mother. ‘D’ still needs some attention but looking at the marks she is well on the way. We introduced additional suggestions but it does not show an effect on the targeted traits, but may attribute to the general improvement. The mother became interested in applying the process in her work because she occasionally helps children.”

Consultant: Peter Solymos – Budapest 2014.

 

 

Sibling Rivalry 

“After 12 weeks of The Goulding Process- SleepTalk Foundation Stage. SleepTalk was strictly followed everyday by the mother! 

 

• Mum noticed results after two weeks of the SleepTalk process and the first observation was the increase in the confidence level where he became more approachable to try new things or new learning challenges believing in his own abilities! 

 

• Soon his reading and writing improved dramatically along his grades and he was awarded from school for the amount of reading he is doing! 

 

• His ability to express himself improved slightly but he was able to make better sense using his mother tongue language! 

 

• His attitude toward school improved and is more focused on the positive aspects of the teachers rather than their flaws as with his very high logic and reasoning cognitive skills. sometimes he was making more sense than his teachers! 

 

• The mother was so happy by his ability to remain calm and manage his anger very reasonably. She said that this has improved so much that the relationship with his brother and sister is getting so much better!

 

Feedback Report:  There is no more hair pulling at all which has stopped completely. Nail biting is still on but at a very less frequency! 

‘Y’ took some time to understand the shift in his mother behaviour after focusing so much on high grades and results. Signs of anxiety is still there but he is able to go through tests and is more motivated to put more! 

All kids love the process and they call their mother before they sleep and ask her to sleep talk to them !

Consultant: NT – UAE 2017

 

Sibling Rivalry. 

“ The Goulding Process – SleepTalk® was recommended and explained thoroughly and the need to do it to all kids where the mother can approach the teenagers from a bit of a distance or the door step because of his age. 

After 12 weeks of offering the Goulding Process – SleepTalk Foundation Stage! The Process  was strictly followed everyday by the mother and she recorded the voice of the father as he used to travel a lot. 

Mum started reporting changes every week. First they were smaller changes where the tantrums took just a little bit less time and the improvements increased weekly.

Mum became so motivated with the process and the obvious changes for the whole 12 weeks.! Her son’s tantrums times and length kept getting shorter and more manageable. He was able to control his nerves and even started thinking positively and looking at the good side in situations.

He became more confident and not venerable to simple situations where he became so flexible and secure within. He was also able to speak up for himself and report situations where he needed to explain himself and his reactions and he was convincing and never lied. 

His teachers started reporting significant changes and by the end of the year he was given an award for best behaviour in school which left the mother thrilled! 

The relationship with siblings softened gradually and now they are more understanding and tolerant to each other. Mother reported that he is even more empathetic with his older brother and sister! 

The siblings relationship became much stronger as the communication between them got stronger and they were able to talk, set rules and follow them through and she is enjoying him outside everywhere even in the mall which used to be a great challenge!

Mum also reported that he doesn’t like to spend more time alone than he used to do before.!  Harmony was restored to the whole home and she felt much happier and reported that she felt her life has changed.

Consultant: NT – UAE 2017

 

Sibling Rivalry

A Goulding SleepTalk Consultant talks about case histories. This one is his own story. The Goulding SleepTalk Process is a method whereby parents are involved in building self esteem and an awareness of unconditional love in their children, as well as dealing with behavioral and emotional issues. SleepTalk is a valuable parenting tool for all parents.

 


Autism

This video shows an interview with Joane Goulding, the developer of the Goulding SleepTalk Process, and a Sleeptalk Consultant (Has) who explains the dramatic results achieved using the process with two children and their parents.

 


Asperger’s Syndrome

This interview is with Joane Goulding and a Sleeptalk Consultant from Singapore who had used the Goulding SleepTalk Process to enhance her son’s well-being, and self confidence. It is remarkable because he was diagnosed with A.D.D. and a very high IQ. He is also one of the oldest children ever that SleepTalk was used as a primary change modality.

 


Sight impaired, Speech

This is the young girl who was very anxious, is blind and communicates in sign as she is not able to speak (at this point). This young lass has gone from her Mum spending 20 minutes coaxing her out of the car into a new environment to presenting at a conference (this was done so well she has been asked to present in New Zealand). Her Mum for the first time in her life is able to consider that she may be able to live independently. I spoke with her Mum when in Adelaide for a family funeral the weekend just gone and she is ready to add to the existing statement to support and encourage her daughter further. She is not speaking but there has been an increase in her making vocal sounds so slowly but surely progress is occurring. The massive transformation in relation to confidence has occurred over an 11 month period.

2012 – Consultant:  Kirsteen Rowntree


Habitual cough, stress, anxiety

7 February 2012

I met with Mr and Mrs B in February 2012 in relation to their 7 year old son who at the time had a habitual cough.  The cough was believed to be in relation to anxiety and personal confidence and parents ruled out any allergies or medical conditions.

B was using an inhaler for asthma and was taking vitamins.

B’s Mum spoke about B’s habitual behaviours such as chewing of clothes, smelling hands and more recently a persistent cough that teachers were noticing at school as were B’s peers. It was something that was causing anxiety and upset for parents and was very obvious at school and at home.

Aside from this behaviour, B was also tearful in class and would complain about having tummy aches and headaches. Mum and Dad said that B was quite irrational at times and was tearful and would rage.

I spoke with parents at the end of March and B’s teacher had said that B had had a good term, the cough had decreased and that she had noticed improvements whilst in the classroom.  During the Easter holidays parents reported that the cough was minimal.  B then started back to school and the weekend prior to going back to school the cough had returned.

To note – the process was stopped over the Easter holidays as parents went away on holiday and were unable to fit the technique in with routine.

I advised that behaviour may have reverted as the process had stopped for two weeks and with this in mind it was suggested to continue with the basic foundation words for a further two weeks until we had seen improvements in the cough again for us to then move onto the support stage where we would add specific words for B to the foundation words. Parents had also had a consultant check up prior to their holiday abroad and B had been weaned off the inhaler that he was on and all allergies had been tested and it was shown that there were no food allergies, milk allergies and no environment allergies.  Mum was advised by Doctor that it was possibly anxiety related and that B would grow out of it.
17 April 2012

I met with B’s Mum mid April and there had been a further improvement again in the cough within the two weeks of delivering the foundation words again. Mum reported that the cough had decreased again and commented that they had watched a program the week prior and couldn’t hear it as B was coughing so much through it. One week later they watched the same program with ease as B’s habitual cough had decreased.

Other things that were reported by Mum were that B was now more receptive to going to other children’s houses to play, talking more expressively and displaying through words that he was able to rationalise more in his mind.  B was also happy to read with more confidence and was applying himself more in his studies.

The behaviour of hand smelling had stopped in the first 6 weeks and although B was still having outbursts they were more stable than they had been before. We decided on the support words to add to the foundation words which were: You are calm, safe and in control.

22 May 2012

I spoke with B’s Mum to check progress and Mum reported that she couldn’t remember the last time that B had coughed. It was recommended to continue with the process for a further two months.

Consultant: Jenny Harrison UK


Anger

Hi Joane, I’d like to take the time to thank you for sharing your amazing technique with the world. Sleeptalk has been remarkable for my little boy who was always angry/grumpy/moody, not sleeping well, felt unsafe etc to become so happy, resilient, positive and far less anxious – this happened over night!

I had exhausted all avenues in regards to “finding a solution to making him better” and feel so relieved to finally find the key to his issues. I still do not know why he was the way he was as we have tried to be good parents over the years but we are grateful to have a much more harmonious household! Now I see this is what having children should be like.

Thank you again. I have told so many friends about your book over the past few weeks and hope you get some sales from it.

SleepTalk Mum – AW June 2012


Tantrums, Self-confidence, Sibling rivalry, Education

A is a 5 year old boy who lives with his Mum and Dad and his little sister aged 2. Both parents were in a loving relationship and both keen to do the SleepTalk® technique together with both their children.

The initial reasons for A’s Mum wanting to use the SleepTalk method were to help him establish more self-confidence and assurance. Mum also noted that A was a premature baby and she said that she had experienced a few challenges along the way with A’s health due to this early birth.

17 August 2011

I met with both parents in August 2011. At this time A was described as a very intelligent, imaginative boy who knew just how to get his Mum’s attention through what was described as a “whiney voice”.

Mum commented how A could attempt to be very controlling when she was talking with other adults and didn’t want to “share his mum”. He would scream and go into ‘melt downs’ and this was often worse when A didn’t know people that well and felt uncomfortable in new surroundings. This was described to me as “clingy behaviour”.

Both Mum and Dad very loving parents who often spent much time with both children in the day time, but there was obviously some underlying belief that A had, and this was leading him to feel uncomfortable in new situations and only secure when with parents. At the time A was resistant in learning things himself, not keen to try new classes, and commented that he was most happy when “at home with Mummy and Daddy”.

The other thing that Mum and Dad wanted assistance with was to get to the core reason for A’s fussy eating, as he would often seek attention at meal times and both parents felt that there was a lot of fuss around eating.  I left both parents with the SleepTalk® folder and they were confident with the process and how to apply it at bedtime.

13 October 2011

I met with A’s parents for the second time after they had been saying the ‘Foundation’ SleepTalk® suggestions to A for approximately 8 weeks. Mum said that A seemed “more level” now with his confidence and emotions. He was “snapping out of his whiney voice” much quicker and “able to control his emotions a lot better”.  He seemed to be calmer and less anxious and “more comfortable in his own skin”, parents said.    It was noted that A was more confident without parents and not as “needy” in new situations.

Dad said that he was delighted when he took A to a friend’s party on his own as Mum was away that weekend and A just ran off and played. Dad said that he was convinced that when they got there A would be clingy and yet when he turned around he had run off to play!  You could see how pleased Dad was with this change in a matter of 7 weeks!

The one thing that still stood out was that A was still coming in to his parent’s bed at approx 12 am and lying right next to them indicating a need to be near his parents still. This was after he had wet his pull ups. So he would wee in his pull ups and then go to parent’s bed and get in with them. So together we looked for a suitable support statement to add to the Foundation words.

21 November 2011

I met with A’s parents again approx 5 weeks later. A had dry pull ups at bedtime within a week!  Within one week A was getting up to go to the toilet himself and going back to his own bed where before he was going to his parents bed and getting in with them.

A was then going to his parents bed at approx 5 am and Dad said that he was more “calm and cuddly when getting in the bed rather than in a needy way”.

Both parents said that they didn’t feel that this was an issue now with A coming in at that time as it was nearly time to awaken for the day, so we didn’t address this any further and agreed that he would most probably grow out of this and when he got his new bed.

Mum said that A was now eating a better quantity of food and not fighting as much at meal times which could also have been due to the fact A was now taking quality Vitamin B tablets for children. Due to the sibling rivalry suggestions of the SleepTalk®, A was now saying that he loved his sister in the day time to her – so verbalising his feelings more freely and more understanding with his younger sister.

Parents noticed an improvement with his writing and school reported an improvement with his concentration in his work. Again, following a family weekend away, parents noticed that A was becoming more and more confident in unusual and new situations. He was now getting more sleep due to staying in his own bed longer at night time and was more settled therefore sleeping for longer periods of time.

Mum mentioned that whenever A showed a sign of anxiety which was rare these days, she would say some of the SleepTalk® words to him in a loving manner and his “shoulders would just drop and he would become more relaxed”.  Increased cooperation meant that A was now more understanding of what his parents were saying to him and so he now listened when they were explaining things to him and he was more cooperative.

Summary

In summary there were notable improvements in sleep, bedwetting, eating, self security, confidence and self esteem, general well-being, communication, studies, and communication and relationships with parents within 3 months.

Both parents remained fully committed to the program throughout the whole 3 months, alternating the evenings that they said the words to their child and used some of the positive wording in the daytime to gain optimal benefits for their child.

2012 – Jenny Harris – UK – SleepTalk consultant.


Diet and behavioural issues

We heard about your book from a dear friend who has used the techniques for her daughter, they lost their home in the Traralgon bush fires in 2009, and even though her daughter was only seven months old at the times it affected her a lot, my friend now has a bubbly child that would give you the world if she could.  I am planning to use the techniques in the book alongside the elimination diet in a book called: “Fed up” by Sue Dengate. We are hoping that with a change of diet which removes preservatives and additives, along with your book of techniques we will have a child that is a lot easier to deal with and more aware of how others feel when he acts in his ways. I look forward to working with you and to a happier family without arguments.

2012 SleepTalk Mum.  MF


Anxiety

Anxiety in the cot

I have been doing just the foundation statement for the last 3 weeks and have noticed that when my 18 month old wakes now she is not screaming or crying out my name. In the last few days she has been in her cot playing and laughing.

Thanks again SleepTalk Mum ‘V’

 

Anxiety. 

My conclusion: The changes seen are great and very encouraging showing SleepTalk® has been implemented correctly by parent and the Foundation Statements accepted by ‘S’. However, she seems to still have an underlying level of anxiety that expresses with health issues (psoriasis) and it seems that there is a risk of developing a bad habit by eating more sugar. Fear of being hurt is still there but improving.

It was agreed that the Primary area of need is: Confidence and Anxiety. Specific suggestions were offered and agreed by Mum.  Mum reported to me early February that the suggestions were going amazing and she was really happy.

Accredited Consultant: Maguelonne Rousseau – 2016 – Singapore

 

 Anxiety.

“Parents of ‘N’ state she has absolutely blossomed during the process over the past 4 months, her confidence has grown exponentially and she was just awarded a prize in a public speaking school competition, something her parents are quite astounded and thrilled with.  She actively engages in conversation around the dinner table and happily shares her opinions and thoughts.  Her family are thrilled with the confidence she has displayed and she has been interacting well with her school friends and peers and taking great interest in school activities and happy to try new things.  She has had a significant decrease in timidity and less nervous.

Parents have enjoyed the process and feel that there is no doubt that the process has been very beneficial for their daughter.  They would like to continue the statement often as they all feel benefit.”

2018 – Accredited Consultant: Carla Pahl – HongKong

 

Fear and Anxiety. 

“The parents reported that ‘A’ had improved in physical ability and her approach to kindergarten.  She is taking more risks and attempting tasks that in the past may have been too overwhelming. Although still some anxiety but seems to be working in herself to overcome it. It takes a great deal of effort but now she can do it.  She is calmer; some of her fears are no longer a factor and Mum cannot recall her grinding her teeth at all recently. 

Mum reports that there has been considerable change in several areas that justifies moving to Level 2.  Fear and Anxiety are still issues for ‘A’ as she is still being affected by her difficulty to cope with change. It is being addressed at Kindergarten, and the parents still have some concerns. 

She is sensitive and empathetic and needs to improve her confidence and ability to handle “whatever comes along” and to keep herself calm when she is overwhelmed with nerves.  Specific Suggestion were introduced and the “sandwich” structure explained and to repeat the new suggestion 5 times.

Feedback: The new baby arrived a week after our meeting, and Mum said that while it has been a little difficult, they have been doing The Goulding Process- SleepTalk® whenever possible – both siblings. Feedback from this family has been delightful. ‘A’ has told her mum at kindergarten that she feels “strong and happy today”! I am concluding the case study at this point, but I intend to follow up monthly.”

Accredited Consultant: Kim High – Australia 2019 

 

Anxiety. 

We had our last update in December 2018. Based on the conversation, the client told me that ‘J’ is now not so afraid of meeting new people, willing to listen and share more, and engage more activities. 

The client appreciated the help the process had offered her and her family. Although the monitoring experiment has come to an end, she will still continue to apply this process either during waking or night state.

Accredited Consultant: Lee Hong Yiap – Singapore 2018


Hearing impairment

Hi Joane,

I have been trying SleepTalk with my daughter to help her control her nervous facial tics but am having a few problems. The first is that she is moderately deaf in her right ear and tends to sleep with that ear up or roll on to her left ear part way through the sleep talk. I obviously need her to hear what I am saying so I don’t quite know how to handle this one. If there is some level of hearing I’m not sure that it would be a problem. I would suggest that you also present the SleepTalk statements during the day to reinforce them. Another query I have is that as I walk into the room she generally starts rolling and moving about. That in fact is fantastic in that it indicates your daughter has transferred immediately, so don’t even bother to stroke her. Just start saying: “Stay asleep”  perhaps only once to ensure she remains in the correct brain wave frequency and then commence the process.. Do I still start stroking her head NO, because she has already transferred and is waiting for you to  say and saying ” stay asleep” yes, but only repeat it once because she has already transferred to the awareness or does this indicate that she isn’t in a deep enough sleep No, all is correct because she has transferred and waiting for your suggestions. I feel your daughter is slightly anxious so this will definitely assist. and that I should come back later? No, stay and complete the suggestions  She frequently wakes during the sleep talk (even though I am following the procedure to the letter) that’s not a problem, just continue with the process and if she asks what you’re doing, just incorporate the statements into your reply. Such as: “I’m just telling you how much I love you, etc, etc. and will ask me what I was doing in the morning. Don’t go into explanations and just use words within the suggested statements, I’m just telling you I love you………. Eventually she will just not be bothered, but if it continues and your concerned just give me a call or email meJ. You are also welcome to organise a private session with me if needed.   I really hope you can help me. Don’t be too concerned – the main thing is you can’t do harm, but do contact me if you’re worried.J Hope to hear from you very soon.

Jan 2012 – NSW Mum ‘N’


Self Esteem

Hello Joane, I’d like to thank you for allowing us to help our children with their self-esteem by sharing sleep talk with us, and so many other people. I believe the foundation process has really given my son ‘E’ the extra confidence he needed to deal with starting school and the issues that arose with friends etc.

Parent SM – SA


Hearing impairment

Hi Joane, I have been trying SleepTalk with my daughter to help her control her nervous facial tics but am having a few problems. The first is that she is moderately deaf in her right ear and tends to sleep with that ear up or roll on to her left ear part way through the SleepTalk. I obviously need her to hear what I am saying so I don’t quite know how to handle this one.

Joane: If there is some level of hearing I’m not sure that it would be a problem. I would suggest that you also present the SleepTalk statements during the day to reinforce them.

Another query I have is that as I walk into the room she generally starts rolling and moving about.

Joane: That in fact is fantastic in that it indicates your daughter has transferred immediately, so don’t even bother to stroke her. Just start saying: “Stay asleep”  perhaps only once to ensure she remains in the correct brain wave frequency and then commence the process.

Do I still start stroking her head?

Joane: NO, because she has already transferred and is waiting for you, only repeat “Stay asleep” once because she has already transferred to the awareness

does this indicate that she isn’t in a deep enough sleep?

Joane: No, all is correct because she has transferred and waiting for your suggestions. I feel your daughter is slightly anxious so this will definitely assist.

or  should I come back later?

Joane: No, stay and complete the suggestions  

She frequently wakes during the sleep talk (even though I am following the procedure to the letter)

Joane: that’s not a problem, just continue with the process and if she asks what you’re doing, just incorporate the statements into your reply. Such as: “I’m just telling you how much I love you”, etc, etc.

and if she asks me what I was doing in the morning?

Joane: Don’t go into explanations and just use words within the suggested statements, I’m just telling you I love you… Eventually she will just not be bothered, but if it continues and your concerned just give me a call or email me. You are also welcome to organise a private session with me if needed.

I really hope you can help me.

Joane: Don’t be too concerned – the main thing is you can’t do harm, but do contact me if you’re worried.

Hope to hear from you very soon.

Jan 2012 – NSW Mum ‘N’


Hearing Impairment

Hi Joane, thought I would share with you the joy of working with the Goulding SleepTalk with my granddaughter & daughter. As you know my daughter & granddaughter live in the UK and I was previously aware of SleepTalk prior to training with you as a consultant. I had sent a book and re-recorded a cd for my granddaughter who is now 8yrs of age and is plus 80% deaf. In particular I wish to highlight the benefits it afforded my daughter as well as focusing her thoughts and dealing with her “stuff”.

When my daughter was using the program with the little one, after about month she noticed an improvement with my granddaughters clarity and an ability to put things in prospective. I must add my daughter has suffered severe depression of varying degrees since probably her mid to late 20’s , she is now 35. So they together used the program a little ad hock over a year and it was re enforced when they come to oz for a holiday.

I was privileged enough to have both my girls here in July 2011 for 2 .5 months, I restarted the program with my daughters blessing, religiously every evening she would go into the room when my granddaughter was sleeping and say the wording. The difference in my granddaughter from being an unaware full time career for her mum, to a very happy young child with vitality love life and a yearning to learn. My granddaughter wanted to go to the library and we were bring books home chosen by her age related. Her concentration, enthusiasm for life fun & laughter developed beyond all recognition. To my daughter the transition was amazing.

The reading age off my granddaughter improved from 8/9 to 12 year old, no fear and to see a timid little girl acting as though she wanted to be on stage was so rewarding. It’s so hard to put into words when this wonderful transition was happening before my eyes, yet I knew and believed in this fabulous program.

Every parent should experience & grandparent as well should witness for themselves. For me the greatest joy was the week before my girls were due to fly back to the UK. My granddaughter was saying good morning and after asking how she slept, she replied, “in every way it gets better & better”

My final word. My granddaughter wears 2 hearing aids and has no hearing once removed, in total isolation. This beautiful program offers understanding and clarity to parents in an unobtrusive not obvious way of dealing with their stuff. Children have an ability to live a full and positive life as it gets better in every way.

From a very proud consultant & grandma.

Allison Roe. Aussie Consultant


Affected by bushfires

We heard about your book from a dear friend who has used the techniques for her daughter, they lost their home in the Traralgon bush fires in 2009, and even though her daughter was only seven months old at the times it affected her a lot, my friend now has a bubbly child that would give you the world if she could.  I am planning to use the techniques in the book alongside the elimination diet in a book called: “Fed up” by Sue Dengate.  We are hoping that with a change of diet which removes preservatives and additives, along with your book of techniques we will have a child that is a lot easier to deal with and more aware of how others feel when he acts in his ways. I look forward to working with you and to a happier family without arguments.

2012 SleepTalk Mum.  MF


Psycho-nutrition

I just wanted to tell you that the psycho-nutrition section of the SleepTalk training had a profound effect on me and has resulted in us changing our diets, changing household and personal care items to remove the toxicity and introducing good quality supplementation. As a result the health of the house has just gone through the roof.

Ali Wass – SA – Consultant


Anxiety

Anxiety

I have been doing just the foundation statements for the last 3 weeks and have noticed that when my 18 month old wakes now she is not screaming or crying out my name. In the last few days she has been in her cot playing and laughing.

Thanks again, SleepTalk Mum, ‘V’

 

Anxiety.

“Amazing progress has been made for ‘Z’, her anxiety levels have been down so much and both parents report that it was possible to prep her for situations and talk her through challenges beforehand, which made a huge difference. The Goulding Process – SleepTalk® and the communication techniques given, helped the parents to respond to ‘Z’s struggles in a different way, which they say has also had a positive influence. 

Talking her through the situation she will be facing, using rescue remedy nightly and lavender oil to help her calm down in the new situation. The grandparents send pictures of the room she is going to sleep in, so that they can use it as a prep-phase help.

 

The first Mind Profile questionnaire document clearly showed that the main area of concern was anxiety. ‘Z’ did manage to stay in the room with the cousins and she did so easily, to really the surprise of everyone witnessing it. 

Both parents report that there has been an in general improvement of the family situation due to the fact that both parents feel more competent with SleepTalk® as a tool. ‘Z‘s father has softened immensely in his parenting approach with this experience, which in itself is a huge success and eases the tension between the parents quite substantially. Yeah hey The Goulding Process- SleepTalk® !!”

Accredited Consultant – Cornelia Dahinten – Zurick 2019

 

 

 Anxiety.

“The parents feedback states that he complains less, is doing much better and is much less afraid. He is less stressed or anxious and not biting his nails/flesh anymore. The parents are happy with his progress and mentioned the first time he said to his mother: I love you Mom!  The parents said that in the mornings, ‘M’ was energetic and feels happy and that he is getting better and better. 

The end result and conclusion: The parents gave me a call end of July to thank me as their son is still improving. We are going to meet for a third session in September. I have simply loved to work with such caring parents.” 

Accredited Consultant and Trainer. Maha Lahode – Genève 2016

 

Anxiety

“Parents Feedback: Father is much involved with the children. While he agreed with mother that they need to do something with their daughter, he didn’t participate in The Goulding Process – SleepTalk® at all (and not open to recording).

‘S’ responded well to The Goulding Process- SleepTalk® and at check-in at the 1-week mark, Mom was feeling comfortable with doing the Process. 

Although she sometimes falls asleep with the kids,  then does the process later when she wakes up to move to her own bed. So she’s probably not getting into the optimal brain-wave frequency every time, nevertheless I encouraged her to continue every night consistently, even if it is not at the usual time.

At 5 weeks, Mom reported that ‘S’, seemed happier and less anxious day-to-day and at the 8-week mark, Mom reported that ‘S’ stood up in front of the class and volunteered to do a 2-sentence presentation she had prepared with mom at home on what she wanted to be when she grew up. She also participated in school Christmas play with a speaking line.

‘S’ came home from school and told mom “I didn’t cry in school all day today”. Mom was ecstatic. She also reported that ‘S’ is starting to take more responsibility for getting ready in the mornings. 

At 10 weeks: ‘S’ said: “Mommy, I eat myself” S. picked up her spoon during dinner and started feeding herself for the first time!  During the re-assessment, there were improvements and the biggest improvements were in the Emotional category, relating to anxiety, fears, self-esteem and ability to deal with emotions.

Accredited Consultant. KP – Canada 2015

 

Anxiety.

There has been a positive change in the past month, but there are still many downsides in the field of emotions. The daddy falls asleep and the mom gets tired and occasionally misses out one or two nights of the Goulding Process- SleepTalk.

 According to Mom, it was enough to use the basic sentences. She is already happy with the positive changes.
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he child is more successful in learning, more patient with his associates and family members, more persistent and more relaxed than before. The vibe at home is calmer and Mom also feels more relaxed.

I advised her to continue with the confirmations and, if she wants the best for her son, use the “special” affirmations offered.

After three months I saw both, mothers and children being more relaxed and patient. Also his siblings attitude has changed and the parents became more positive and hopeful regarding the effectiveness of The Goulding Process – SleepTalk. 

My opinion is, when the parents are more positive and more  active regarding to the process, it becomes more effective generating positive changes.

Accredited Consultant: Molnárné Kecskés Mónika Hungary – 2019

 

Anxiety.

“Parents of ‘N’ state she has absolutely blossomed since starting the Goulding Process- SleepTalk® over the past 4 months, her confidence has grown exponentially and she was just awarded a prize in a public speaking school competition, something her parents are quite astounded and thrilled with.  

She actively engages in conversation around the dinner table and happily shares her opinions and thoughts.  Her family are thrilled with the confidence she has displayed and she has been interacting well with her school friends and peers and taking great interest in school activities and happy to try new things.  She has had a significant decrease in timidity and less nervous.

Parents have enjoyed the process and feel that there is no doubt that the process has been very beneficial for their daughter.  They would like to continue the statement often as they all feel benefit.”

2018 – Accredited Consultant: Carla Pahl – HongKong

 

Anxiety.

One month after the initial Foundation Process, 2nd Mind Profile questionnaire shows major changes in ‘T’. His interest in sport has improved and a remarkable change in his ability to be a calmer child.

Introduction of  Phase 3 the  specific suggestion was implemented and the Mother said she is acting very differently with the children. She is more tolerant and accepting them as children. 

She herself says it is hard to notice the changes, but the assessments give them a proper measure of the changes.”  

Accredited Consultant & Trainer:  Marilyn Colvin Boon. Qld 2013

 

Anxiety. 

The parents were committed to the programme. They wanted to help their child and in turn discovered ways they too could change.  There is ongoing work, but massive changes have taken place in the short time. 

There is no more mention of dying or death by their son, and he wakes as a happier child. He is coping with life much better.  I believe the regularly weekly support in the early stages of the programme helped the mother as much as it did their son.”

Accredited Consultant & Trainer:  Marilyn Colvin Boon. Qld 2013

 

Anxiety. 

We had our last update in December 2018. Based on the conversation, the client told me that ‘J’ is now not so afraid of meeting new people, willing to listen and share more, and engage more activities.  The client appreciated the help the process had offered her and her family. 

Although the monitoring experiment has come to an end, she will still continue to apply this process either during waking or night state.

Accredited Consultant: Lee Hong Yiap – Singapore 2018

 

 


Anger issues

How timely that I received this feedback from a Yarra Valley Mum right in the midst of National Families Week. It’s truly a Goosebumps Moment.

Goosebumps Moment is when I receive feedback like this:

The Goulding Process has completely changed my relationship with my children and helped with my stress and anger issues regarding my family. I am forever grateful to be given the tools to help my children now so that they have a fabulous future. Thank you, thank you, thank you!”  Yarra Valley Mum of 9 & 6 year olds.

Read full story here: www.cultivate.com.au/nataliesblog.php

2012 – Goulding SleepTalk Trainer – Vic – Natalie Cossar


Self-confidence and assurance

Self Confidence

A is a 5 year old boy who lives with his Mum and Dad and his little sister aged 2.

Both parents were in a loving relationship and both keen to do the Goulding Process- SleepTalk technique together with both their children.

The initial reasons for A’s Mum wanting to use the Goulding Process – SleepTalk Phase 1   to help him establish more self-confidence and assurance. Mum also noted that A was a premature baby and she said that she had experienced a few challenges along the way with A’s health due to this early birth.

17th August 2011

I met with both parents in August 2011. At this time A was described as a very intelligent, imaginative boy who knew just how to get his Mum’s attention through what was described as a “whiney voice”.

Mum commented how A could attempt to be very controlling when she was talking with other adults and didn’t want to “share his mum”. He would scream and go into melt downs and this was often worse when A didn’t know people that well and felt uncomfortable in new surroundings. This was described to me as “clingy behaviour”.

Both Mum and Dad were very loving parents who often spent much time with both children in the day time but there was obviously some underlying belief that A had that was leading to him to feel uncomfortable in new situations and only secure when with parents.

At the time A was resistant in learning things himself, not keen to try new classes, and commented that he was most happy when “at home with Mummy and Daddy”.

The other thing that Mum and Dad wanted help with was to get to the core reason for A’s fussy eating as he would often seek attention at meal times and both parents felt that there was a lot of fuss around eating.

I left both parents with the SleepTalk folder and they were confident with the process and how to apply it at bedtime.

13th October 2011

I met with A’s parents for the second time after they had been saying the Foundation Stage SleepTalk words to A for approx 8 weeks time.

Mum said that A seemed more level now with his confidence and emotions. He was “snapping out of his whiney voice” much quicker and “able to control his emotions a lot better”.

A seemed to be calmer and less anxious and “more comfortable in his own skin”, parents said. It was noted that A was more confident without parents and not as “needy” in new situations.

Dad said that he was delighted when he took A to a friend’s party on his own as Mum was away that weekend and A just ran off and played. Dad said that he was convinced that when they got there A would be clingy and yet when he turned round he had run off to play!

You could see how pleased Dad was with this change in a matter of 7 weeks!

The one thing that still stood out was that A was still coming in to his parent’s bed at approx 12 am and lying right next to them indicating a need to be near his parents still. This was after he had wet his pull ups. So he would wee in his pull ups and then go to parent’s bed and get in with them.

So together we looked for a suitable support statement to add to the Foundation words.

21 st November 2011

I met with A’s parents again approx 5 weeks later.

A had dry pull ups at bedtime within a week! Within one week A was getting up to go to the toilet himself and going back to his own bed where before he was going to his parents bed and getting in with them.

A was then going to his parents bed at approx 5 am and Dad said that he was more “calm and cuddly when getting in the bed rather than in a needy way”.

Both parents said that they didn’t feel that this was an issue now with A coming in at that time as it was nearly time to awaken for the day so we didn’t address this any further and agreed that he would most probably grow out of this and when he got his new bed.

Mum said that A was now eating a better quantity of food and not fighting as much at meal times which could also have been due to the fact A was now taking quality Vitamin B tablets for children.

Due to the sibling part of the Goulding Process SleepTalk, A was now saying that he loved his sister in the day time to her – so verbalising his feelings more freely and more understanding with his younger sister.

Parents noticed an improvement with his writing and school reported an improvement with his concentration in his work.

Again, following a family weekend away, parents noticed that A was becoming more and more confident in unusual and new situations.

A was now getting more sleep due to staying in his own bed longer at night time and was more settled therefore sleeping for longer periods of time.

Mum mentioned that whenever A showed a sign of anxiety which was rare these days, she would say some of the SleepTalk words to him in a loving manner and his “shoulders would just drop and he would become more relaxed”.

Increased cooperation meant that A was now more understanding of what his parents were saying to him and so he now listened when they were explaining things to him and he was more cooperative.

Summary

In summary there were notable improvements in sleep, bedwetting, eating, self security, confidence and self esteem, general wellbeing, communication, studies, and communication and relationships with parents within 3 months.

Both parents remained fully committed to the program throughout the whole 3 months, alternating the evenings that they said the words to their child and used some of the positive wording in the daytime to gain optimal benefits for their child.

2012 – Jenny Harris – UK – SleepTalk consultant.

 

Emotional benefits to both Mum and Dad.

“A Skype consultation was held with mother and the final progress identifier form completed.  Mum noticed a difference in ‘N’ if she misses sleep talk due to a sleepover; she notices a small change in the “calmness of his being”

Mother would like to continue the process with her children as she has found it a beautiful and beneficial evening ritual and has also found the process of great emotional benefit to herself and her husband.

The second statement was given her to continue and is ongoing and the family, continue to see a benefit.

2018 – Accredited Consultant: Carla Pahl – HongKong

 

 “I was stunned and had tears in my eyes.

“AM’s energy has increased in mornings. He doesn’t dread the routine he has to follow during the day. His interest and confidence in reading and writing has gone up. Also one morning after 2 months of doing the Goulding Process- SleepTalk® he woke up and said that he loves me. I was stunned and had tears in my eyes.

AM was initially very edgy and cranky for a week. But, I had faith that like the last time this will work too. After a week to 10 days of the statement settling in he became less paranoid of himself and what everyone did. We had a relaxed child at home. His teachers said that he was smiling in the classroom and answering more questions. I am relieved. 

Mother “N” has said “AM” always tries to do things on his own and first tries to reach out himself. If he fails, he asks for help. His teachers are very happy with him as he is doing work on his electronic pad upto his potential. “N” feels more accomplished as a mother and feels that now she has sealed the bond of love with “AM”. 

She also mentioned that “ Michelle” was her role model for “AM”. Also finally there was reduced therapist help and basic physiotherapies only.”

Aneesha Sethi:  Accredited Consultant – India  2018


Autism

‘S’ has been diagnosed with Autism as well as a learning disability, lower end IQ and some sight, hearing and digestive issues. His parents are highly motivated to get as much assistance and support as possible and very keen to use SleepTalk® and committed to the process.

Initially during the first week, Mum called to say she was concerned that ‘S’ was waking up during the night and wanting to “be with Mummy” which was concerning her. Once advised that this was a result of the new beliefs being introduced, she was reassured.

Generally there was overall improvement as shown by the supporting ‘Where does my child stand now’ casse history documentation. Both parents were very happy with the results. What they most noticed was that ‘S’ began understanding humour that had previously gone over his head and began making jokes that were quite complex.

He also became more assertive and confident, particularly at kinder and his energy levels in the morning were much higher. Overall, his general happiness and wellbeing increased. They will continue with the SleepTalk® on a maintenance basis and are very pleased with the results.

Case History Submitted Nov 2010 by:  KJ


Fear of Doing Poo

Hi Natalie, thank you so much for introducing me to SleepTalk®. Since I have used it I have transitioned my son ‘R’ back to a happier disposition in life. Thank you so much Natalie for helping me through this.

I have been using SleepTalk® for approximately 6 months and the best thing that we have achieved is overcoming ‘R’s fear to go to the toilet and doing no. twos. ‘R’ had developed anxiety due to being constipated.  His two occasions that were on the toilet was a straining two moments and thus ‘R’ linked the toilet to being constipated and feared it greatly.   Conclusively, ‘R’s character, being stubborn plus the immaturity and lack of trust in his own body inhibited him from overcoming his fear.  The somewhat progressive tasks of transitioning from nappies to the toilet become a tedious, frustrating and stressful family issue.

After many frustrating battles with no result I took ‘R’ to Conquip, a incontinence school and had him regularly taking laxatives. He still continued to be fearful of sitting on the toilet especially when knowing there was business waiting to be done.   I took him back to Conquip to be told to increase his laxative.   A month prior to his second visit I had started SleepTalk® but my nurse at Conquip had asked me to focus on getting ‘R’ out of nappies at night time.   I tried this for 2 weeks but ‘R’ developed such a bad rash that I decided to refocus back to toilet training for no. twos (‘R’ is trained to go to the toilet for wees but still wears nappies at night time).

We had changed the SleepTalk® statements to cater for ‘R’ to stay dry at night, therefore when the focus was changed naturally I had to change the SleepTalk® suggestions back to going to the toilet to do no. twos. We did this for three months and then on one weekend when I increased the laxative dose, I placed ‘R’ on the toilet and used all of my encouraging phrases. I also told him that we would have a party with balloons if he did a poo that night and I added in a threat (in a nice voice) saying if he didn’t do it then I would find a pillow for him to stay the night.

‘R’ called me to the toilet once, then twice with no result. The second time he wanted his balloons and I said that they would come once he had done the poo. A third time he called me and this time he had eventually done the business in toilet.   I was amazed, happy, relieved and hopeful that this would be the start to the end of this issue.   He did no. twos three nights in a row then he had a night off, then back on and off.   He now uses the toilet with ease although still with some prompting, although we have now incorporated the toilet time as part of his night time ritual for getting ready for bed.  It is becoming easier and easier and he is always very proud when he has finished his business.

The phrase I used on ‘R’ was the opening phrase, then the phrase ‘You know you can, you will do poos on the toilet. You are so brave.’ I repeated this five times, and then I finished with my closing statement. I do believe that by telling him that he will be able to do poos on the toilet and adding that he is brave actually helped him overcome his fear.  Additionally I read him books which centred around being brave and I dropped that word ‘brave’ occasionally in discussion especially leading up to toileting time.

Although it took much time, a lot of frustrating toileting moments with no results and a lot of customised settings to make it all happen I do know that SleepTalk® plays a big part of its success and additionally has emotionally instilled mental strength within my sons’ mind. ‘R’ has become much more content with family life, adjusting to becoming a big brother and displaying more resilience. (‘R’ had developed an attitude as a consequence of losing the focus from being the single child as well as some additional changes in life.) He now displays a marked degree in maturity and more courage in getting through daily tasks he once feared such as going to the toilet in the dark and having his hair washed. There are still many areas of growth to press on and I am still using SleepTalk® to build on these, for a mentally healthier and emotionally more balanced life in ‘R’s life.

Natalie Dwyer:  Accredited Consultant – 2011


Self Confidence

We first started the Goulding Process 5 months ago after hearing about it through our friend… Natalie Cossar who is an accredited Trainer.  Intrigued and interested in how such a simple process could make such positive changes to not only our childrens lives, but also our lives as a family unit, I purchased the book and gave it a go. As the book says, if the only thing that happens to your child is that they feel loved and accepted, is that such a bad thing??  I don’t think so.

After reading the book, we started the foundation process with our two daughters “M” aged 9 and “E” aged 5.  We had had a bit of a rocky time last year, and felt that the process may make the girls feel more secure and settled. At first, my husband didn’t feel particularly confident in doing the ‘Foundation’ statements on his own, so we took it in turns to say a sentence each – and this worked really well.  The first few weeks, we noticed that “M” would strongly sense our presence in the room and would squirm about in her bed as we slowly said the foundation statements.  Our other girl “E” would sometimes even talk and respond to our statements in her sleep – which was a little confronting, but we followed the advice in the book of soothing her into a deep sleep and then continuing with the statements.

After about 4 weeks, we noticed quite a difference in the behaviour of “M”.  She is a self-contained child – who is more of a ‘watcher’ than a participator – and suddenly she was actively seeking me out and sitting on my knee to watch TV, or even when we ate dinner.  This was quite unusual behaviour from her as she tends to like her personal space, however, we welcomed this with open arms, and now 5 months later, she still continues with this affection. She also seems to be more confident in herself and far more resilient to the ups and downs of school life – bouncing back when she is knocked down.

‘E’ s changes were more subtle than “M”‘s.  She seems to argue less with her sister and calms down more quickly when she has a tantrum.

In the September School Holidays we went away two weeks, and in the throes of travelling, we overlooked the nightly ‘Goulding Process’.  Once we arrived at our destination we noticed that the girls were arguing more than normal, so we decided to re-introduce the nightly talks.  Once we recommenced the process there was a noticeable turn around in their behaviour towards one another – which obviously has a follow-on effect to the whole of the family’s harmony and enjoyment of the holiday.

After doing a “Where Now’ evaluation with Natalie, we identified a couple of areas that we would like to provide support to “M’  At  present, we have moved onto a specific statement for ‘M’ and are currently working on a statement for ‘E’ with a view to introducing it before Christmas.  We have decided to stagger the introduction of specific statements so that we can properly check for changes in each child, rather than trying to identify them in both.

The Goulding Process has not only had a positive impact on the emotional wellbeing and resilience of our children, but also on our emotional connectedness as partners and parents – and I would highly recommend it to all parents as happiness in the home follows you into your daily lives. Kind Regards “J”

December 2011 – Natalie Cossar – Trainer.


Remaining Calm

Yarra Valley Practitioners Project (YVPP) SleepTalk®® for Children – Case Study mothers report.
“I have been lucky enough to meet Joane Goulding and learn the correct techniques of SleepTalk® for my two boys, aged 5 and 2.   Not only has Sleep Talk® improved their behaviour, the whole dynamics of our family has improved.   We have an overall calmer and happier attitude and show love and respect to each other.   I am no longer so worried about how my boys will cope with the challenges that come their way as their father and I use SleepTalk®, as well as positive affirmation throughout the day, to build their confidence and self-esteem.

Of course, we all worry about our children and there will always be issues for them which are out of our control, however, I am thankful to SleepTalk® for giving me the skills to control the things I can.   I admit that I was initially daunted by the idea of doing SleepTalk® every night, yet it soon became part of my routine and takes mere minutes.   I now actually enjoy this time I have to witness their peacefulness in sleep, especially when we have had a hectic day.   I hope that all parents and carers get an opportunity to learn and use Sleep Talk®.  Thank you Joane.”

SleepTalk® Mum – LB


Self-esteem & Self-worth

“I have been doing SleepTalk® with ‘D’ (9 years old) now for 6 months and I have a new boy!  He is back to being my loving, caring and helpful son who has found his self-esteem and self-worth again.  I am so proud of him and a huge believer in the SleepTalk “miracle”.  It is amazing.  I cannot wait to become a consultant and share this wonderful SleepTalk® process with families who need a little parenting help. Thankyou… Thankyou… Thankyou!!!”

SleepTalk® Mum MT – NSW


Behavioural Difficulties

“I have had some great success with families that I have started working with.  You will be pleased to hear that a child experiencing general behavioural difficulties was able to turn it all around within a 5 week period.   His teacher commented to his parent: “ I don’t know what you’ve done but keep it up he’s a different child, such a pleasure to teach, keep it up”.   She said that all parents should be doing this for their children!   His mum was so excited and so proud to have achieved this and I’m happy for her too.”

Consultant – Mary Lynch. NSW


Selective Mutism  

April 2011. “I wanted to share with you a case history with a young boy with selective Mutism. He is going really well – he is not quite speaking yet, but he allowed his mum to video him reading at home and agreed to let his teacher see it – then said he wanted his class to see it – then even the whole school. I told his mum I think this is his way of preparing everyone at school for him to speak !!  so watch this space…..

His mum also says he is much more confident and “open” since doing SleepTalk® so all in all this has been a wonderful experience for all – I am absolutely sure he will be talking at school this next term.”

July 2011 Update

“Ohhh Joane – You had to be the first to know – remember the little boy with ‘Selective Mutism’?  His mum just called me to say that ‘H’ has been and is talking to his friends at school !!!

She has seen him and it has been confirmed this week in his school report which was glowing, saying that he is a bright intelligent little boy who is well respected by his teachers and piers –  he is confident and happy.  He scored extremely well overall & excels in maths and music which are his favourite subjects.  Quite a different boy from last year.

You can’t imagine how proud, pleased and thankful his parents are – it has taken time, yet the change in ‘H’ in a year is unbelievable. I told her that its due to all the work she and her husband have put in  – they have hardly missed a night with SleepTalk®.  She said thanks and acknowledged that without SleepTalk® she would not have believed it possible.

There are still some teachers and children he isn’t talking to however the school, ‘H’s mum and I are all confident that this is just a matter of time. Please pass this news on to any one that is interested in his story.  Many thanks Joane as this has been a wonderful and interesting journey working with this wonderful family, who are fabulous – they work very hard and I think they have only missed a couple of nights since we first started.

Of course like most parents they didn’t know what to expect and over the months they did occasionally get despondent, as they don’t always seem to notice changes – that’s when I jump in and do an assessment – then they get to compare and I can tell them what differences I notice in what they tell me and the changes I can see.  It’s also good to remind them where their son was when they first came to see me.”

Nov 2011 Update

“Joane, ‘H’ is talking in school to nearly everyone – all be it in whispered tones – but talking  YEEEEEEESSSSSS.  His mum is SOOOOOO happy – he is even now insisting that his granddad takes him to school.  I don’t know if you remember but we think the original problem occurred when his mum had to be taken into hospital unexpectedly.  He woke to find his grandma and grandpa looking after him….. he stopped talking !!  So massive changes have happened over the last year.”

March 2012 Update

GREAT NEWS  – ‘H’ is talking TO EVERYONE

We are all thrilled and his mum said the teacher has said “he won’t shut up !!” HURRAH I screamed from the room tops let him get it out – 4 years of being caged in and now he is free !!

I advised her that she should allow at least one month for every year that he has not talked before she even needs to be concerned about him “over talking” which gave her an immense amount of relief

 

Anne Denning – UK Registered Consultant . www.sleeptalklondon.com


PTSD / Visual Hallucinations / Fear

Yarra Valley Practitioners Project (YVPP) SleepTalk® for Children – Case Study mothers report:  “Some months after the fires my son developed a significant post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) including visual hallucinations.  With psychological support, a trip away and a summer without fires he improved but remained anxious, unable to separate from us easily and with ongoing vague physical symptoms.

With the assistance of SleepTalk® – a year on he is a much healthier boy.  He sleeps as well as before the fires, has made new friends, tried new foods, can’t wait to go on his school camp and is engaging in life with a new confidence.  He is less fearful of change than he has ever been in his life.  When things go wrong as they inevitably do in life he deals with them far more calmly.  At the end of 2009 I wondered if the fires were still going to take my boy from me; now I have him back. Thank you Joane.”

SleepTalk Mum – JW – May 2011


Toileting, Anxiety, Sibling Rivalry Issues

Presenting Situation.
“Jan 5th 2011 – ‘N’ is an 8 year old girl presenting with bedwetting and faecal enuresis. Her parents have tried “everything” in the past and she has been undergoing counselling in the past year.  Though a very bright child, N’s parents report extreme anxiety and difficult behaviours, notably a troubled relationship with her 10 year old sister.”

Foundation process
“N saw enormous changes in a very short time frame, on commencing SleepTalk®. Though in the past she had been afraid to go anywhere on her own and would struggle to deal with anger and anxiety – mostly resulting in “melt downs”, within the first three weeks, ‘N’ had showed a significant turnaround.

N’s parents reported a number of changes after three weeks.
More able to talk through concerns calmly without melt downs.
Walked to the shops and scouts on her own.
Asked to go to school camp.
Had the first dry nights of her life.
Stopped hiding (and lying about) soiled pants and stopped soiling.
Happy to talk on the phone to people.

Parents report enormous positive feedback! And these are just some of the main examples. Even with such positive changes and feedback, ‘N’s parents expressed there was still some way to go with N’s ability to deal with anger, with her self-esteem and they expressed significant concern over N’s continued troubled relationship with her elder sister.

We chose to keep the ‘Foundation’ statements for some weeks longer and added in the sibling support statement, suspecting that the sibling relationship is potentially the prime area of pain and anxiety for ‘N’.”

Follow up
“On contacting ‘N’s parents three weeks later, I was informed that almost instantly after adding in the sibling support statement, ‘N’ regressed. She began (and continued to) soiling and bedwetting again and was less cooperative.  We chose to continue but not change the statements whilst ‘N’ was unsettled – and two weeks later the parents reported seeing slow improvement. She is very cognitive about the issue now too – shows a real willingness to beat the issue and a desire to be clean. She is well on her way to conquering her toileting troubles!”

Conclusion
“This continues to be a very interesting case to work with. ‘N’ had an extreme abreaction to the addition of a sibling support statement. This fits with the parent’s information given about the troubled sibling relationship and appears to be a deep source of anxiety and stress for ’N’. It seems that, upon adding that her sister loves her, her brain was not able to neither compute this nor take it on as truth easily. A month on and she is showing marked improvement but still has some way to go. Her parents remarked: “Thank God for SleepTalk®!” and are very grateful for the obvious effect it has had in their lives. I am grateful for their willingness to stick to the program with patience, noting that it is not a quick fix for their daughter but is slowly working love through the deepest parts of her doubts and fears. What a wonderful thing to watch.”

Up Date: 20 April 2011
“The mum just emailed me to let me know that it has finally turned a corner! Toileting issues have been under total control for a week now (and most of last week) and she is a “happy little girl”. Mostly holidays are bad for her – I guess, having her sister around with her full time – but they have been coasting through that alright too.  Great news to hear…just thought I’d let you know!”

SW – Consultant.


Scared of Pooing

“3 yr. boy was only pooing in his nappy, was going to the toilet for wee, but would hold on to poo and cause constipation, until he had a nappy on.  He would say he was scared to poo in potty or toilet.  He was also scared to go to bed, would have night mares and did not like going to kinder.

A few weeks later the mum reported that for the last two nights her son is now asking for the toilet to poo and is no longer scared and overall there has been a significant improvement.  No nightmares and he is no longer scared to go to bed or sleep in his own bed now. Mum has been doing SleepTalk® ‘Foundation’ statements for 7 nights a week, missing only 3 nights out of the past 6 weeks. She reports that her son stated that fairies come and talk to him in his sleep.

2 months later, Mum said that he has improved in all areas of concern.  Is happy to go to crèche, asking if today is crèche day.  Pooing in the toilet now all the time. He has now turned 4, and 1 week prior to his 4th birthday he decided that when he was 4 he would not wear nappies any more even at night, so  mum  include a supporting statement into the process.  From the day he turned 4, he is no longer in nappies, wakes at night for the toilet and goes back to bed.  Mum loves the process.”

Rebecca McLennan – Victoria Consultant


Parent Feedback

“I just wish to pass on my sincere thanks for the SleepTalk® process. My sister has been using it for two years on her now 4 year old and I have started with my 9 year old and in only one week – it is making a notable difference.  I am passing it on to all mothers at his school – its early days but I am so confident and really aware there are changes already.” AP


Moderate Autism

Consultant Feedback: “I started to work with a SleepTalk® client regarding their son who has been diagnosed with ‘Moderate Autism’.  The parents have been consistently delivering SleepTalk® and have found that over the last week he has been going to sleep later and later.  He stays in his bed which isn’t a major problem; however he can still be awake up to 2 hours after they have put him to bed.  As he has never been a great sleeper his parents are not concerned, but I have felt that this may be part of his reaction to the process.

I have explained that the ‘Foundation’ statements need to be continued until the ‘sub-conscious’ mind has had time to assimilate and accept these new positive suggestions with re-enforcement throughout the daytime. Eventually the positive suggestions of the ‘Foundation’ will become so much stronger than the previously accepted negative ones. Just repeat “deep asleep – deep asleep” as they are putting him to bed and to reinforce they love him and that he is safe.”  Mary Lynch – Consultant NSW


Co-ordination, Emotional Outbursts

Co-ordination & Emotional Outburst

“As a mother of an eight year old boy I face the many challenges that parenthood brings.  I started the Goulding Process- SleepTalk® with my son after battling the many emotional outbursts from him.

I felt we were losing the close relationship we once had and wanted to make positive changes.  Whilst the changes haven’t been instant I believe he is responding slowly to the program.

Other people have also noticed changes, in particular his swimming teacher who has seen him improve his coordination and stroke technique.  His emotional outbursts are becoming less and less and we communicate more freely.

I would recommend The Goulding Process – SleepTalk® to any parents who want to create a closer relationship with their child and address issues such as behaviour, co-ordination and focus. It’s also a beautiful way to end your day!”

Rebecca McLennan – Consultant & Mum – Victoria

 

Coordination & Scratching.

After 3 months of The Goulding Process – SleepTalk, he became interested in sport, and his coordination and physical ability increased dramatically as did his speech.

His ability to remain calm and deal with anger did not improve and his mother thought his eczema was causing him quite a lot of distress and anger and he would be scratching until he bled during the night.  

After using the an additional statement he is sleeping better and scratching less. He has also being mentally challenged at day care as he moved into the kindergarten room which he enjoys and suffers less boredom. 

The family is keen to continue using the Goulding Process – SleepTalk® in the future to work on his ability to remain calm.

Accredited Consultant: Olivia Walford – Vic 2018


OCD / Nightmares / Speech / Anger

Yarra Valley Practitioners Project (YVPP) SleepTalk® for Children – Case study mothers report:
Our experience with SleepTalk® so far – 29.7.10 -17.2.11

“I first heard about SleepTalk® in our school newsletter.  My son was just about to turn 6 years old and in the middle of prep at primary school.  We did not lose our home or loved ones but we were impacted and present for the black Saturday bushfires in February, 2009 and it is fair to say that our experiences on that day have changed our lives forever.  My son, who was generally a happy little boy and very well behaved became unsettled and anxious, trying to fit in at school and struggling a little with his speech which was in turn affecting his reading and writing at school, causing much frustration, resulting in anger.  Just to compound this we had also recently began getting rather excessive, compulsive about hand washing.

I went to my first SleepTalk® session, really just to explore what it was about.  To be completely honest it all sounded a little mumbo jumbo and had me thinking “I don’t know if I believe in this stuff being able to make a difference”. Now 6½ months on after considering I had nothing to lose but 2 minutes a night, I am so thankful for SleepTalk®, as the changes in my son are too great to call our progress pure co-incidence.

My first night with SleepTalk was one of great emotion for me.  I sat there and out loud said these words and not expecting any comments from my son whilst he slept. When I said: “Mummy loves you”, he replied to me “I love you too mum”, yet he remained asleep.  Joane had mentioned that I may get a reaction but I didn’t really expect that.  It threw me for a moment, and chocking back my emotion I continued with the statements.  So I know he hears me when I do SleepTalk® with him, and it’s nice to know that his sub-conscious is taking these lovely statements in.

Mornings were an issue with my son always sluggish to get started, everything always too much effort. Joane suggested he may have a problem with his sugar levels first thing and suggested that a simple inch or two of watered down fruit juice first thing of a morning might help, followed up with a good breakfast including protein.  WOW!!!!…..what a significant difference we noticed within the first few days.  I found the improvement with my son of a morning also had an impact on me, as his sluggish, grumpy attitude despite my best efforts seemed to get me down. I felt like I was on his case a lot every morning. Now mornings just seem so much more relaxed and we just flow through our routine to get us out the door on time each day.

Other issues that have improved include:
Compulsive Hand Washing: With continual monitoring and re-assurance the problem just disappeared, and we’ve not broached the subject again.

Speech Issues: This was a real distressing issue for me.  To sit back and watch a little person have so much anger and not be able to deal with it, to not really know how to fix it for him because anytime we would try to talk about it with him his anger would accelerate and turn toward us, making it very difficult to work through and help him.  I cried so many tears over this, every time I saw him so distressed, I felt like I was failing him because I couldn’t make it all better, this enhanced my stress levels also and emotionally it drained me.  Other than SleepTalk® there was no other aid we used to deal with his anger and management of, so my son, my relaxed little boy who now talks to me about what’s bothering him and seeks our help when he finds things tough, is a different kid and in extension I am a different mum, more relaxed and stress free.  WOW it feels good!  And I solely thank SleepTalk® for this.

Nightmares:  Particularly since the fires and when reminders of the fires like memorials, smells of smoke and sirens ringing occur.  While the nightmares do subside with time, it only takes one of these reminders to bring them right back again.

The second anniversary of Black Saturday on the 7.2.11 caused some reaction, but right now I’m enjoying having my son back again because at one stage I felt helpless and as though I was losing him to an extent, particularly with his anger issues and for now I’m continuing with SleepTalk® as I believe it has been invaluable to our family and I’m just hoping all continues to go well for us.”


Sleeping

Parent Feedback:  “Initially I didn’t think SleepTalk® would have the potential to work on my 3 year old daughter; however after trying the technique that my consultant demonstrated I found my 3 year old to be calmer and more settled with her bedtime routine.  The SleepTalk® process was very easy to follow and manage and we feel at ease with the simple technique Our consultant is helping us with every step of the way and on the whole it has been a worthwhile contribution to my daughters now very healthy sleeping routine”
Consultant:  Jenny Harrison – UK


Tantrums

Tantrums

Parent Feedback:  “I was just talking in the staff room yesterday about The Goulding Process – SleepTalk®.

People seem to always think it is for children with sleeping problems!  Anyway, I just wanted to say that since starting SleepTalk® the whole family has noticed an improvement in my son’s behaviour.

It is hard to believe that with so little time and effort our daily lives have improved so much.   He is a much calmer boy now and has fewer tantrums; in fact it is now a rare occurrence that we have to send him to his room for time out (it used to be a couple of times a day at weekends).

It is also a lovely time for me to go into his room at night and whisper to him  and it is a nice end to the day regardless of it being a good day or not.  He is definitely waking up ‘bright and happy’ these days – we love it!”

Consultant:  Jenny Harrison – UK

 

Temper Tantrums

“ The Goulding Process – SleepTalk was recommended and explained thoroughly and the need to do it to all kids where the mother can approach the teenagers from a bit of a distance or the door step because of his age. 

After 12 weeks of offering the Goulding Process -SleepTalk Foundation Stage!  The Process  was strictly followed everyday by the mother and she recorded the voice of the father as he used to travel a lot. 

Mum started reporting changes every week. First they were smaller changes where the tantrums took just a little bit less time and the improvements increased weekly.

Mum became so motivated with the process and the obvious changes for the whole 12 weeks! Her son’s tantrums times and length kept getting shorter and more manageable.

He was able to control his nerves and even started thinking positively and looking at the good side in situations. He became more confident and not venerable to simple situations where he became so flexible and secure within.

He was also able to speak up for himself and report situations where he needed to explain himself and his reactions and he was convincing and never lied. 

His teachers started reporting significant changes and by the end of the year he was given an award for best behaviour in school which left the mother thrilled! 

The relationship with siblings softened gradually and now they are more understanding and tolerant to each other. Mother reported that he is even more empathetic with his older brother and sister. 

The siblings relationship became much stronger as the communication between them got stronger and they were able to talk, set rules and follow them through and she is enjoying him outside everywhere even in the mall which used to be a great challenge!

Mum also reported that he doesn’t like to spend more time alone than he used to do before.!  Harmony was restored to the whole home and she felt much happier and reported that she felt her life has changed.

Consultant: NT – UAE 2017

 

 Temper Tantrums – Calmness.

After 8 weeks of the Goulding Process – SleepTalk® , the protocol was strictly followed everyday alternatively between both parents where huge improvements has taken place as follows:

Although eating wasn’t a major concern, his eating habits showed obvious improvement. His motor skills has improved massively to the extent that the mother forgot there was this concern in the first place and when I drew her attention she answered that he walks perfectly well and I didn’t notice anything not normal anymore.

His basketball coach is complicating his performance now and his ability to achieve goals in the game. His study and homework time became no problem at all as the mother herself came more relaxed and was able to give choices and empathise with her son with the ability to choose her battles.

He is doing his homework very well and that put more confidence in the mothers heart toward the capabilities of her son. He became highly confident in class, reporting bullying cases and no more acting out in class. Teachers also commented that his is now a happy child.

His ability to stay calm become more sustained and he manages very well to control his anger after a very short period of time. His relationship with his parents became stronger and empathetic and his relationship with his little sister is full of lots of play time. 

As the nail biting was clearly a sign of anxiety and before being a habit so I introduced an additional primary statement: Just after one week this statement made a great difference with the parents, especially the father as he was participating in the Goulding Process- SleepTalk® regularly and it was healing for him as well.

The parents also reported stronger bonding with their son, who has starting to express himself more frequent rather than being so introvert and they were glad to talk about emotions and feelings rather than avoiding them.

Consultant: NT – UAE 2017

 

Heading: Education. 

“My son is much better – he is stronger in himself and is beginning to show an increase in his self-belief. I have spoken to his teachers and we are noticing his effort at school improving – I have done a simple improvement check on one of the Goulding Process- SleepTalk® forms and there is a marked increase in all areas. My wife and I will be adding in some additional suggestions.”

Consultant: PD – UK 2009

 

Temper Tantrums.

When speaking with the mum at her second visit she was thrilled with the results. She said that he had had fewer aggressive instances and the times when he had lost his temper he was quick to regain control and each outburst was much shorter-lived. His behaviour at school had improved and the mum hadn’t been called in to see the headmaster at all.

She said that they had attended a parents evening at school where his new teacher had said to them “the boy I thought was going to walk through those doors never did”! The teacher asked them if anything had changed at home or if they knew why this might be the case, so they mentioned The Goulding Process – SleepTalk® and the teacher was very interested to learn more!

They felt that his behaviour had improved considerably and felt confident that the foundation statements were addressing this issue.”

Accredited Consultant: Rachel Packard – UK – 2016

 

Temper Tantrums

“At 12 weeks, phase 2 ‘where are they now document’ done. Three C’s have been adhered to. Mum is happy with process and its effects on her too. Calmer home, generally and a calmer, less agitated ‘R’ at home. He is sleeping through the night with less need of being comforted and ‘aides’ to go to sleep, a huge improvement. 

 

Although much improvement, Joane’s advice here was it’s not quite consolidated enough in him yet, so keep up the Phase 1 foundation with Phase 2  bridging statement for another 2-3 months. Gave Mum this advice, she was fine with that. And did tell her that we’ll check in again to see if we can move forward then. (With text-check-ins every 2 weeks.)

 

The upshot for mum was that ‘R’ is still having angry outbursts/reacting before thinking (but not nearly as often or as long lasting) & still some ticking going on. Fear underlying the anxiety. The foundation has to have more time to ‘consolidate’ before moving on to any Primary Area of Need.”

Accredited Consultant: Lucia Dapos – Vic – 2019

 

Tantrums – Self-confidence – Sibling Rivalry and Education. 

‘A’ is a 5 year old boy who lives with his Mum and Dad and his little sister aged 2. Both parents were in a loving relationship and both keen to do the Goulding Process – SleepTalk® technique together with both their children. 

The initial reasons for A’s Mum wanting to use the Goulding Process SleepTalk method were to help him establish more self-confidence and assurance. Mum also noted that A was a premature baby and she said that she had experienced a few challenges along the way with A’s health due to this early birth.

Mum commented how ‘A’ could attempt to be very controlling when she was talking with other adults and didn’t want to “share his mum”. He would scream and go into ‘melt downs’ and this was often worse when ‘A’ didn’t know people that well and felt uncomfortable in new surroundings. This was described to me as “clingy behavior”.

Both Mum and Dad very loving parents who often spent much time with both children in the day time, but there was obviously some underlying belief that ‘A’ had, and this was leading him to feel uncomfortable in new situations and only secure when with parents.

At the time ‘A’ was resistant in learning things himself, not keen to try new classes, and commented that he was most happy when “at home with Mummy and Daddy”.

I met with ‘A’s parents for the second time after they had been saying the Foundation suggestions to ‘A’ for approximately 8 weeks. Mum said that ‘A’ seemed “more level” now with his confidence and emotions.

He was “snapping out of his whiney voice” much quicker and “able to control his emotions a lot better”. He seemed to be calmer and less anxious and “more comfortable in his own skin”, parents said. It was noted that A was more confident without parents and not as “needy” in new situations.

Dad said that he was delighted when he took ‘A’ to a friend’s party on his own as Mum was away that weekend and A just ran off and played.

Again, following a family weekend away, parents noticed that ‘A’ was becoming more and more confident in unusual and new situations. He was now getting more sleep due to staying in his own bed longer at night time and was more settled therefore sleeping for longer periods of time.

Mum mentioned that whenever ‘A’ showed a sign of anxiety which was rare these days, she would say some of the SleepTalk® words to him in a loving manner and his “shoulders would just drop and he would become more relaxed”. Increased cooperation meant that ‘A’ was now more understanding of what his parents were saying to him and so he now listened when they were explaining things to him and he was more cooperative. 

Summary 

In summary there were notable improvements in sleep, bedwetting, eating, self-security, confidence and self-esteem, general well-being, communication, studies, and communication and relationships with parents within 3 months.

Both parents remained fully committed to the program throughout the whole 3 months, alternating the evenings that they said the words to their child and used some of the positive wording in the daytime to gain optimal benefits for their child. 

2012 Jenny Harris – UK – SleepTalk consultant. 


Education / Behaviour / Confidence

Education

Parent Feedback:  “I had read about SleepTalk® and felt that my 10-year-old son would greatly benefit from it and found that the process fitted easily into our routine as a family. We have always remained dedicated to keeping the process part of the night-time routine as our consultant advised that this was important.

We found that there was ‘feedback’ within a matter of days as my son began getting up in the morning for school in a really good mood, with plenty of energy.   Other results included the fact that my son’s teacher and head teacher noted that he had been writing more in his written work and also that he was more confident with his math’s – even asking to come in at playtime to do his math’s work!

The behaviour change that had led to this improvement in the classroom – he was now beginning to feel self-confident – also meant that he didn’t feel the need to behave in an attention-seeking manner, which could be seen as disruptive.

As my son became more confident and self-assured, it was noticeable that he began to socialise better with his peers, and the best example of this is that he began to be invited to more parties.   And we are now presenting some specific ‘suggestions’ as my son is working through important exams.

We have truly found that Goulding Process- SleepTalk® has been a tool that has been easy to fit into our routine and one that has made a huge difference to our family’s life.  There is no doubt that the program is “working”.  When my son said: “Mum, everything has been great since 3 weeks ago!”

He didn’t quite know why it was – but we knew. It was 3 weeks prior to this, that we had started the SleepTalk® program!   We continue to work with this process now and I would highly recommend it to any parent of any child. The results really do speak for themselves.”
Consultant:  Jenny Harrison – UK

 

Nail Bitting – Eating – Education – Calmness.

After 8 weeks of the The Goulding Process- SleepTalk® Foundations Phase was strictly followed everyday alternatively between both parents where huge improvements has taken place as follows: 

Although eating wasn’t a major concern, his eating habits showed obvious improvement. His motor skills has improved massively to the extent that the mother forgot there was this concern in the first place and when I drew her attention she answered that he walks perfectly well and I didn’t notice anything not normal anymore. His basketball coach is complicating his performance now and his ability to achieve goals in the game.

His study and homework time became no problem at all as the mother herself came more relaxed and was able to give choices and empathise with her son with the ability to choose her battles. 

He is doing his homework very well and that put more confidence in the mothers heart toward the capabilities of her son. He became highly confident in class, reporting bullying cases and no more acting out in class. 

Teachers also commented that his is now a happy child. His ability to stay calm become more sustained and he manages very well to control his anger after a very short period of time. His relationship with his parents became stronger and empathetic and his relationship with his little sister is full of lots of play time. 

As the nail biting was clearly a sign of anxiety and before being a habit so I introduced an additional primary statement: Just after one week this statement made a great difference with the parents, especially the father as he was participating in the Goulding Process 0 SleepTalk® regularly and it was healing for him as well.

 The parents also reported stronger bonding with their son, who has starting to express himself more frequent rather than being so introvert and they were glad to talk about emotions and feelings rather than avoiding them.

Consultant: NT – UAE 2017

Home and School Issues.

“Observation of ‘J’ includes he has improved in all areas at home and at school . Parents declined to do another Assessment as they felt just speaking the words from the Foundation programme helped even though it was not consistent.” 

Accredited Consultant & Trainer:  Marilyn Colvin Boon. Qld 2013

Education and Nail Bitting.

“The mother reports that there has been significant overall improvement for ‘Y’.  He is showing more life in his day to day activities. His Maths have improved, he is better in managing his stress from school work without throwing temper at doing difficult Maths.   

There is an improvement in his confidence regarding Study and he has proved to himself that he can do better.  Being able to overcome his carelessness at study has helped to boost his confidence in it. However his writing has declined by 15% but this is due to the new demands at school as they have started writing compositions and he is adjusting to this new demand. 

He has stopped nail biting totally and his day to day happiness has improved by 50%. He is seemingly happier and was able to remain calm and control his emotions, in particularly his anger better. His ability to work alone: Improved by 40%.  

He is learning to do his homework / spelling without supervision.  He is also able to play on his own and take interest in reading his books on his own.  His behaviour towards Parents has improved 30%.  There are less tension over school work and he is now more willing to listen and learn when I teach or guide him through certain issues.  

 

I realised that not only his behaviour is now better towards me, I feel that I no longer get angry with him as often as in the past.  We are now able to talk things out. 

The end results:  I am very pleased with the results.  During this short span of 6 months, many of my pressing concerns were resolved.  Namely nail biting, carelessness with schoolwork, improving focus or concentration at school, being able to sit still at dining table to finish his meals.  My son is now not only able to finish all his food during meal time, he is able to finish his meal with lesser time.”   

Accredited Consultant: Kilyn Liong – Singapore 2018

Heading: School, Behavior and Education.

“The parents feedback is that they can see a substantial difference and ‘P’ is already about 60% more positive going to school. The biggest change seems to be the behavior at school though, where the feedback is that ‘P’ has turned into a very lively student, when before the feedback has often been that she needs to speak up more.

 

Conclusion: The parents both feel the changes with ‘P’ and her feedback is now positive. She goes to her little brother when he cries telling him: “all feelings are ok!” Let’s see what the next couple of weeks will bring but this looks promising to me. 

Trusting the mum’s gut feeling on what the message needs to address payed off again. I loved the fact that mum was looking at the root cause of the effects. The result seems to prove us right. I am happy that ‘P’ found her confidence again.”

Accredited Consultant – Cornelia Dahinten – Zurich 2019

 Physical Issues and Education.

“After completing the mind profile questionnaire, it was great to see that ‘N’ had made improvements over the last 6 weeks.  The parents noted that particularly the negative self-talk had reduced and that ‘N’ was much better at homework now that school has gone back, in fact he was now asking to do homework.  

Working alone is still an issue and  I reminded the parent that ‘N’ now has more skills and they may need to give him the opportunity to use some of them rather than continue to scaffold him to such a great extent.  The parent agreed that this was probably the case and said he would trial giving him some tasks to complete on his own whilst loosely supervising him.

The parent noted an improvement in ‘N’ gross and fine motor skills and there was improvement in his core strength.  His concentration has also improved and this was assisting in his ability to do his school work and homework and he has also been more spontaneous showing affection to his parents.

Primary Area of Need

‘N’ was a lot calmer since the introduction of The Goulding Process- SleepTalk® and his anger was also improving, and his self-esteem had also improved.  The primary area of need for ‘N’ was around managing his anger and associated emotions.  

We felt that if he was able to remain calm and understand what was happening within him, he would be better able to respond to his environment. Suggestions were selected to reinforce the need for ‘N’ to remain calm and to further reinforce that he has the answers within himself

End Result

‘N’ has made great progress with The Goulding Process SleepTalk®.  It’s been a very slow and steady change and his parents are very supportive of the process and they have really noticed the changes within him.  

I feel that ’N’ needs the additional time to full understand and digest the suggestions embedded within the Goulding Process – SleepTalk® but that once he’s taken it on, it will penetrate and resonate quite strongly with him.  His parents expect to continue The Goulding Process – SleepTalk® for some time yet as they feel that we can make some great progress over the next few months and years.

Accredited Consultant: Mary Lynch NSW 2011

Education.

Parents Feedback: “Very positive feedback as ‘A’ has changed school without any problem. He loves his new class. All marks are in the positive range now, great eating habits and he can handle his emotions, stopped nail chewing.

 ‘A’ has moved from a problematic and annoying behaviour pattern to a much more sociable, more patient state in general, with a lot of good feedback from the elementary school teachers. 

The parents are calm now, less stress at home. The process has changed their attitudes too to ‘A’.  They are satisfied with the decision changing school as he is more open and able to communicate his feelings.”

Accredited Consultant and Trainer: Marianne Lampert.  Hungary 2014

Education.

“Despite not completing all areas of this case study, I do believe ‘C’ made progress. Her confidence with doing her homework improved and she was attempting it independently. At school she was more resilient in dealing with things that in the past would have upset her.

 

‘C’ made some good decisions at school, where she asserted herself in a positive confident way. A much more confident and less anxious child than when we started the Goulding Process – SleepTalk® 

Accredited Consultant: Marian Daish – Victoria 2017

Education.

Improvement on learning ability and more loving towards people around and has stop the nail biting and skin tearing issues. He deals separation anxiety better now and can accept the father leaving him for work. 

Sibling rivalry has also improved and the younger daughter is more understanding and negotiable. The mother said it has been very challenging for her to keep up with The Goulding Process SleepTalk® every day. It needs a lot of perseverance and consistent.  

Accredited Consultant Jen Li Soo – Singapore 2018

Education.

Mum is generally very pleased with the signs of progress of ‘A’ in the past few weeks since the Goulding Process – SleepTalk® was introduced. She sees his behaviour changing in the right direction. 

She believes it is a combination of different factors, but believe SleepTalk® is definitely helping.  Mum reports: 

  1. She enjoys very much the experience and it became a good habit for her. Generally, she has been very consistent since the beginning.
  2.   ‘A’ wakes up in the morning in a better mood, not grumpy like before. 
  3. He’s more comfortable in school and doesn’t complain about it anymore. 
  4. Dad did The Goulding Process- SleepTalk® only once as he feels uncomfortable to sit in the dark and talk to his son while seeping, “it doesn’t feel natural”.

My conclusion: The changes seen are great showing The Goulding Process- SleepTalk® has been implemented correctly by the parent and the Foundation Statements accepted by ‘A’. According to the second: Mind Profile document, the primary area of need would be: ‘Academic’ and ‘Confidence’ in general, but Mum is now happy the way “A” is and prefers to continue with Foundation statement for now instead of trying specific suggestions offered. Mum is aware she can come back to me later when she feels starting Level 2.

Accredited Consultant: Maguelonne Rousseau – 2016 – Singapore

Behaviour and Education.

Mum is generally pleased with the signs of progress of ‘L’ in the past few weeks since the Goulding Process – SleepTalk®  was introduced. The process has been implemented correctly and consistently by parents (missed 5 times in total and not even in the row). Mum reports:

1) Even though behaviour is better, she still feels that he lacks empathy towards family and friends and is generally worried about his social behaviour, especially now he’s going to enter primary school.

2) He seems to take frustration and anger a bit better but showed few times signs of being more vengeful (instead of hitting a friend or brother straight away, can control him-self more often but then keep some resentment that shows later).

3) Mum is also doing the process consistently with the little brother since the beginning.

According to the Mind Profile document number 2, the primary areas of need are Behaviour, Academic and Emotional.  We agreed on continuing the Foundation Statements for now and over Christmas period and January, and later starts a specific suggestion chosen in the General section that we have adapted.

Change of attitude regarding his behaviour and positive attitude. Mum is excited to soon start the specific suggestions!

Accredited Consultant: Maguelonne Rousseau – 2016 – Singapore


Eating / Swimming / Separation Anxiety

Consultant – Case history feedback: “The parents loved the idea of the Goulding SleepTalk® process and couldn’t wait to get started!  After reading through the website and literature I had given her, mum felt that this is such an amazing, yet simple program.  They have two sons, ‘J’ and ‘N’.  Dad has his own business and works Monday to Friday and also goes away for work at times, for 1 -2 week stints.  Mum is an extremely organized person who follows through on commitments, so I am looking forward to seeing how their journey progress’.

1st discussion March 2011
Mum feels ‘J’ is too clingy and would like to see him more confident in himself, not necessarily an extrovert though, just himself.  He loves food and will eat anything but relies on mum feed spooning him still.   He will push mums buttons, for example nagging if she is on the phone to get off.  Mum tries not to growl at him but also doesn’t want him to have ‘no boundaries’ either so instead tries to discuss it with him calmly and in a manner that he understands.  Dad was away for the 1st week that SleepTalk® started but was more than willing and happy to implement the process as well.

After a few days, I received this text message from mum: “I had to let you know, it seems that just in the last few days ‘J’ has been happy to do more things without me being right beside him. Today at the park he rode off on his bike with his mate and played without me for ages!!  Oh I hope it keeps up! Xx”

A couple of weeks after I received the first text message, I received the following, “Loving the SleepTalk….and I’m sticking with it, he is responding well”.  Mum was very happy with the process and is very diligent and I feel that she has done wonderfully in that she has picked up on the subtly within his behavior.

May 2011. Feedback regarding his eating habits was very positive so we developed some ‘specific’ suggestions to deal with his confidence and fear of swimming and Mum loved the support suggestions and was looking forward to seeing how he responded to them.  A week later she sent me through the following feedback: “…..we had swimming at 4pm…..and…..NO TEARS!!!!!  He had a ball.  He was back to the old ‘J’ I know and love and he kicked, and he swam and he jumped in off the side like mad!!!  Thanks heaps …I LOVE THIS SLEEPTALK caper!!”

Conclusion: Mum is rapt with this whole process.  She is more than happy to continue and as other issues arise, implement further statements. I feel so blessed to have had the opportunity to work with this family.  Mum is an extremely honest and grounded person and is so impressed with the Goulding process and has no hesitation what so ever recommending it to others, and for her to keep it up for many years to come.  She is very grateful for this “gift” for her son and can see the benefits right in front of her eyes.  The only question she has is: “Why doesn’t every parent do this?”

Consultant – Natalie Oakley – Vic.


Sibling Rivalry

Session 1

Presenting Issue
“J” is a very well balance, outgoing child in most areas but acts up if her brother gets more attention or gets given anything extra from any family member (including extended family).

Detailed Case History
I personally know this family and they have always tried to show equal attention to both children. I believe this is definitely a case “J” establishing her own personality and place within the family. Her brother is very outgoing and plays a lot of sport, participates in a lot of external activities that requires his parents to drive him around and attend these activities with him. “J” feels she is not getting the same amount of attention and this has been confirmed in my conversation with her parents. This behaviour has escalated since “J” started school (this year) and wants more of her parent’s attention when she gets home from school as she doesn’t see them during the day as she used to (had all her mums attention every day whilst “J” was at school).

If “J” needs to go out after school, “J” sulks and storms around the house until she gets attention. She can also become quite boisterous and demanding. “J” will not share anything with “J” and throws tantrums if asked to do so.

If asked if she loves her brother she says yes and will give him cuddles. If they are at home together and they are doing activities like drawing together then they are fine. The main area of concern for “M” and “P” is that “J” needs to realise that her parents love her just as much and that doesn’t change when they have to spend more time with “J” after school as he has a lot of things to do.

Process/Discussion
I explained the SleepTalk Process to “M” and “P”, answered any questions/concerns and then we proceeded to complete “Where Does My Child Stand Now?” (see attached).
The major areas highlighted as Poor or needing improvement were:

  • Behaviour towards sibling
  • Sleeping Habits
  • Sharing with others was good with everyone else but not “J”

“M” and “P” were happy to see how the SleepTalk Process would work but I sensed “P” was a little sceptical.

Session 2 – 28h August 2010

Feedback
“M” and “P” said that they had seen major improvements over the last six weeks. We went through “Where Does My Child Stand Now” and there were not only significant improvements in the areas of focus but also where “J”’s previous rating was good to very good.
Both parents took turns in reading the foundation script each night and noticed that “J” seemed happier in the morning and more responsive to “J”.

  • Has a lot more energy in the morning.
  • “J” has always been a “picky” eater but they have noticed that she is trying a few more things.
  • There is more interest in reading and maths but this could be that she is settling more into school (her first year).
  • “J” seems to be able to concentrate more but this could be as above as she settles into school and homework.
  • “J” and “J” are both very creative and now that she is responding better to “J” they are both spending more time together drawing and “J” has improved substantially as a result.
  • She is sharing more with all family members.
  • She is more accepting of others – seems a lot calmer in relation to all.
  • “J” seems a lot less anxious when her parents need to spend time with “J”; she does not have as many tantrums, is calmer and is generally better behaved.
  • “J” has always had a lot of self-esteem and confidence but this seems to have improved as well (up to 30% improvement)
  • “J” has been staying in her own bed over the last week and has not ventured into the lounge room to sleep during the night.

Primary Area of Need
During this time, “M” and “P” have also done a little research about how they can handle this rivalry better and gave me an article they found on the Raising Children Network (which I am going to send a SleepTalk information kit to).
We had some discussions about the article and then decided to continue with a specific suggestion for the next four-six weeks.

Specific Suggestions Given
We decided to combine three of the suggestions in the book re sibling rivalry:
You’re an important member of the family, we all love you, and you are very special to brother.

 

Session 3 – 2nd October 2010

Feedback
“M” and “P” have seen continuous improvement in the relationship between “J” and “J”. “J” has started art classes and ballet and is enrolling in soccer. With these extra activities she also needs her parents to drive her and pick her up. This seems to have put her on the same footing as “J”.

She no longer throws tantrums, is a lot calmer and has been a lot nicer to be around. “J” now shares with her brother and spends time telling him about what she has been doing each day.
In general family time is stress-free (except for normal family fights). Both “M” and “P” of course have more activities to go to but are enjoying this with both their children now.
“J” has been sleeping in her own bed (probably exhausted with school and extra activities) and “life is good”

End Result

“M” and “P” said that it was a long process and at times was hard work to do every night but would recommend it to other parents and are thankful for all it has done for their family.

 

Asperger’s Syndrome / Anxiety / Nightmares

Session 1

Presenting Issue
“J” is a very anxious child who has a fear of being left behind by his parents. He is also experiencing night tremors, stuttering, nail biting, lack of confidence and is melodramatic and “sooky”.

Detailed Case History
“J” was lost at a carnival a year before and since then does not let his parents out of his sight. If his parents need to go somewhere without him he has an anxiety attack (trouble breathing and panicking).

His parents need to sit with him and explain they will come back each and every day before going to work, before dropping him off at school or to other family members if they need to go out. Even when his parents are in the next room and “J” cannot see them he continually calls out for reassurance that they are still nearby.

This is all becoming a big burden to “J”’s parents but their main concern is school. One of them has to stay at school, stay through assembly and wait around until “J” goes into class. “J” is also very sensitive and is not integrating with others in his class.
“J”’s parents are also concern with his melodramatics e.g. if he knocks his leg then all hell breaks loose even if there is no damage/cut/blood etc.

Process/Discussion
I explained the SleepTalk Process to “S” and “J”, answered any questions/concerns and then we proceeded to complete “Where Does My Child Stand Now?” (see attached).
The major areas highlighted as Very Poor/Poor in this process were:

  • Reading Skills
  • Nail Biting
  • Ability to Remain Calm
  • Ability to Cope Without Parents

“S” and “J” both committed to the SleepTalk Process and couldn’t wait to get home and start.

 

Session 2

Feedback
“S” and “J” were amazed at the change in “J” over a four week period. As we went through “Where Does My Child Stand Now” there were significant improvements in specific areas up to 80%.

“J” had a couple of evenings where he didn’t complete the script, as one evening “J” sat bolt upright in bed and “J” thought he was awake so he just said “I love you” and left the room. Another evening “J” just said “I know, I know” so “J” again said “I love you” and left the room.
Both “S” and “J” have been diligent about working with “J” every night. In four weeks they only missed two evenings.

  • Not experiencing any night tremors
  • School has been fun – he now “loves his friends”
  • No more waiting in assembly line.
  • Happy to say goodbye each morning to go to school.
  • Hasn’t been asking (over the last two weeks), “where are you?”
  • No longer biting his nails – “S” had to actually cut them
  • Is spending longer periods of time alone playing.
  • Has come out of his shell at school and more a leader than a follower.
  • Cut his finger a week ago and did not whine, was not as dramatic and managed to stay calm.
  • Had to leave “J” with his cousin for a day and they were going to go swimming. This would normally be a nightmare but once “S” told him and asked if he would be OK, he said “I’m a bit nervous but I will be OK”

Primary Area of Need
The family is moving to a country town in a month and “J” needs to start a new school. “S” and “J” have discussed this with him and he seems OK but they would like to continue with SleepTalk to ensure that he copes well with this move and fits into his new school with the minimum of anxiety.

Specific Suggestions Given
We all worked together to formulate the following suggestion:
You’re safe, you belong and it’s OK to be you.

 

Session 3

Feedback
This session was completed by phone:
The move has gone well for “J”. He had a reoccurrence of night tremors in the first week but has not had any further occurrences. He has assimilated fantastically at his new school and has made a lot of new friends.

“J” is also enjoying the rural life and loves playing with the farm animals and not worrying about where his parents are at all times.

End Result
“S” and “J” said they will keep using SleepTalk, alternating between the foundation process and their primary suggestion.